It's All a Balancing Act
Monday, February 17, 2014
When I weighed myself this morning, I was kind of amazed that I had lost again. I couldn't quite figure out how that happened as I did very little exercise this weekend. Then I started thinking about others things and realized, "It's all a balancing act."
Everything we do is a balancing act. We have to balance out too much exercise with too little exercise and figure out what works for us. I was exercising 7 days a week non stop and going about 40 - 80 minutes each time. Always pushing on the treadmill. I started getting really sore and realized that it just wasn't working for me. For the last two weeks, I have worked at changing things up. Some days, I still do the treadmill. Other days, I do Exerbeat or I do Leslie Sansone. I really pushed myself for those 10k steps per day and my heels really started hurting.
I realized I couldn't keep doing that. So now I try to take a day off on the weekend and take it easy on the other day. I am learning to listen to what my body is saying. Not an easy thing to do. We keep thinking we have to push ourselves to our limit every day and that is just not healthy.
The balancing act is also part of our eating. Eat too many calories and you put on weight. Eat too few calories and you don't lose weight as body goes into protection mode. I have been changing things up there too. Some days, I have stayed at 1,000 calories or below. Other days, I have gone close to 2,000 calories. One day I will just have turkey and fish. One day I will have a couple of slices of pizza with a couple of glasses of wine. Again, it is all a balancing act. The tough part is figuring out the correct balance for you!
The balancing act is also involved in my family life. Those of you who have known me all these years know that my siblings disowned me the day my mother passed away. That will be 2 years this summer. I haven't heard from any of them. It took me a long time with the help of my husband, my children, my close friends and my spark friends to realize that I couldn't change them. I finally got over it. It was their loss not mine. I spent many nights crying and wanting to pick up the phone to call my one sister whom I always thought I was close to until I realized she just wanted me for her own ego.
I have been ok with it now for the last 8 months or so. Then, on Saturday, I get a message from my mother's sister, my aunt, who wanted to let me know that my nephew and his wife had a baby and named her after my mother. I started thinking about this and I decided I needed to keep the equal balance in my life. Why did I really need to know this? Why did she think this would affect my life? This was the same nephew who threatened me with a restraining order years ago. This was the same nephew who sent me nasty emails. Then I decided that I was going to keep the balance in my life and just not respond.
Had my aunt just called to say "hi" or how are you or something like that, I would have responded to her immediately. But, I realized she was just trying to stir the pot and I am not having my pot stirred anymore. I have reached a balance in my life of who the important people are and that there are certain things that are and I can't change them, so I have to accept them and stick to what is really important to me. That would be my husband and my children.
My balancing act also has become a part of my work life. Believe it or not, I actually turned my phone off at dinner one night this weekend. That is until I checked messages and one of my deals is going South. That one I expected to go south. I knew it was a bad offer. The Relocation Company wouldn't listen to me and accepted it. I am not going to go nuts about it. I can't change it. I have to accept it. I really discovered the balancing act with work last Sunday with the idiot that wrote the offer and then backed out.
I realized that I am very good at what I do. I have set parameters for people I show houses to. I have to do that to make sure my balancing act works. I'm not going to jump every time a buyer wants to see a house in one day. I have learned that my instincts are normally right and I am going to trust them. They haven't let me down.
No matter what our goals are or what is happening in our lives, we have to remember It's All A Balancing Act...