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Tuesday, March 11, 2014

I have been on way too many eating disorder pages where all I see is people posting about the problem & nothing about the solution. Post after post after post of people complaining they can’t stop eating… Most folks responding, “It’s OK, tomorrow’s another day”. Yet when I offered the OA solution: Meetings, Sponsor, Steps, Tools & Service, all I’d get was “It’s too hard, back off”. THERE IS NO EASY WAY OUT OF THIS DISEASE—IT TAKES HARD WORK! But certainly beats the alternative… I wanted to start a Facebook group for folks seeking RECOVERY though the 12 Steps. I couldn’t figure out how to start a new group, so my sponsee, Rosie, said she’d help. This is how our group got started.

I struggled my entire life with this disease. I binged, dieted, used drugs/diet pills, exercised & by the time I got here I was still obese. Yet, even with 8 years clean in NA, I still thought I’d be better off dead, than having to live one more day in my fat body or the alternative—give up ANY of my binge foods. Even after getting to OA, I fought it tooth & nail, using all the “cants” I keep hearing about. It took me 2 more years to surrender. I had to turn my will over to someone who knew better than me. I had to be willing to do whatever it took to recover from this—or die. I’ve been abstinent since I surrendered that will.

If I didn’t care about every single person seeking recovery here, I would have never started this group. It had helped a lot of people! I understand the pain we come into recovery with. I’ve been there. But nobody coddled me into recovering. That doesn’t work for an addict. This disease wants us dead! Every single person I speak to, I always ask the same thing, “What are you willing to do to recover?” I don’t believe in “cant”. Can’t get us dead. It isn’t easy administrating this group. If you don’t like my style of “tough love” advice, by all means, please ignore it & continue doing what you’re doing & getting what you’ve gotten. You are certainly welcome to leave & join up with the many other OA groups on Facebook. I hope that works for you. I have helped countless people recover. We are about recovery, not enabling and expect everyone to communicate respectfully and appropriately.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DIANAS 3/14/2014 5:51PM

    I loved this post. But I would also say: go slow. You have to be willing to take certain steps, but not all steps at once. That's what have been keeping me in those cycles for all too long. Now I take baby steps and seem to have imporvement

ANyway, superb post emoticon

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SCAROLINA2015 3/14/2014 10:15AM

  I am guilty of whining too! I'm going to stop and breath before I start whining about something I can change! Thanks! emoticon

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KNYAGENYA 3/13/2014 10:33AM


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JSTETSER 3/12/2014 10:47AM


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EDDYMEESE 3/12/2014 12:48AM

    Glad you are doing so well!

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SHERYLP461 3/11/2014 10:35PM

    When I quit smoking, I told myself throughout the day, I can wait 5 more minutes, just 5 minutes. All day I told myself this. Never did have that cigarette. Seems to me we should be able to control our eating the same way. Going to give it a try myself. Also pretend until you believe then believe until it is true.

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68ANNE 3/11/2014 8:09PM

    You are such a brave and strong woman, no matter what you think, you are awesome!

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LINDAM.1 3/11/2014 7:52PM

  I have 2 dead relatives due specifically to fat. One on diet pills (uppers and downers) surprise a heart attack. Another getting part of her intestine removed (she gained weight on packaged diet food) caught a bug in the hospital and died . Healthy is what I am trying for.

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STITCH4EVER 3/11/2014 3:51PM


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COCK-ROBIN 3/11/2014 3:39PM

    I'm so glad it's getting better for you.

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CETANISTAWI 3/11/2014 2:21PM


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PEGGYO 3/11/2014 1:38PM

    glad you're doing better

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