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In Memory of My Dear Friend, Little_Queen


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Tuesday, March 04, 2014




Today is day 2 of my current streak.

I want to tell you about a very special woman who passed away over the weekend. Her Spark name was Little_Queen, but her real name was Lori. I called her Sis.

I originally joined Sparkpeople in 2008, and was overwhelmed. I wasn't sure if I'd fit in here. Believe it or not, I was really shy back then! Lori was one of the first people to add me as a friend, and of course I added her back. I joined a team she was leader of, called Rootin' for Ruby. It was a very small team back then. When Lori asked me to co-lead, I turned her down...a few times! I thought I would be a terrible team leader, but Lori convinced me that I'd do just fine. She was so good at convincing me to think more highly of myself. I knew I could count on Lori to make me feel confident and brave. The shyness went away because Lori was always there to encourage me to believe in myself.



I often say that I am my own hero....but Lori was the one who made that possible. She believed in me and supported me, and always made me feel special. She never stopped encouraging me on my journey, and she celebrated every one of my non-scale victories as if they were her own. I truly did love her as a sister.

"Say not in grief that she is no more, but say in thankfulness that she was.
A death is not the extinguishing of a light, but the putting out of the lamp because the dawn has come."
-Rabindranath Tagore

If you knew Lori, then you were so blessed! And if you didn't know her, I'm sorry you missed out. She was a beautiful person, in every way. I thank God that she was part of my life and that I was part of hers. That is one of my biggest blessings.



Lori and I got to meet in 2010, along with some other dear Spark friends. It was wonderful to meet her in person, and there was no awkwardness at all! We went straight for a big bear hug, and we couldn't stop smiling. We talked as if we'd known each other our entire lives. It was wonderful to spend that day with my Spark sister and team mates!

The group of us went to lunch at a nearby restaurant together. Lori and her daughter rode in my car. At that time, my husband was out of work and we were really struggling. I was hoping that there would be something on the menu that wasn't too expensive for me and my son. Then I noticed Lori slipping something into my purse. It was a twenty dollar bill! She didn't want to embarrass me but she knew I didn't have much money, and she wanted to help. She did this quietly, in the privacy of my car, so that none of our other Spark friends would know. She didn't want accolades or pats on the back for doing something like that. She just wanted to help a friend. I will never forget that, or the many kind things she did for me during the time I knew her. I will never forget HER, or how wonderful and safe it felt to have her as a friend.

There are so many things I wish I could say to her now. I hope she really knew how much I loved her and how much her friendship meant to me. I know I'll see her again someday, though, and I will tell her everything that is in my heart.



PICTURES OF THE RUBY TEAM GET TOGETHER, ANNAPOLIS MD


(From 2010....I was close to my highest weight. I'm wearing the blue jacket. Next to me is Pinknfitcarla, and next to her is Lori.)



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TERRIJ7 6/29/2014 10:42PM

    Anyone who thinks that true friends can't be found on the Internet has never joined Spark People! Thank you for the wonderful tribute to your friend!

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LORIVIOLA 6/13/2014 8:00PM

    Aw. Thanks for sharing your love and gratitude for Lori with us.
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WHITEANGEL4 6/12/2014 1:09AM

    Great times and relationship with that special person

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GRAMPIAN 6/1/2014 5:22AM

  A moving tribute.

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GIMMESPARK 5/15/2014 7:48AM

    You can only have a friend like that if you are a great friend yourself, as your blog shows. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you comfort from your thoughts of Lori and from the kindness and caring of the community that surrounds you.

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NYCALIGIRL 4/3/2014 11:32AM

    This blog touched my heart. Your friend Lori was a beautiful person. Thank you so much for sharing :'(

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BABYLOSTBACK 4/2/2014 4:33PM

    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad she was able to touch your heart and be such a great friend to you. emoticon

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MONIEE2 3/31/2014 10:45PM

    My heart goes out to you, but thank God for the time that you were blessed to spend with her. Gone but NOT forgotten!

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LEANMEAN2 3/26/2014 6:08AM

    So sorry. We each need all of the friends that we can find.

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JANE1216 3/25/2014 4:19PM

    I just learned of Lori's passing and could not believe what I was reading. I haven't been on the Ruby page much lately b/c I'm really working on the Weight Watcher program and have been putting all my spark time there. I had no idea and I'm in a bit of a shock. I had to come right here to your page b/c I knew you would have a blog and you did and it's beautiful Pixie --- and I am so sorry for your loss --- I know you were so close and have been for such a long time. What a beautiful person -- I'm so thankful I had a chance to know her.

Sending my thoughts and prayers to her family. And thinking of you my friend.

Jane

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JUNE1435 3/21/2014 3:16PM

    What a beatiful tribute to your friend. So sorry for your loss.

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SUPERDAD55 3/14/2014 9:38PM

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So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute.

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Our prayers are with you in your time of grief, Keep the faith.

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ANGELN325 3/13/2014 8:09AM

    So sorry for your loss and everyone who knew her. Her Spark will remain with all of you.

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RUTHIEBEAR 3/12/2014 12:16PM

    Lori will be greatly missed. My story is similar to yours. WHen I joined in 2008, Lori was one of my first friends. Through the years she and I cried on each others' shoulders about issue with our DD. She shared her physical struggles with me so I could pray for her. I am blessed to have known her and to have called her my friend. Pixie, I know how much she meant to you. Thank you for sharing the photos. HUGS, my friend.

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NERDLETTE 3/11/2014 7:25AM

    Pixie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. emoticon

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IMEMINE1 3/11/2014 4:51AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. emoticon emoticon

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CAROLJ35 3/10/2014 10:30PM

    Nice tribute to a dear friend who will be missed by so many. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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LIVINHEALTHY9 3/10/2014 9:32PM

    So sorry for your loss.
Lori sounds like she was a wonderful, supportive Spark friend.

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PILLYWIGGIN 3/10/2014 5:25PM

    So sorry to read this Pixie! I remember Little Queen being very encouraging when I was in hospital a couple of years ago - although we hadnt met and I was new to Spark and the P Not P Team. I am glad you have so many happy memories of her to bring you comfort.
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1GROVES2 3/10/2014 10:36AM

    I understand...I have lost 2 very special SP friends. I never met either of them, but they were always there for me, always encouraging.

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MAMA_CD 3/10/2014 4:14AM

    I'm sorry for you loss, and mine too, I never got to meet Lori but it sounds like she was truly a person to aspire to become. May she be dancing in heaven today and one day, we will join her above. emoticon

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WEGENERCS 3/9/2014 10:13PM

    Adding my heartfelt condolences to the others posted here. Your friend helped make you what you have become. What a gift she gave you.

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BKNOCK 3/9/2014 9:59PM

    Sorry for your loss, she sounds like a very special lady!

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FRABBIT 3/9/2014 9:45PM

  So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute.


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CHACHAOREO 3/9/2014 8:34PM

    :o(

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GENRE009 3/9/2014 3:53PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. This was a wonderful tribute to your friend. you were so lucky to have met someone like that. eva

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MISSZIMMS 3/9/2014 3:33PM

    To touch the life of someone else is the greatest gift we can give to anyone....she touched you , made you a better person or maybe she just helped to bring the real you out a little brighter....either way she left her mark on this world through you....you are passing it on to all of us...thank you for that...thank you for introducing us to her....she will live on through you!

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MRSRIGS1 3/9/2014 3:12PM

    Pixie, I am so sorry for your loss. This is a beautiful tribute to Lori. She will always be cheering you on. Through you, you will carry her message and help others as she helped many. emoticon

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CHRISTINEBWD 3/9/2014 4:44AM

    emoticon Pixie you touched my heart by writing about your beloved "Sis" Lori. May all of your wonderful memories of her stay in your heart forever.

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SUPERSYLPH 3/8/2014 8:15PM

    You are such a great friend too for blogging a very nice memorial for her. I have never met her, but I think it did her justice. emoticon

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SUSIEMT 3/8/2014 2:09PM

    Yes, the love you feel for Lori definitely shines through in your blog. If she didn't know it then she knows it now. God bless you and I am so sorry for your loss and the sparkpeople community loss as well!

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NASFKAB 3/7/2014 10:49PM

  sorry for your loss did not khernow have missed out

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SUGARSMOM2 3/7/2014 5:48PM

  yes some people leave a large hole in your heart at their passing . sorry for the loss of this wonderful lady . she will be missed .

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MAGA99 3/7/2014 3:24PM

    she will always be dearly missed
I will never forget her kindness her understnading and her support

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SPECIALGURL7 3/7/2014 2:03PM

    Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. Friends are people we hold so near and dear to our hearts. Bless you at this time.

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RNVICKI 3/7/2014 12:15PM

    want a wonderful tribute to your friend. emoticon

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MILPAM3 3/7/2014 9:22AM

  How sweet. Hopefully, an angel was able to pass on this message. emoticon

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RORYLYONS 3/7/2014 1:56AM

    So sad to hear Lori has passed away...Hugs to you Pixie for your personal loss of a dear Ruby-lite friend. A beautiful tribute to her memory..... emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JENNA54 3/7/2014 12:53AM

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. Thinking of you especially now.

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WAXINGTURTLE 3/6/2014 11:55PM

    I know there are no words to take away your pain. But I do know that by sharing this, those of us who never met Lori, have gotten a glimpse of her heart. She will be with you and all of us now, forever.
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LINDA! 3/6/2014 11:50PM

    I am very sorry to hear of the passing of Lori. emoticon

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BETRHO48 3/6/2014 11:38PM

    emoticon So sorry to read of your friend's passing. We don't get many friends like that in life.
I can tell you feel blessed to have had her support.
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BUCS1221 3/6/2014 8:38PM

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend on spark people. may God give you peace as you go through this time of grieving. This show that we never know the lives we may touch or who may inspired us through our journey. I am so glad that you got to meet her in person and this was a wonderful post too. My prayers are with you!!!
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May your heart find healing in cherished memories.

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