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Yeah I finally closed on the Grant to rebuild my house!

Saturday, February 22, 2014

It has been 16 months since Sandy and most of us in NJ are still not back in our houses. After 3 attempts to close for this Grant I finally signed the papers. It has been very stressful because they keep changing the terms. First I was allowed to use my own contractor and now I am being kind of held hostage to use their chosen contractor.

If I use my own contractor who I have known and trusted for well over 10 years I am not eligible to have an extra $15,000 available to me for all of the permits I have to have obtain to rebuild the house, architect' s fees, survey, elevation report, etc. I also would not have access to an additional $18,000 in funds in case they find something else that needs to be taken care of or if builder goes over budget. You know my luck in the past, this is something I need if something goes wrong.

I had many conversations with my contractor on what to do. Stay with him and know the rebuilding will be done correctly without cutting corners or go with the State. He said could rebuild the house from the amount of insurance money plus the Grant money minus the extra $15,000 I would not be receiving. He could manage to pay for the permits and the architects plans if I choose to keep the floor plan the same with the amount they would give me. He asked that I give him a few days to make some calls.

He made many phone calls to builders he knew that were not on RREM's approved list. These are quality builders but every single one of them that are rebuilding homes for the RREM Grant funds are being failed 2 and 3 times. Boyd says he knows their work and it should not be happening. He said in my best interest I should go with the state builders. He believes he can still do it at budget but knows it will be one huge headache of fighting back and forth. He also knows that my mental state of mind could not handle that. Yes, that is how well I know him. He knows all of the hoops they have been making me jump through. He knows that I am still going to PTSD counseling.

So I signed to go with the Grant agreeing to use the RREM's builders. He said he would go with me inspect the work as it is being done so they can't cut corners on my house. What a great guy!

So after I signed I asked when can we start rebuilding. Much to my dismay we are still months away. There are additional meetings that have to take place first. One of which is I need to meet and sit down with the General Contractor RREM has assigned me. Guess where they are located - in Maryland. Not NJ but Maryland. I will end this blog here because I am getting too upset.
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  • TEDYBEAR2838
    Makes me sick just reading it!

    How Absurd & how stupid. That's government for you.
    Can you imagine them handling our Health Care!
    1461 days ago
    OH Yvonne,

    It's just a mess regardless. I know this is better then still waiting so look at it that way there is some relief and what a guy of a contractor to help you out still regardless.

    Light at the end of the tunnel? possibly so let's be positive shall we.

    You are strong and don't ever say you are not, this is proof it's going to get better.

    Hang in there and where behind you 100%.


    1462 days ago
    emoticon I wish I had comforting words of wisdom for you. The only thing I can say is to take some deep breaths and don't give up. You are strong, smart and have a great support system. It will all work out in the end, and if it isn't worked out, it isn't the end. That quote was in the movie "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel". Loved that movie! emoticon
    1462 days ago
    One more step forward . . . . I shouldn't be surprised at the amount of red-tape you're going through (it's a government job, after all) but it still amazes me to read about all the nonsense they expect of you.

    What a blessing to have a contractor on your side to double-check what the others will be doing.

    Have a peaceful Sunday, filled with all the good things you deserve!!

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    1463 days ago
    so glad you are on your way to rebuilding!
    1463 days ago
    Boyd is in your corner - hallelujah!
    1463 days ago
    That is such great news for you. I'm so happy that you are starting to see things happening.
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    Comment edited on: 2/22/2014 7:52:59 PM
    Oh no well there is some progress. You are one of the most patient persons that I know. Hang in there God has something wonderful for you to reward you for all you have been thru. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1463 days ago
  • WILLOW49
    I guess this is good news, but look what you have been through and still have to go through. You have a good guy in Boyd. So glad he is willing to help where he can.

    Stay strong, take one day at a time.
    1463 days ago
    Such a violation. Such a travesty that not only did Mother Nature hand you a life shattering blow by destroying your home, but now the red tape beaurocracy has stepped in, but this is some progress and it looks like some action will begin to happen. I'm so sorry for everything that you've been through. I don't understand why we are given such blows that are unbearable to handle. When people tell you that you are strong and can handle it or that God doesn't give us more than we can handle, that to me is an invalidation of all the things that you have barely been able to handle because its just TOO freaking much for anyone to have to endure. I'm glad that you are speaking to someone, and that you have the support of many.

    It's going to finally be warmer, today. Please just step outside and breath in some fresh air and get at least 15 minutes of sunshine on your beautiful face. emoticon
    1463 days ago
    You have been through h@ll. It is so unfair! I pray you have a lovely house ASAP! Picture yourself in your new house. Hmmm??? What are you doing in that new house? Please try to let go and let God. We will be praying for you all through tis part of the process. emoticon

    1463 days ago
    I am so glad there is progress, but sorry it is still causing you trouble. Odd that they would use out of state contractors, when NJ needs the work.
    Keep your head up high and so glad you have such a good friend who is there for you.

    Hugs and smiles
    1463 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    am so sorry this is taken soo long.......
    what a journey there must have book in this somewhere!!
    worth considering as it would help others going through similar circumstances!!!
    hoping and praying all goes well for you.....
    blessings and hugs.......lita

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    Comment edited on: 2/22/2014 11:25:40 AM
    What deceit! I'm so sorry. I wish your story and the similar experiences from others could be made public. I know that this will pass...but I hurt for you! Prayers. I care. .
    1463 days ago
    God continue to bless you and put honest friends in your life to help you through!
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    1463 days ago
    I am sorry it's slow, but it is progress. It sounds like your builder is a great guy!
    1463 days ago
  • ERIN1957
    My prayers are with you sweetie I pray that this will go smoothly for you God bless and take care take a deep breath and let others help you
    soon enough you will be happy at home and healthy living your dream again soon enough this will all be over and you will be safe in your own home again big hugs
    Sorry I am using my phone to send you this message
    1463 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    FINALLY some action emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1463 days ago
    I am with New-Caz on this, as it is progress. I know about PTSD and I know that the unfamiliar is something that can upset us, so think in the positive and know that all things will work towards the good. Think about the final outcome when you can move back in and have your own space and things as you want it. Take a moment to see the good and know that Boyd is right there with you and that is worth so much more than the angst. Much love emoticon emoticon
    1463 days ago
  • JAROL7
    YAY ... what a journey!
    1463 days ago
    Im glad your making progress tho slow! i wished you could use your builder ! it doesnt seem right ya cant ! You have a good guy helping you along! Blessings and stay Positive! HUGS, BONNIE YAY! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1463 days ago
    It's progress Yvonne, which ever way you look at it. Slow yes, but you're getting there.
    You are one amazing lady to have gone through so much, it's turning the corner , hang in there just a little longer and keep positive emoticon emoticon
    1463 days ago
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