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Valentine's Day

Sunday, February 16, 2014

On Thursday before I left for work, I put my boyfriend's Valentine's Day gift on his end table. I didn't really get him much, just a card and a box of his favorite chocolate covered pretzels from a local candy shop.

On Valentine's Day I woke up and went over to his room and we decided to go out for lunch. He didn't mention anything about Valentine's Day, but I didn't think much of it. We went out to lunch at Wendy's and stopped at the auto parts store. When we got home, we sat in the living room and he got his gift and opened it. I could tell that he was pleased that I got him his favorite candy.

He then looked at me and said "I don't have anything for you"

I kind of thought he was joking but then looking at his face I know he wasn't. In what seemed like slow motion, I felt my eyes fill up with tears. I look at him and said "I gave you a list" which I did. I wrote a list of everything I wanted.

He said "I don't know what any of that stuff is"
I said " you don't know what a gift card is"?
He said "I don't know where you shop"

I didn't even know what to say... I guess it would have been too hard to call my mom or my best friend and ask?

I started bawling. I am not a crier. In fact, I can't remember the last time I cried. I started to sob. When he tried to hug me, I told him to get away from me.

When I got to work that night, it was all I could do to keep it together. I was so upset. In fact, I am still upset.

The good news is, my best friend bought me a hoodie and her daughter also bought me a gift which I get on Wednesday. Also, the shop foreman got me a hello kitty tea cup and a few of the mechanics gave me Hershey Kisses.

Ugh, i can't wait to take this all out at PC Fit
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  • HINK2013
    :( that's a bummer....

    my husband and i aren't big into celebrating valentines day, but we usually at least get each other a card at the very least..... It's hard to imagine that he couldn't even manage to buy you a card :-(


    1436 days ago
  • PATTYR81
    My DH & I had this conflict for YEARS!

    I grew up in a family that wasn't big on giving gifts. DH grew up in a family where gift giving was/is an art and total expression of friendship/love.

    I just didn't get it until I read a book called something like 'Love Languages'. My LL is service/cooking/ affirmations in words. I do those things for my dear ones and mean the most when they do them for me. DH's LL is giving stuff. It used to embarrass me greatly to get that 'stuff', the more expensive it was, the more embarrassed I got. (self worth issues, I suppose....)

    This may sound weird but it was a HUGE struggle for me to train myself to buy a card/gift for occasions other than b-day & Xmas.

    What is your boyfriend's love language?

    1436 days ago
    That sucks. I think the biggest disappointment was that you gave him a list. Really, he couldn't get you something to a generic store like a Target or a Walmart or somewhere that you go? Very frustrating, I'm sorry that happened. Sometimes men just don't get it. emoticon
    1437 days ago
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