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My Kind of Beautiful

Saturday, February 01, 2014

It has taken me years to figure this out.
I am not glamorous. I tried that, and it is not me. I am a comfortable kind of person, and I am happy with myself. I have learned that I am as beautiful as I am happy. I am a very happy person!
Donít let anyone else tell you what is beautiful. Be your own kind of beautiful!

My ex-husband wanted me to be a certain kind of glamorous woman. I did not fit well into fake fingernails and lots of glam. I tried. Actually, I tried too hard. I became the person that he wanted me to be, and I lost part of my soul in the process. I was listening to the wrong voice, and walking down a trail that led me to disaster. I had to leave that relationship for my own sanity.
Today I am loved for who I really am! There is nothing better in the world than to find true love and joy. I have learned never to settle for anything less than honesty and peace in your home. Learn to love others for who they are, and learn to love and accept yourself. When you have love and acceptance as the foundation of your life, you can grow and change into the person that God wants you to be.

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MJ7DM33 2/2/2014 3:00PM

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GENRE009 2/1/2014 11:15PM

    Good blog advise. yes I too went along with trying to live up to siome fantasy of what my husband though his wife was. emoticon I had to put my foot down, cause he started crossing my ethics line, and I just let him go.

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GRAMMYEAC 2/1/2014 9:55PM

    Yes! Acceptance of who we are is very important. And it cuts both ways: we need to accept others for who they are, too! When accepting others, be sure to notice the fine print. When presenting yourself for acceptance, be sure that no disclaimers need be published.

It is truly wonderful when the veneer and polish is stripped away and we see and are seen as the amazingly gifted humans we are!

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REGILIEH 2/1/2014 6:40PM

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MARAGRAM 2/1/2014 3:30PM

    Gratefully, I never married the man who wanted me like that,! People asked me why I wouldn't go out with him, and I said we just didn't see eye to eye.

My DH has always loved me for who I am! I am so fortunate.

You do Know yourself and your character. Your are beautiful in all ways!

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JOANIE69 2/1/2014 12:53PM

    emoticon We all need to be accepted for who we are, and on the other side of the coin, we ought also to accept others. God is the only One Who can change others or us. The more we leave this in God's hands, the happier we become. (Being in a relationship where you are unacceptable and suffer constant degradation and abuse not God's plan for anyone.) I am glad you are in a good marriage now. Your blogs are inspiring. emoticon

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SWEETNEEY 2/1/2014 11:53AM

    You are so right. Happiness is what each individual defines it as.

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JACKIE542 2/1/2014 10:09AM

    Love this, always best to be happy with who we are, and to accept others for who they are too.
Glad you are loved for who you are today!! emoticon

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DEBBYFROMMT 2/1/2014 9:30AM

    You ARE beautiful! And strong! Life is good

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1CRAZYDOG 2/1/2014 8:16AM

    This brought tears to my eyes. Actuallly, tears of joy! I spent YEARS trying to live up to others' expectations of how I should look and feel and dress. BUT now I am truly happy because I am ME . . . my husband love ME just the way I was and am! Even @ my heaviest (and believe me, it is not a pretty picture . . . 200 + lbs. on a 4 ft. 10.5 in. frame!) DH loved me.

What a great blog! Continued happiness, my sweet. You (and I! and everyone else) deserves that.

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GOLFGMA 2/1/2014 8:11AM

    You sound happy and content. Wishing you this feeling for the rest of your life! emoticon

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    I could say a lot here but I won't. You are content with your image. Better than discontented living another person's fantasy image.

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FERRETLOVER1 2/1/2014 7:27AM

    Beauty comes from within - and you are BEAUTIFUL!

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MSLZZY 2/1/2014 7:23AM

    I can so relate! I tried to be the ideal arm candy when
we went to company meetings, high heels and all. I
know this just isn't me! I can still dress to the nines
but I feel the most comfortable in jeans and a nice
sweater. Take me as you see me. No more fear of
not measuring up to a certain standard.

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SANDRALEET 2/1/2014 7:22AM

    True no two alike All a wark of art

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_LINDA 2/1/2014 6:44AM

    emoticon I am so glad you found yourself and a true relationship based on honesty! I have always preferred to see people in their natural state. There are too many bottled blonde bombshells out there already. I am happy to have a rare natural red hair color and don't mind that its heavily highlighted with grey!

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TAICHIDANCER 2/1/2014 6:40AM

    "Today I am loved for who I really am! " Having found that myself, I know how precious that is. Congratulations!

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MAUREENREDUX 2/1/2014 6:15AM

    Such a lovely thought that shows such strength of character.

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NUTRON3 2/1/2014 6:11AM

    Glad you found yourself!

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