Choose your positive fantasy
Friday, January 31, 2014
Everyone (or almost everyone for those who are in denial) reaches a point where they find that their sense of reality differed from what was real in some way. lt seems to me that we all have had our fantasies.
Researchers have found that people often base their decisions upon self perceived images of themselves that are not necessarily valid. In one example the AARP asked a pool of attorneys to do a favor to needy seniors by charging them only 30 dollars for their work. Overwhelmingly, the attorneys refused to do this; but, when AARP asked attorneys if they would, as a favor to the needy seniors, do the same work for free, thousands of attorneys agreed. In the first case money was a major factor and the attorneys chose the fantasy characteristic that their work was worth more than 30 dollars and that they were not the type of person that would do it for less; while, in the second case money was less of a factor and the attorneys chose the fantasy characteristic that they were the type that would willingly give to charity.
Similarly, many people fail to meet their goals because they dwell on a characteristic that tends to limit their motivation to achieve their goal. For instance, people tell themselves 'I tried to do this before and was not successful', instead of 'People like me have done this; and, I have the same or similar strengths that I can use more effectively this time around'.
People will always have conflicting images of themselves, some negative and others positive that may influence their motivation to achieve a goal. Life decisions are sometimes based upon a fantasy world that one creates in their mind. Those living in a positive fantasy world tend to achieve more of their goals. So it would make sense to choose the positive fantasy that helps motivate you to achieve your goal then to dwell on your negative fantasy.