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Tuesday, February 04, 2014

I should be sleeping but I woke up with this thought rolling around in my head. You know what that means, I'm not going to be able to sleep unless I get it out so here I am typing. Imagine if you will that you had a twenty dollar bill in your hand. If I asked you to give it to me, you would ponder if what I am asking you is worth the sacrifice. If I offered you a five for the twenty, you would probably clutch it wondering what I was trying to pull. What about a twenty for a twenty? You would probably look at me weird but might do it because there wouldn't be a loss or sacrifice. If I were to wave a fifty, it would be gone with the wind.

Why?

Because as much as a twenty means to you and I, it's value fades quickly in the light of gaining a fifty.

While reflecting on those moments where I was able to overcome habits or walk away from temptation, one common thread began to appear. Value.

A person cannot and will not give something for nothing, ever. Maybe for a season due to sacrifice but it never lasts long term. How can it? Is surrendering a twenty for nothing or for a five dollar bill sustainable? Sooner or later it is going to stop.

When I was 385 lbs, you couldn't shame me, threaten me, or scare me into changing my lifestyle. The longer you preached to me, the longer I would ponder getting a quarter pounder to reward myself for listening to your drivel. There was nothing motivational about public fat shaming, comments about my choices or inability to do certain tasks.

Waving the five will get you nowhere.

I ate to feel good. I ate to celebrate. I ate to soothe. Sometimes I ate like that because the day ended in Y. Tough day? Nothing fixes that like a five pound bag of chicken wings or a supreme pizza. Mmmmmmmm. You can keep your nasty veggies.

As I stated in my earlier blog, Purpose Driven Fitness, we can treat exercise or healthy eating like we treat a medicine. It's only taken to fix a problem then it's put on the shelf, it isn't a lifestyle. It's taken until we get back to "normal" (whatever that is) and then discontinued.... Ya know... Sorta like a laxative.

The problem with that....

Our version of normal is what put us in our unhappy place. After all, how did we gain it in the first place?

When I exercised faith in myself for the first time and pushed hard to meet a goal, self worth came by waving a fifty. Accomplishment made me an offer I couldn't refuse. The temporary aaaaaah's of my favorite foods were silenced by the roar of woo hoo's and I got hungry for more.

Do I still eat pizza? YUP! Do I binge? Nowhere near like I used to. If I did, my picture would tell the story. While those things are still present in a measure, there is a fifty in my wallet that keeps me coming back for more, keeps me searching and longing for another taste of something far greater. Something that makes me strong.

To pretend that the pull of your favorite foods doesn't exist or to kid ourselves into thinking that we don't value those things is a lie. We do value those things and to sacrifice something we love for thin air is a raw deal. That's why dieting doesn't work. you can only sacrifice so much for so long before something finally gives. However managing that love with something we love more is far easier. When you find something that bolsters your self worth and reveals your inner strength, it keeps you coming back for seconds.

When your fitness activity keeps you coming back for more because of what it reinforces in your life, your eating will slowly revolve around it. If your passion is cycling, what you eat will mostly reflect your desire to be a better cyclist because you will WANT to go further, faster, longer and not because it's something you endure to deal with a problem.

The human heart was never meant to be left with a hole. For an affection to be removed, it MUST be replaced with something of equal or greater value. Without this, moderation or abstinence is impossible.

Impossible.

When passion waves a fifty, the twenty is no longer a big deal.

Find your passion.


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WHITEANGEL4 5/13/2014 10:03AM

    Way to go

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GRAMPIAN 4/28/2014 6:51AM

  You're so right. emoticon

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EEKAMIGHTY 4/6/2014 6:23AM

  I love your analogy of the money to weight/lifestyle metaphor. Great blog! emoticon

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GEORGE815 3/28/2014 11:30AM

    Find your passion. Still after it.

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NASFKAB 3/19/2014 5:58AM

  worth reading again & again

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NDKARIKARI 2/15/2014 4:27PM

    this post is truth! I have not been really thinking about finding that thing that i am willing to make these healthy changes for. I have specific goals for sure, but you definitely just made that first step even more tangible for me. I sense a blog brewing because of this, thank you!

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DEESIGNING 2/12/2014 8:15AM

    I need to find a passion!

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BARBSIDDIQUI 2/9/2014 10:49PM

    Fantastic blog. Thank you!

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CELIAMINER 2/9/2014 11:09AM

    Glad you got up and typed out this great blog! One of my favorite quotes is "Your body keeps an accurate journal regardless of what you write down."

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DEESHAREE 2/8/2014 7:18AM

    "The human heart was never meant to be left with a hole. For an affection to be removed, it MUST be replaced with something of equal or greater value. Without this, moderation or abstinence is impossible. "

This is a golden nugget of wisdom... Thank you! Amen, brother!!!! emoticon

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KATIEWILL5 2/7/2014 9:57AM

    Ok I have a 50ty a 20 and a 5 I want 40 more or so if i think of it as money that helps even more but what helps me the most is not hurtng anymore I am so happy for you and happy for me

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GEORGE815 2/6/2014 10:48PM

    Still looking!

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JOANNHUNT 2/6/2014 10:22PM

    AWESOME BLOG.

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SHERRYBETH84 2/6/2014 8:59PM

    Glad you couldn't sleep and wrote a Wake Up for me! Truth in every word. I am holding on to the twenty I gained, and wishing to lose fifty total! Fifty is my new mantra, and I am looking for the new habit to inspire me... Until then, I have a goal. Thanks for the insight.

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NINJAJO926 2/6/2014 7:24PM

    Amazing blog. You hit the nail right on the head. I may have to print this out for further reference! Thank you for sharing your wise thoughts with us! :)

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    Great message! Thanks!

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CKTALL 2/6/2014 6:06PM

    that was just outstanding

Passion - find it and everything else will resolve itself

Nicely said

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    Nice

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MAKBABE 2/6/2014 10:57AM

    It is so true the need for affection... I and many others have filled that hole in the heart with food but since it never fixes it and keeps us craving the need to fill it, we need to find affection filling activities for ourselves that do truely fill that hole,

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OSDOWNS 2/6/2014 10:41AM

    Glad you couldn't fall asleep. Thanks for the words of inspiration.

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MOONGLOWSNANA 2/6/2014 10:15AM

  I think using my Spark Activity Tracker is my fifty. I'm moving more because of it! You have away with words! Thanks! emoticon

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IMIN2GENES 2/6/2014 10:12AM

    Another great blog Robert! I hope you finally got some zzz's.
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Great blog! You always manage to put words to my thoughts - and oh so eloquently. I am going to share this with all of my family and friends who are struggling to change their habits and thought processes.

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MAUREENREDUX 2/6/2014 9:15AM

    I haven't found my fifty yet, but at least now I am actively looking for it. Joining a gym is helping me explore the possibilities -- wonderful insight on your blog

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CZERBE78 2/6/2014 7:31AM

    Wow! I have never been glad another person couldn't sleep. You blog post was insightful, and motivational.
Thank you for that!
Best regards!
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RHOOK20047 2/6/2014 6:26AM

    Wow, in my younger days, I would have said that was heavy! Your blog was so inspirational. While I am losing, never as much as we would like to, I am still waiting for my ah-ha moment in this journey. I have to admit hearing stories like yours helps. I try to apply things like that to my life. I realize I am in the right direction, however, the drive is still somewhat missing, and I can't figure out how to increase the drive. Getting to the gym is my downfall, pain in my knees keeps me away, although I know that I could be doing upper body strength and pool exercises. Just have to keep pushing myself. Thanks again for your great inspirations and encouragement.

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WEARINGTHIN 2/6/2014 5:35AM

    I think I'm learning I have a passion for hiking. I am finding ,at 62, how much I love to go to the larger parks around here and hit the trails. Maybe that will be my fifty. Glenn

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So glad you shared a wonderful spot of insight with us!! Thanks!!

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  Good blog.

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CHARTHESTAR 2/5/2014 6:43PM

    good analogy. many people can relate to dollars.

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    emoticon , thanks for sharing!

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LOGOULD 2/5/2014 2:38PM

    Oh Robert, how I long to hold that fifty again. Praying that this next trip to the doctor gives me the clearance to get back into the gym. Decided to start working with a trainer...just once a month for accountability and goal setting measurement, but I think it will give me the kick I need to get the ball rolling again and to make some serious progress this year. Thanks for always helping me keep my eyes on the prize and to persevere no matter what life throws at me. How are the orthotics working for you?

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NONNAOF2 2/5/2014 1:53PM

  I can see a lot of myself in what you said, great blog! :-)

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