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If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten.

Sunday, February 09, 2014

There are certain ideas that get repeated over and over again on Spark, and not just here, all over the reputable health and nutrition sites and magazines. You have to eat a variety of healthy and nutritious foods and stay within a range of calories that is less than the amount of calories you expend. You need to track what you eat in some way, either in an online format or by journaling. You need to engage in some sort of exercise.

It is not rocket science, is it?

Actually doing them is hard, but in theory they are pretty simple rules. So it always amazes me when I read the message boards and see how many people believe that there is some way around them. So many people ask for advice that they really don't want. What they want is to be validated for making poor choices instead of doing what they know they need to do. I sort of talked about this in an earlier blog, Can't vs. Don't. It's not that you can't eat vegetables, make time to go to the gym, not eat fast food, it's that you DON'T eat vegetables, make time to go to the gym, not eat fast food. Which is totally fine, your body is your body--you can use it and fuel it however you see fit. But don't expect to be validated for your poor choices.

A lot of people post on the boards something like "I don't like to exercise, how do you make yourself like exercise?" and they will get a variety of responses from "Who cares if you like it? You don't like brushing your teeth either, but you do it because you need to." to heartfelt discussions about trying different activities like dancing, or just going for a walk. Almost invariably the original poster, or in some cases, another poster with a similar mindset will respond with, "No, you don't understand, I can't exercise" "I can't swim and it's too cold for walking outside and it's too far to the gym and I don't have a sitter for my kids and...." And you realize at some point that these people want to be told that it is ok for them not to exercise, that yes, in order to be healthy we need to move our bodies, but because they don't want to sweat, they don't have to, and here, you don't like vegetables, have a Snickers while you are sitting there watching The Biggest Loser and wishing that you could be thin too.

If there was a way to get in shape eating Snickers bars and sitting on the couch, I would be all over it, but there isn't.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:

    emoticon I am guilty of the things you mentioned and I agree that it's gotten me no where... I need to stop the excuses and just do it!

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SMILINGTREE 2/11/2014 1:36PM

    This makes me feel really conflicted -- not just your post (it's great), but my own thoughts that echo what you've said. I've written in the past about a friend who is one of the "well, obviously I'm not going to eat less so I guess I better exercise" and then a week later "I hate exercise too much to do it so I'm going to try diet pills." She makes me crazy!

But at the same time, I can't really say anything. For all my work reading and learning and experimenting, I'm still pretty fat (for me, my body type, my frame, etc.) So, clearly, I'm not following those few simple rules either.

Sigh. Guess I better go have a Snickers bar. (kidding! mostly.)

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BITSNPIECES38 2/11/2014 11:46AM

    Yeah. I am a big fan of personal accountability. I have found that people who are not fellow fan-club members are really emotional on the subject though! LOL.

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SUNSHINE192DAY 2/10/2014 9:55PM

    Very good blog!

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JUNEAU2010 2/10/2014 3:03PM

    You've said it all...

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PHEBESS 2/10/2014 1:34AM

    I have to laugh at your last statement - and yes, if there were a Snickers diet, I'd try it immediately!

And I've given up on reading blogs like the ones you've written about - way too frustrating to try to get reality into some people's heads!

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ADARKARA 2/9/2014 3:51PM

    Ugh, I know! I hate this behavior. My coworker's favorite phrase is "I have no willpower." That is the lamest excuse ever. That translates to "I just don't want to do it." People want results without the work, and they want the results today, not tomorrow. emoticon

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NANCYPAT1 2/9/2014 8:57AM

    All I can say to your blog is AMEN - so true and as someone who has lost a significant amount of weight more than once, I have stopped telling people how I did it because they REALLY want to hear some MIRACLE CURE or MAGIC PILL - the reality is I eat differently and move a LOT.

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AJR2013AJR 2/9/2014 8:15AM

    I spend a few weeks each summer with my parents, and they usually watch TV and snack at night to unwind. They are particularly proud of eating potato chips while watching The Biggest Loser. They are active and don't have major weight issues, and we all laugh about it.

I think you are missing an important part of how change happens. There is usually a gathering information/ taking stock phase that people go through before taking action. People change when they are ready to change, and not a moment sooner. It think it is always good to write about one's struggles, even if no action is taken. Someone might, even years from now, look back at their blogs and be ready to hear the advise or to move forward. When I write my blogs, I do it to document my feelings in case I need the motivation later. I don't always blog to get immediate results!

Take care, and good luck on your journey!

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GHOSTFLAMES 2/9/2014 7:55AM

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