Disclaimer: This blog is going to contain a no nonsense approach. This blog is NOT for the sensitive or the faint of heart! I am going to tell it like it is, and how I feel about things. This is not a sweet uplifting blog, this is a "wake up and smell the coffee" kind of blog. I will also say that this may not pertain to many of you, and for that I am thankful.
I am going to start by saying that we all struggle, we all have our ups and downs and that is a part of life. I am not talking about the little slip ups, or the brief week or month where we fall down and wait a little longer to pick ourselves back up. I am talking about the people that are consistently on Spark, not doing the work, and then playing the victim. You have to
I say that not to be an epic pain in the rear, but because I want you to reach your goals. I used to be one of those people, in fact, I used to blame my family for my weight problem. "Well if they didn't always pick up fast food for or always take me out dinner, I wouldn't be so fat!" In fact, I was convinced that as soon as I moved out, the weight would just start melting off of me because I was away from "the problem". Boy was that wrong! I gained even more weight and even though I lived alone I brought unhealthy foods in the house, and I continued the fast food habit daily. It was a huge reality check for me, I am in charge of my choices, and I can't blame anyone else for my problems.
Seriously, no one can do it for you! I read a blog recently, and they asked a very innocent and interesting question. It was something about "what is wrong with those of us that CAN'T lose the weight?" That really made me think about things. When I came back and committed to Spark in 2012, I found these "Spark Superstars" that I really looked up to. At the time, they had lost a ton of weight and were doing amazing (and still are). Not to put them on the spot, but two of my weight loss heroes back then and still to this day are CHICAT63 and TRACY31502. I have found so many amazing role models since then, too many to list them all but ADARKARA and BESSHAILE come to mind... But the first two I had connected with "way back then", and inspired me to get started (for the 183902 time!). I thought to myself that there must be something different about them. I mean they must have some super power or super secret to have lost that much weight, right? Well it took me quite a bit, and then I realized that I was wrong. I will not speak for them, their stories speak for themselves, but what I learned about most of my "weight loss heroes" was actually quite amazing.
I learned that:
They had "failed" at weight loss in the past.
Many of them had tried different approaches, and things that didn't work.
None of them lost their weight in one straight shot, where they consistently lost weight each week.
Many of them had gained back at least a small amount of weight at some point.
They had fallen down and felt defeated some time during their weight loss journey.
I found out that they weren't perfect! They were human, just like me. They had a weight problem for a long time, just like me. They had failed in the past, just like me. But the thing that was different about them, is that they were not giving up and they were doing the work! They were consistently doing what worked for them, and that is why the weight was coming off. They had the right attitude, they had the right plan (that was specific to them) and more days than not they were successful. When they fell down they got back up and kept moving forward. To the rest of us watching it might have looked like they dropped 50 or 100+ pounds almost effortlessly... but if you talk to them you will see it took a lot of time and hard work.
We can't wish for this to happen. If wishing made us skinny, I'd be a size 2.
I will also say as fabulous as Spark is, just logging in and spinning the wheel isn't going to get the pounds off of you.
Spark is a great place and it is a huge part of my "success" this far, and I couldn't do without it, but sitting around talking to you fabulous people all day (as fun as it is), isn't taking the weight off me. It's what I do with this site and how I use the tools that does it. It is planning and tracking all of my food. It is getting off my tushy and getting in a walk with my Sparky.
It is eating my planned food and not eating a double cheeseburger when I'd really prefer the double cheeseburger. You have to do the work!
Now do you see why I have my disclaimer? I am feisty today, RAWR!
And the reason I am in such a feisty mood is because I am sick and tired of reading the same thing from Sparkers for YEARS that have yet to make any progress. Now that sounds mean, but I don't mean it in a bad way. It upsets me because I am emotionally invested in so many of you, and I want nothing more than to see you ALL succeed and reach your goals. On top of that, if I am emotionally invested in you, that means that I see your strength and I know that you have it in you to get this done. It kills me when I feel like you deserve to lose this weight and I know you can do it, and yet you can't see it for yourselves. Again, this does not apply to the majority of you, and many of you are doing fabulously day in and day out. Whether you have been struggling, doing well, gaining weight or losing weight, I am proud of all of you for being here.
But I just want everyone to believe in themselves and know that there is nothing different about the people that are "successful" at weight loss and the ones that can't seem to get it right. You just have to do the work, stay consistent as much as you can, and get right back up when you fall down.
That is the end of my rant, and we will be back to our regularly scheduled programming (blogs) shortly. If you made it this far, thank you, and I hope I have not upset anyone with my passionate words. I wouldn't be so passionate about it if I didn't truly care for all of you and want to see you succeed!