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Towards Motivation and the Magenta Dress

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

When I started working with a personal trainer I had a lot of weight to lose. I was highly motivated. But as the pounds came off I became increasingly more comfortable in my own skin. As my weight loss slowed, my trainer asked me what was motivating me to continue to lose weight. I told him that it was the same as before: I want to lose excess weight. His reply was that my “away from” motivation was no longer strong enough to overcome the much more comfortable state I was living in. He suggested I choose a “towards” motivation so, combined with my “away from” motivation, I would once again be spurred on to reach my weight-loss goals.

Just that morning, on the way to the gym, I passed my favorite clothing store and noticed a fabulous magenta dress in the display window. Now, by favorite clothing store I don’t mean one I shop in often. In fact, my size was larger than their largest size so, although I love the store’s merchandise, I simply stood outside and pined over all the beautiful clothes I couldn’t wear. Fitting into that magenta dress became my “towards” motivation. I took a picture of the dress and placed it on my fridge.

That specific magenta dress was eventually removed from display and sold, but I kept the photo up for what it stood for…one day fitting into a smart dress from my favorite shop. That photo seems to have been on my fridge for so long that I scarcely notice it anymore, but today I did. And I realized that I was there! I can go into that shop now and try on anything I like. I took a moment to pat myself on the back and, WOW, did that feel good!

Without realizing it I had reached my goal and moved on to a new “towards” motivator: running a 10K. I’m training for a summer run now, and expect to be ready on race day. I have a training schedule and, for the most part, am sticking to it. So today, as I noticed that photo of the magenta dress, I realized that it now represents not where I’m going but where I’ve been. I remember dreaming of a day when I could fit into the dress. It took a lot of time and effort, but it is no longer my dream; it is my reality.

Although the photo is no longer an image of something I am working towards, it is going to stay right where it is as a reminder of what I’ve achieved.

I hope your “towards” motivator soon becomes a milestone to remember.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ODDLASS 4/5/2015 4:20AM

    I will be there one day! Thank yo for sharing your success, and congratulations on maintaining!! (I have just seen your fitness minutes on the Yorkshire page)

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CEEJAYLO 3/16/2014 11:30AM

    Pure inspiration and a lot of good old common sense.... Thank you Sherry emoticon

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SEATTLE58ANEW 2/11/2014 2:44PM

    Wow girl, you have done so good and are doing so good too, I have to say that I'm so proud of you for all your striving to better yourself!! emoticon You'll have to post a picture of your darling little dress for all of us to see that you've done it and you're in it!!! For a couple of years since starting this weight loss, I want to be in a size 12, a comfortable size 12 and not a tight, bursting the seams, size 12! emoticon I've had a darling size 12 outfit hanging up for a long, long time and have taken it down because it doesn't help my motivation any more. So I have another outfit that I can choose from a closet full of things that are too small now. I've collected size 12 gorgeous, dresses, skirts, jackets, etc., all in size 12 or smaller, from nice 2nd hand stores. And yes, I will get into them one day! Thanks for the inspiration!! emoticon Karen

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MINIUM 2/11/2014 2:08PM

    I love it!!! I'm so pleased to hear of your progress and your new towards motivation!
As to me, a little black dress wouldn't hurt... and being able to run a 5k under 30 minutes... and running the steep hill of the Paris-Versailles in a flash... and being overall, finally, happy to be in this body of mine.
Thank you so much for sharing!

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DARLENEK04 2/11/2014 1:43PM

    Awesome idea....I have an outfit I want to wear on my birthday
in May. I am so close to goal....but have been stuck here for
more than 6 months....I lost my momentum when my husbands
mother had a stroke and was in hospital and then nursing care
for 2 months...

I feel like your post was put here to kick me back on to schedule.

Thanks chick and you are looking super....are you going to find
another dress and buy it?????


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