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"My Little Pony" Bully Debate

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

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Is this a tough issue or what? When I first heard the story on "Good Morning America", my immediate reaction was to take the side of the 9 year old boy being bullied, not only by the bullies but also by the school. But as I have reflected on this story, I'm not so sure.

Let me state this for the record: I do not condone bullying! Period. Where I am having 2nd thoughts is about the mother allowing the boy to take a "My Little Pony" lunchbox to school in the first place. Isn't this just setting this poor kid up for failure? Would it be any different if this kid wore a "Kick Me" t-shirt to school, and then got upset b/c people were kicking him?

As a kid, I was very much into superheroes like Batman and Superman, and in fact my grandmother made me a Superman cape (pretty cool, huh!). And I'm sure I have a picture or two around with me running through the sprinkler in my back yard with said Superman cape on. But what do you supposed would have happened had I wore my Superman cape to school? First off, my mom would have NEVER allowed that to occur. But, if I had, do you supposed I might have been picked on just a bit (this would be in the 1960's, so I think all you boomers know the answer to that question)? OF COURSE I WOULD HAVE!!

So something to think about...just wanted to interject my 2 cents, and hopefully cause some honest and thought provoking discussion on the subject.
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PAPAMIKIE 3/29/2014 7:26PM

    This is nothing like blaming a rape victim. This is a kid who is breaking kit norms. When you break norms people react. That reaction is how change is stimulated. Unfortunately, those who are willing to shake up the norms are going to experience some uncomfortable moments.

I have been on the wrong side of equality for blacks, and woman, and then for equality for white men when people wanted to correct things by discriminating against white men. I once has a new age social worker say to a room full of people it was clear some people needed basic human rights training because I said, "I was against discrimination in the 60 when it was unpopular to support blacks and women, I was still against discrimination when it was being used against white males"

It would be best that we did not have bullies, and that we had a kinder gentler culture, but this will come slowly, it will come with gentle nudges rather than hard pushes.


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PAPAMIKIE 3/29/2014 7:02PM

    When I was growing up I supported things like equality for black and women. A bit radical at the time. In doing it I knew I might set myself up as a target. Mom told me that my hair was too long and i could not go down town with out being on a leash like our curly haired poodle. My older brother wore curlers and a dress in response to someone saying his hair was to long an he looked like a girl or perhaps a queer. Again we know we were setting ourselves up, and were willing to deal with the fallout.

Unfortunately this kid's folks should have prepared him for the reality of what he was doing. Yes bullying is not cool, and we should fight against it, but also we live in a real world. If you are going to stand and change things (and we should) you must be prepared to deal with the likely consequences. If you, as a parent are going to allow your kids to become the target for change you must make sure they are ready and able to deal with it.



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ADKISTLER 3/20/2014 1:44AM

    I agree with the other comments. Bullies will be bullies whatever he takes, wears or acts like at school.

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PUPPYWHISPERS 3/19/2014 6:54PM

    I'm sorry but I respectfully disagree. It's never okay to tell someone to change because of another person's perception of them. And the fact that the school is telling him that he can't bring this to school is just plain wrong. It's like telling a woman she was sexually assaulted because she was dressed provocatively.

When I was in school, girls took Home Ec and boys took Wood Shop. I was a tomboy, and really would have liked to try the Shop class. Today, girls are no longer barred from taking classes they want to take. That makes my heart happy.

It's never okay for one person to tell another person their beliefs, religion, sexual preference, or likes are wrong. It's bullying. The school's responsibility is to protect students from this behavior, not to support the bullies. They are definitely rewarding the bullies and punishing the student. Disappointing.

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MARGARITTM 3/19/2014 4:46PM

    Sorry to the responders ... I have to agree with the blogger on this one.

Yes if the world was perfect sure go ahead but we do not live in a perfect world!! I am not saying do not carry the my little pony lunch box I am saying Hey Mom and Dad ...wake up! There are consequences.....this is a little boy should he have to pay them fr your "high ideals"????


just my opinion

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RHOOK20047 3/19/2014 4:18PM

    I think the boy has the right to have whatever backpack he wants. But by the same token, common sense could have prevented this. Boys will be boys they say and it is true. My lirttlr pony would not be what the populace would accept. As a parent I propably would have let him use the backpack at home or intra-family event but not to school function or with other children his age. I don't condone bullying either, as I was that fat kid that was bullied in grade school, but I learned to adapt as best I could.

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RHOOK20047 3/19/2014 4:18PM

    I think the boy has the right to have whatever backpack he wants. But by the same token, common sense could have prevented this. Boys will be boys they say and it is true. My lirttlr pony would not be what the populace would accept. As a parent I propably would have let him use the backpack at home or intra-family event but not to school function or with other children his age. I don't condone bullying either, as I was that fat kid that was bullied in grade school, but I learned to adapt as best I could.

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FANGFACEKITTY 3/19/2014 3:31PM

    I'm sorry but I cannot agree. His choice may not conform to societal BS "standards" about what kind of lunch box boys "should" carry but to blame him for the bullying is ridiculous. Why do we as a society always want to blame the victims? As his mother pointed out, with that logic, it is a very short leap to blaming a rape victim because she wore a short skirt, or a hate crime victim because he was "obviously" homosexual or "talking black" or any other the other pathetic excuses criminals use to try to justify their actions.

He has every right to carry the lunch box of his choice and expect the school to protect him...not blame him and justify the behavior of the bullies.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 3/19/2014 3:20PM

    This boy had every right to take his backpack to school without fear of bullying. I have nothing profound to contribute, and would have supported my child if he wanted to carry this backpack.

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