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Embracing the good

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Well, as I mentioned in a previous blog, I'm trying to be more mindful about my behaviors after seeing Brene Brown's Ted Talks on vulnerability and shame. She discusses the three things people do to avoid vulnerability: numbing out, perfectionism, and joy foreboding. Thanks to the Spark tracker, I don't numb out with food anymore. Thanks to re-reading blogs and noticing patterns in my behavior, I've gotten a lot better about not demanding perfection all the time and being gentler with myself. So what do you suppose I noticed myself doing this morning? That's right, joy foreboding.

I weighed in and found that I'm down about 13 pounds total. Which is great! But somehow my thoughts turned to worrying that maybe I was losing muscle and not fat, or what if I'm losing too quickly (which I'm not), or what if it's just a fluke and I haven't really lost anything at all... WHAT IF?!


So instead of letting these thoughts run wild, I'm celebrating my success and enjoying the feeling of knowing that my hard work is paying off. I really can do this! We all can!

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Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ERIN1128 1/30/2014 2:13PM

    Wow, joy foreboding, what a great phrase! Amazing how we tear ourselves down. A counselor once asked me, "what would you say to your best friend in this situation?" A great test, because we're so much harder on ourselves than others.

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RIDMYCOCOON 1/30/2014 12:07PM

    Nice work!! emoticon

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BECKYLIZ 1/30/2014 9:08AM

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TEMPENATIVE 1/29/2014 11:09PM

    Gosh Amy you are growing so much I'm really proud of you. Congrats on your successes and many more to come

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SHEWWIMONSTER 1/29/2014 10:38PM

    I think it's all about being able to stop and redirect those negative thoughts, so way to go! You're doing great. :)

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SABLENESS 1/29/2014 9:16PM

    LOL. Amazing how we can play those games in our heads. One of my friends had a dream about doing things like that to herself, and the dream message she got loud and clear was JUST STOP.

Thanks for dropping by my Quoth the Raven blog.

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SCUBADIVA50 1/29/2014 6:59PM

    Wow, so comforting to know that there's a term for it. It's not too late for a new New Year's Resolution: no more joy foreboding!

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DISNEYDIVA79 1/29/2014 5:46PM

    OMG, I do the exact same thing! "What if my pants aren't actually fitting better because I've lost weight, its just that I'm stretching them out?" I never knew there was a term for that! Joy-foreboding. I'm going to have to look into this Brene Brown person.

And YES! We all can do this and we deserve all the successes and joy we encounter!


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UNSWEETMAMA 1/29/2014 5:19PM

    Gah! The WHAT IFS?!?!?!? emoticon
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