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Abstain? Moderate?


Friday, March 07, 2014

Or, something else?














In reference to the following article, I was asked today which I favour: abstaining, or moderation:

Are You an Abstainer or a Moderator?
www.psychologytoday.com/
blog/the-happiness-project
/201210/are-you-abstainer-
or-moderator




Where the process started for me can be read here:

Leaving NORMAL... In Pursuit of Happiness
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=2232914






Yet, I found myself pondering the choices further....

This is a really interesting question... and I'm not sure that I would even espouse Gretchen Rubin's theory... strictly according to the article, indulgence doesn't heighten my pleasure, nor do I panic at the thought of 'never', I don't have trouble stopping once started, and I'm not tempted by things I've decided are off-limits.

I abstain from specific foods for very specific reasons. There are foods that I will never be compelled to eat again because I am now convinced of the harm they do to my body. So, I guess I'm an abstainer.

Yet... I moderate other aspects of nutrition (macronutrients), also for very specifc reasons, and all of my reasons are grounded in what I feel is optimal for my health. So, I guess I'm a moderator.

WAIT! Can I be both? I wonder, is there room in Gretchen Rubin's categorizations for an optimiser, LOL?

Truly, I never think in terms of abstention, or moderation, when I'm eating or with respect to weight management.

I honestly think an abstention/moderation model is an ineffective approach. I also don't think looking at weight/nutrition from the perspective of either abstention or moderation speaks to the actual problem. Both implicitly characterize food (everything, really) as being simply good/bad. I think this is much too simplistic... food isn't the problem.

I've adopted my nutritional plan to promote optimum health.

I believe that excess fat storage is a sign of a broken metabolism (fat is a symptom, not the problem). I fuel my body to heal my metabolism, and every bite is delicious and something to which I look forward to eating... no deprivation involved.

Fat elimination is the happy by-product of taking care of my body so that it can support all I really want out of life.

With respect to food specifically, this article perfectly illustrates what I'm trying to say (regardless of whatever nutritional plan you choose):

How to Say “No” to Yourself
www.marksdailyapple.com/
how-to-say-no-to-yourself/
#axzz2vOF0oiAh


"...remember that you’re not really saying no. You’ve chosen to live this way in order to say yes to many incredible things – yes to good, genuine food. Yes to feeling vibrant, balanced and energetic. We’re masters at creating our own (or buying into others’) sense of scarcity and deprivation and imagining dramatic emotional and social fallout as a result. See all that for the b.s. it is."



SparkCoach Dean, in 'Stop Dieting and Start Living!' said that carrying excess body fat is the result of many unaddressed lifestyle factors:

www.sparkpeople.com/reso
urce/motivation_articles.a
sp?id=620


"Being overweight is usually the result of other problems, not the cause.... You recognize that the primary problem isn’t what you eat, or even how much you eat, but how you eat.... The key to both permanent weight loss and feeling satisfied and happy with yourself and your life is to take personal responsibility for what you can control, and let go of everything else.... One of the best ways you can start the transition from a diet to a lifestyle is by taking on the responsibility to identify the problems you need to work on and gather the info you need."

Dr. Phil McGraw says, "You can't be fat unless you have a lifestyle that supports the weight."


I personally find that the more I chase the life, dreams, health, happiness and relationships I want, the less food matters on any level, and the more my body fat falls into line.

In truth, to eliminate fat effecively and without hardship, I've actually become a glutton for JOY, curiosity, excitement, healthy relationships and health in general.... I guess if a classification were required, I'm a gluttonous optimser, LOL!

The more I answer the question, "who am I?" and live that truth to the fullest, the less I ever consider what the 'rules' are that I must follow to be/live my own answers.

So, I guess I choose something else, and (to quote another endearing maverick) where I'm going, there are no roads... just exuberance!









I pray your Via Dolorosa is blessed... that you arise to new life in whatever way you need it this next Easter Sunday morning! Throughout this Lenten season may the joy and victory of the risen Lord be yours, moment by moment, in a very personal way... may you always be overwhelmed by the grace of God, rather than by the cares of life!

May God abundantly bless you, and those you love, in every way that you require. May he hold you gently in the palm of his hand in a very personal way, and may you rest in the fullness of his love, his grace, his strength, his wisdom, his rescue, his redemption, his healing, his inspiration, his restoration and his mercy as you require it! May you carry in your heart always an extra special awareness of God's great love for you; and as you rise to new life with our Lord and Savior, may you feel his sweet and gentle touch upon your life, and may you see his miracles all around you. I pray in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen!

{{{{{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}}}
Ramona








...Because YOU - your hopes, your dreams, your needs, your desires, you as the architect of your life - are the best reason of all!

JUST DO IT.

UNTIL.





UNTIL. (My 'Just Do It' blog)
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=3541059



'BEFORE' Pictures (May 31, 2009 - September, 2011) & Continuing PROGRESS (February 2012)! Next pictures FEBRUARY 2014!
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=2108514

(I'm now keeping these right under my nose... in addition to being part of every blog I post, they are printed off and taped to my bedroom mirror... and I update whenever I feel the need... to either see for myself what feel like significant changes, or to encourage myself to keep the faith when I feel no change at all despite my efforts)


Measurements, Musings & Motivation to MOVE!
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=2108455

(UPDATED/rewritten: JUNE, 2012)


I've Reached My Goal Weight!!!!!!!
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=2108522

NOTE: My weight tracker is NOT a truthful representation of my weight. Instead, I am using it as a tool to help me visualize my goal as though it's already been achieved!
(Tom Venuto)


DONE Girl Love...
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=3694266

(the footsteps into which I place my own feet)


Why I'm STILL here... my SparkJourney Saga
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=1656330





(quote by CHRISTINE MASON MILLER)
simonemesham.files.wordp
ress.com/2011/06/handwritt
en-journey-life-life-quote
s-path-quote-favim-com-384
50_large1.jpg?w=500&h=334





Words CAN Be Enough... page 3
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=4932741



Paleo... Do you really know what you're talking about?
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=4964697



In Answer to Your Questions (Letter to Our Family Regarding Our Nutritional Plan: RESEARCH LINKS)
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=5484209



Comparison Chart: Primal/Paleo/Ancestral, etc.
www.eat-real-food-paleod
ietitian.com/support-files
/dietcomparisonguide.pdf



What Does It Mean to Be Fat Adapted?
www.marksdailyapple.com/
what-does-it-mean-to-be-fa
t-adapted/



What Does It Mean to Be Fat Adapted? (Part 2)
www.marksdailyapple.com/
what-does-it-mean-to-be-fa
t-adapted-part-2-qa/#axzz2
q1LlNKZ4



Gender Differences in Fat Metabolism
www.marksdailyapple.com/
gender-differences-in-fat-
metabolism/#axzz2q1LwWzrG



Sweeteners - Take a Closer Look!
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=5257764

PDF Comparison Chart of 300 Sweeteners
janeshealthykitchen.com/
wp-content/uploads/2012/08
/300-Sweeteners-8-24-12.pdf



Breakfast is Served! (RECIPES)
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=5018597



Focus on LUNCHES... for school and YOU!
(& parent resources regarding nutrition for children)
www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=5458570





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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
EDDYMEESE 3/12/2014 1:08AM

    You always write the most powerful blogs!

I am definitely an abstainer, but part of my journey here is to learn to moderate!

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CJBAGGINS 3/12/2014 12:10AM

    I am an abstainer. There are things that I will not eat again, simply because it is easier for me to not have the first bite than it is to stop after I begin.

However, I am not saying no to them, I am saying yes to my continued good health and clearheadedness when I steer clear of them.

Those foods that I do not have trouble with in terms of overeating once I start, I eat moderate amounts of.

cj

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AMARILYNH 3/9/2014 12:36PM

    Wow - what an excellent blog! But one I'm going to have to read again when I have more time - its more of a book when I try to absorb all its content! Ramona, your innate understanding of the process is awesome! For myself, I am right now in my 'happy place' with food - I've been following Lyn-Genet Recitas's "The Plan" and am loving what its teaching me about my body!! No abstaining necessary - just listening to what my body is telling me! emoticon emoticon

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CINDYTW 3/9/2014 5:01AM

  I think I have to be an abstainer. I can't really moderate so well on the things I NEED to moderate. I have what people sometimes refer to as an "addictive" personality...or genetics...or whatever it is. The things I have a hard time moderating...will not get better I have to abstain. Whether it is cigarettes or french fries or frozen mango...there are things I CAN"T be reasonable with and those I must just abstain.

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CRAFTSFAN1 3/8/2014 5:12PM

    Some times abstinence is a must, like when quitting smoking or in life threatening circumstances.

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STITCH4EVER 3/8/2014 3:23PM

    I HAVE TO DO TOTAL ABSTINENCE, ONLY IN SOME CASES, IT SIMPLY DOESN'T WORK. YOU CAN'T TOTALLY ABSTAIN FROM FOOD BUT YOU CAN START WITH JUST NOT EATING ANYTHING BETWEEN MEALS. THEN MAYBE LOOK AT HOW MUCH YOU ARE EATING AT YOUR MEALS. THEN LOOK AT THE CONTENT OF THOSE MEALS. I CAN'T EVEN SAY "JUST FOR TODAY I CAN DO THIS". I HAVE TO SAY "JUST UNTIL LUNCH" AND THEN "JUST UNTIL SUPPER" ETC. BUT WHAT I CAN ABSTAIN FROM IS SWEETS AND THAT IS A REAL WEAKNESS FOR ME. WHAT'S YOUR WEAKNESS?
ERIN

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MRSKATEDUVALL 3/8/2014 1:29PM

    I want to be both, abstaining from the things that I believe are bad for me, moderation is all else. great blog today!

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TOKIEMOON 3/7/2014 2:37PM

    I haven't found my 'happy place' yet. I'm eating healthy, but in too large of quantities. The big thing I want to do is to eliminate grains, but I haven't found a satiating replacement. I can only eat so many fruits and veggies. I need some other quick snacks.

Great blog - it really got me thinking!

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_RAMONA 3/7/2014 2:10PM

    Berry, I REALLY appreciate that point: "It takes time for me to REMOVE the ones that someone dumped in my pile that do NOT belong to me."

I think that was a large part of my process, too!

Thanks for sharing!

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BERRY4 3/7/2014 1:40PM

    Still sorting out my puzzle pieces! It takes time for me to REMOVE the ones that someone dumped in my pile that do NOT belong to me. They do NOT fit.

Still learning...!
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