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Disheveled Mess Revisited

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Revisiting last night's blog re: the comment about being formerly a "disheveled mess." I have to give my coach a bye on this one because his role in my life is to be the straight shooter. It's nothing I have asked him to do, it is just his natural way.
While being seen by me as a left handed compliment of sorts, it was still kind of a compliment. and in his defense, yeah, I suppose I was a disheveled mess. Sometimes the truth hurts, but sometimes you still have to hear it.

My hubby (of 12 yrs.) is not one for compliments either. The only time I can remember him saying something about my hair (for instance) was when we were dating, and he blurted out, "What have you done with your hair?" in a horrified tone when I came home from the salon. ha ha. (true story).

The best takeaway from this is that all people play different roles in our lives. Some are naturally attuned to changes, and will notice a slight difference in appearance. Others are cheerleaders, or devils' advocates, or just friends...as long as it all comes from a place of respect, it is all good. No harm no foul.

I appreciate my coach's point of view, because he is never going to tell me something just for the sake of saying it. I know that I count on what comes out of his mouth, even if I might balk at it.

I have been taking a very hard look at myself in the last few months, and I have made some significant changes. I continue to improve myself, and my attitude right along with it. I feel like despite obstacles, and some difficult challenges, I am bursting at the seams in happiness, and finding my true self under all these layers again.

I am proud of the progress I've made, and will continue to make. Change is a beautiful thing,
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    1457 days ago
    Yes, change can be so wonderful!

    And as for your coach ... yep, he has to be the straight shooter - It's part of his job. And, LOL, I think we have to look at personal trainers as ARTISTS. I mean, like we are these little lumps of clay and their job is to fashion us into something attractive and lasting (ie, more healthy). My trainer use to laugh when remembering when I first came to the gym and had a hard time lifting a 5 pound weight. Seriously! I kept going for the 2 pound weights! emoticon

    Well, I was weak mess and she gradually transformed me. Anyway, you are definitely a piece of valuable art to your coach and he wants you turn out great just as much as you want yourself to, I'm sure.
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    1458 days ago
  • _KATHY
    Words themselves have different meanings from one person to another. Or at least the emphasis of them. I'm proud of you too :)
    1458 days ago
    oh wow I know the feeling, my dad is terrible with compliments too.
    He constantly asks me "have you lost weight yet?" I say "um..yea dad over 20 lbs already...."
    Then he'll get a weird look on his face "oh..ok that's good" ARGH
    he'll also ask if I'm pregnant because my belly he always thinks I am!! Drives me insane!!
    Anyways I know the feeling but your outlook on it is awesome. Some people are just different and you have to deal with it.
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    1458 days ago
    What an uplifting blog .... so cool that you are happy!!!! When I get my hair done my husband very seldom notices. He isn't being mean, he just doesn't notice details like us women do. LOL Keep up the great work. Again, so proud of you!!
    1458 days ago
    1458 days ago
    My hubby doesn't compliment either and that's OK (now).

    I didn't realize that comment came from your coach. I have to give you a lot of credit - if a coach said that to me I would not go back again.
    1458 days ago
    I love what you wrote.

    My hubby doesn't compliment either... and if I ask him if he likes something, he always says "if you like it, then I like it." I gave up. Then I had a kid. Now, my daughter says "Mom, you have a big butt." She thought that was a compliment. LOL!

    Congratulations on your "improvements" and it sounds like you have a hubby who loves you the way you are. Great job!
    1458 days ago
  • LISA579
    I am glad you are happy with your improvements.
    1458 days ago
    The 'growth' IN you is showing too!!! So glad you are happy!!!
    1458 days ago
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