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Friday, February 28, 2014

Thank goodness it is Friday. I post that in huddles on Friday, and I say it sometimes. It doesn't really mean anything to me. Friday is just a name for another day. I understand that for many people it means the end of the work week. I am disabled and don't work. I am home 24/7. It has been pointed out to me almost on a daily basis that is my choice. emoticon to a certain extent. I can volunteer, really? I have tried. It is almost as hard as getting a job. You would think it is easy, after all it is free help for whoever you want to volunteer for. That use to be the case but not anymore. This is particularly true if you want to work with children. When the weather turns warmer, I am going to try again. I will try at the Hospital for Special Care where I go to the pool. I said I didn't want to volunteer there because I didn't want to get attached to anyone and have them die. That would throw me for a tailspin. I remember when my friend Debbie's grandmother died. I still miss her terribly. We did alot together. She became my Grandma. I was talking about her one day to my Mom and I said Grandma and she said you never did that with Grandma and when I told her Debbie's grandma she said "That wasn't your grandmother". She was annoyed. But she was, my real grandma, my Mom's Mom died when I was 13, she had 72 grandchildren 19 great grandchildren and 4 great grandchildren. She knew who we were because we saw her all the time but we just visited her, I didn't do things with her. I do miss her terribly though, and her death really affected me. We do talk about her alot. "I am going to give you holy hannah she use to say." Everyone said she was a saint and I can remember staring at her when I was little looking for those wings. emoticon She caught me a couple times. emoticon

I am on disability and that is really a fixed income. There aren't many things you can do. Yes, I can go to the mall, I can go shopping, but I can't afford to buy anything so what fun is it. It is just a tease and depresses me. I can't go to the Friday night single dances, the movies, the bars(not that I would anyway)bowling, you get the drift. The point of this. My friend said I don't get out to meet people. How can I? It takes $$$$. I would like to. I only have one friend, Gary. We do some things together, but we aren't a couple. That was 15 years ago and water under the bridge. Never again, it wouldn't work, didn't then, never will. He has been married and divorced since then. Do I love him, with all my heart, but not that way.

I wrote a blog on hump day. Just another day. Friday just another day. The weekend, just more days. I have a goal this year to change that. In January I think I mentioned I want to make more friends in real life and start having a life. I am tired of existing. My plan of action will start with a volunteer job. That will get me out of the house for a couple hours a week. If you have any ideas that are free or cheap, please leave them. emoticon

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GOAL_IS_170 3/1/2014 2:27PM


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L*I*T*A* 3/1/2014 11:52AM

    many great ideas here to choose from......
find a cause close to your heart and offer to volunteer......
all the best........
blessings and hugs..........lita

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MRS_TOAD 3/1/2014 9:50AM

    Another great place to volunteer is at your local animal shelter where they are always in need of people to socialize their animals.
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NEW-CAZ 3/1/2014 4:02AM

    If you go for volunteering consider a local theatre! Our local one needs people for duties in the cafe/restaurant, cloakroom and ticket office and for props, or helping people to their seats.

They also do fundraising to keep the old theatre in good repair if your talents lie in that direction!

Just get to volunteer (put something back) and get to see shows for free and meet people.

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LIVEDAILY 3/1/2014 3:58AM

    Think about what you like to do. Make a list. Work from that list. Do you like to read? Call your local library and ask about volunteering. Join a book group. Do you like young children? Many local preschools would love a volunteer to help with set up and material readiness. Have you thought about joining a church? They always have a multitude of activities going on. Mine (a congregational church) has book groups, a restaurant hop, dinner groups, volunteers at the local soup kitchen, and many other outreach activities. All of these are ways to belong to a group of like-minded folk and a way to meet people and get involved. Spend some time exploring your options and make some phone calls. You'll find something that you'll love doing!

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123ELAINE456 3/1/2014 12:43AM

  Check with your Medical Insurance to see if you have a Free Membership to a Gym like mine has. Also a Senior Center would be a good place to meet people. Helping at a Homeless Shelter. How about the Human Society for dogs cats and other animals. Helping at your local Food Panty. This gives you a lot of things to check out and do. Let me know how things go. I'm home 24/7 too. We are in the same situation. I'm dealing with a lot of Medicals like 5 Heart Attacks, LVOI and other issues. I'm in the process of getting a Motorized Wheelchair now. So maybe I can start getting some too. God Blessings Always. Have a Wonderful Week. Spark On!!! Check out school too.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/28/2014 8:06PM

    Wish I had ideas for you, but a wishing you happiness, Bonnie. You deserve that. HUGS

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WORLDSERIES11 2/28/2014 4:28PM

    Do you have a local Senior Citizens Center? I know the one in my town offers lots of free activities and gatherings. Someone also mentioned Book Clubs at the local library, since you like to read that could be a great activity for you. Good luck with the volunteering, hope it works out!
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POUTINGPEGGY 2/28/2014 2:25PM

    Thank you for the goodie. It was very thoughtful I am a volunteer governor in my local school, but what I really want to do is reading with the children, I don't like all the meetings that you have to go to. Volunteering is a great way to meet people. I used to manage volunteers. It has got much harder now than it used to be. Why don't you try volunteering with adults rather than children, then you will meet more grown up people.

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TOKIEMOON 2/28/2014 1:50PM

    Do you have transportation? Going to the mall (before store opening time) is a way to meet mall walkers and get in a change of scenery and exercise.

Wishing you a pleasant weekend. emoticon I think those of us in cold weather climates will all feel better when the weather finally warms up.

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ADARKARA 2/28/2014 1:42PM

    Do you like to read? You can join a book club hosted by your local library. emoticon

Friday is just another day to me, too, since I work Tuesday through Saturday.

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LUCKYDUCK2 2/28/2014 1:25PM

    I too am disabled. I also felt as if I was watching life pass me by just outside my windows and it was hard because I had always been so busy and had my own business before the accident. One day, I started looking at the talents I had...and decided to start a business again out of my home.

You too have special talents. Look deep and find them. GOD has endowed all of us with skills and abilities. Can you contact any daycares and see if they would like someone to come in and read to children or help with with crafts? How about setting up at a Library and starting a story hour for children.

Sending you a hug. I know being disabled is not easy and neither is a fixed income.

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JANTHEBLONDE 2/28/2014 12:52PM

    I'm sorry I don't have any ideas for you! Thanks for sharing! Sending you a beautiful red rose today!

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