Setting boundaries and letting go can be painful for the other person
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Good Morning; Another ice storm hits our area. Everything is a stand still - schools closed. I am enjoying the morning. Last night another evening with drama. Ex giving DS a hard time. He starts texting to me. I do not answer b/c I am getting tired of all the drama- same old stuff. He calls the home phone. DH answers - we get an earful that we are not respecting him by not listening to him. DS is really mad at his ex, but he is venting with us. DH says to DS do not call back unless you can talk like an adult. DS is really mad now. He starts texting me. I just turn off phone.
He is not saying very nice things about us. It seems DS is regressing to how he was in his teenage years. He needs to go back to counseling but refuses. As the world turns, DH and I are doing great by ourselves. I have not overeaten over this stress. DS has his life and we have ours.
So glad you are not getting involved. It's hard when it's our kids, but they need to put their big pants on and grow up, and deal with their issues themselves. Aaaaa Some people's kids. 1415 days ago
Must have been the night for children and venting. ARGH! Silence . . . that's my weapon. Eventually they catch on that you're not gonna engage. BUT setting boundaries verbally is important. Non-verbally. your non-response was a good boundary setter. **SIGH** It really IS tough to let go, but you know, they ARE adults and as you say, you and your DH have your lives to lead and your DS has to live his too.
HUGS and sending peaceful vibes your way. Good job not stress eating. I didn't stress eat either after DS''s call but didn't sleep well. That's MY responsibility to take control of and I realize that now, so I will definitely be early to bed tonight because I WILL get my proper rest. 1415 days ago
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