Wednesday, February 05, 2014
You may have noticed there's a gap in my Winter Wellness Challenge. I didn't write it about it but one time while we were in Missouri. I'm picking up the gauntlet today and finishing out the month. I've liked this challenge and like the reminders of all the aspects of losing weight, or should I say.... having a happy, well-balanced life. This wasn't using the challenge the way it was intended, but it'll still work for me.
Day 20 - Smile
I still remember figuring out that if I gave my husband a "full-faced" smile, it made him happy. Sometimes we're so used to our family members we don't really give them our full attention, face turned completely in their direction, totally absorbed in whatever the conversation is. At least, that's the way my task-oriented family is. My husband especially is a totally task oriented person, and doesn't really know how to fully interact with someone, without having some task to accomplish. So... I assumed he didn't care about me showing affection to him, either... just to do my job! However, when I started looking directly at him and shining a big smile his way, he liked it! You could say we'd started taking each other for granted, and I changed the playing field just by acting like we were still dating. That happened a long time ago, when our kids were still home and both of us were very busy with our various "tasks" that go with taking care of a growing family.
The second AHA moment was in relationship to my chorus. I belong to a competitive, hard working a cappella chorus that has 5 gold medals and a stellar director that travels all over the world coaching other choruses. When I joined, I was very intimidated by this chorus and I'm sure my face showed it. Despite success in two other choruses, I was NOT successful in this one and was sure I didn't belong, even though I'd passed their demanding audition. Then I noticed that most other members of the chorus greeted me (and everyone) with a big smile. AHA! I started doing the same... maybe not to the women I was still intimidated by, but the newer members who I knew were feeling much the same as I did. I immediately started feeling more at home and had a lot of positive reactions with my more confident demeanor.
But.... the point of the exercise is that smiling will turn your mood around. Just forcing yourself to smile as genuinely as you can at other people (bad mood or not) will change your own attitude. Walking with a perky step, shoulders back and core engaged, will not only gain you more respect from people observing you, but will actually change your own mood. That old song that went something like this: "Whenever I feel afraid, I whistle a happy tune" .... works!