Friday, February 28, 2014
A month ago my 31-year old nephew came out to me. He also told my older brother and his own parents. His mother, my sister, did not take it well and they have not spoken since. I have met his partner and they are good together. I know Jason has been looking for someone to share his life and he has found someone who shares the same interest in travel and adventure. I feel happy for him. And to be honest, I was not surprised when he told me.
This weekend my family is planning a big dinner to be held at our house. I wanted Jason to come and bring his SO so others can met him. To me he is now part of the whole family. Jason is still under the assumption that the rest of the family will respond like his mother did. I've told him over and over that I doubt anyone will care. He is still the same person we've loved for 31 years so why would anything change. Anyway he won't come until I talk with my sister Sue and break it to her. She is his 'testing ground' for how the rest of the family will respond. This puts a lot of pressure on me. Why do I have to deliver the news? How does one even bring up the subject?
Sue and I are going to an auction together tomorrow morning. The dinner is Sunday afternoon. I think tomorrow will be a good time. We discuss all sorts of stuff at auctions. People watch, have a good time. I think I can do it. I also think she won't give a rat's patootie either. But I will do this because I know it is important to him and I want our family to go on being the wonderful family we always have been.
It is weird, when I met his SO I could hear my mother's voice in my head - "What's the big deal? It's like getting another grandson for free." Yup, I'm getting another nephew for free.