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just a thought

Friday, March 07, 2014

After some starts and stops, I finally finished reading Women Food and God by Geneen Roth.
www.amazon.com/Women-Foo
d-God-Unexpected-Everythin
g/dp/1416543082


Overall, I found it helpful and thought-provoking. But there was at least one thing that she said that I disagree with. She said (and I'm paraphrasing) that when you eat to avoid feeling unpleasant emotions like sadness, after you eat the sadness is still there, but you've added another layer to your own suffering because now you also have guilt and/or shame about what you ate.

I think that (for me) the guilt/shame is part of the distraction. It's not an unintended consequence. It's the goal. I am reinforcing my belief that I am not worthy of love and that I deserve to be fat and unhappy.
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  • v THINFITFEMINIST
    1st the choice of guilt/fear in the subconscious mind, then projected into conscious thought. then denied, then acted out thru the method of food, then experienced as guilt etc. it all happens very swiftly. you both are correct in your own way.
    810 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/11/2014 11:50:14 AM
  • v TRIANGLE-WOMAN
    emoticon
    812 days ago
  • v SUEPERWOMAN

    Beautiful. I totally agree!
    I am certain that when I get into relationship situations where I am feeling frustrated/unloved/disappointed/dis
    missed that I RUN to the food. And though at the time it seems unconscious, it is definitely intentional in the sense that then I can be so mad and disappointed in MYSELF that it is THE PERFECT distraction.
    813 days ago
  • v OSDOWNS
    Interesting thought.
    813 days ago
  • v 4A-HEALTHY-BMI
    I used to feel that way, too.

    And when bad things happened to me, I'd try and find ways to blame myself for them, either directly, or indirectly.

    I'm really working on that. Even if I did contribute to the situation somehow, heaping guilt on top of it doesn't help me move forward.

    I'm working on practicing forgiveness of myself.
    813 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/8/2014 8:07:47 AM
  • v CHRISTA2016
    Yes, that makes sense. I've had a similar thought. That I overeat so I feel bad about my eating and so I can 'forget' about the initial issue that caused me to feel bad.
    813 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/8/2014 6:40:47 AM
  • v LILMISSRED79
    That's an interesting distinction. I suppose it's one of those things that can vary from person to person, but that's a fantastic gem of insight there. I think I probably do it to reinforce the "I'm not good enough" belief, too, although not consciously of course.

    Thank you so much for sharing! I read a different book by Geneen Roth and found it to be insightful yet terrifying all at once.
    813 days ago
  • v ALIIDA
    I get that. Is articulating it a path to healing? emoticon
    813 days ago
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