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Feeling good today.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Aren't days so much better when you wake up knowing you made good choices yesterday and you slept well. I find it such a blessing and it makes me want to do it all over again today. I am looking forward to eating right and getting my walk in with the dogs. The sun is shining and it's warm so that is motivating as well.
I know some you are in a deep freeze. Sorry about that....sending you some of my Mexican sunshine.

Update report on FIL. DH and nurse took him to the doctor on friday for a follow up and he had another xray. The doctor told him that there appears to be a very small fracture but that he should be trying to walk more and exercise. The fracture will mend itself. As I mentioned, I hadn't gone to the appointment with him as I was trying to stay away from germs at a medical facility. I went out the following day by myself (DH was into a project). FIL was lying down in bed. The first thing he said to me was that the x ray showed a fracture and he said "I knew something was wrong and it wasn't just muscles". He said that he doesn't feel exercise would help the fracture heal and so he isn't going to do much. I told my DH what he said and he said."he isn't going to improve if he doesn't help himself"...so we are thinking he is giving up and will be in a wheelchair forever. Sad that he isn't more motivated to walk and build up strength. But my DH and I know that we can't change him and as long as he is well cared for we are fine with it. There is nothing more we can do. We will be selling the house that we had bought for him to live in as there is no reason to have it and pay for maid, gardener, and condo fees. We would be happier knowing that FIL is where he is and well cared for. We haven't told him this is what we are thinking of doing...not sure when we will have that conversation.

Hope you all are keeping warm and will have a terrific day.
Sallie
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GOANNA2 1/29/2014 7:15AM

    Sallie, so good to hear you are feeling well. Very
sad about FIL not doing anything for himself. He
seems to have given up, but there is really nothing
much more you can do. He is well looked after where
he is, so that is a big plus. Have a lovely day.

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JUDYAMK 1/29/2014 12:29AM

    That would be the best place for him as you would not have to worry if he fell in the night or anytime. he will be well taken care of & he will have people around him all the time.There comes a time in a persons life when they give up on trying. I hear the families that come to the pharmacy telling me about their family members giving up also. At the same time after awhile the family members are happier because they no longer have to worry about them falling also or skipping there meds or taking overdoses because they forget when they took them . Some of them are actually happier being in a skilled place because they meet knew people to talk to
Have a good tomorrow take care Sallie
Judy

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JANIEWWJD 1/28/2014 11:50PM

    I'm glad you are feeling better, but I know it saddens you that FIL isn't feeling well. It's sad when they give up. My mother is in a wheel chair because she gave up. You can't make them do what they don't want to do!!!!
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AALLEY2 1/28/2014 8:40PM

    emoticon about FLI, but it is good that you are continuing with your walking and that you are able to sleep well. emoticon

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BOOKAPHILE 1/28/2014 6:49PM

    Would that conversation motivate him to work on his recovery? If not, you're probably thinking in the right direction.

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LOLA_LALA 1/28/2014 6:14PM

    Your weather sounds like my idea of delicious right now, Sallie!

I was sorry to read the latest about your FIL. I know he's been such a sweet man and that he's always enjoyed being out and about with you and your DH, but it sounds like he's making a slow, very difficult recovery from his surgery. You're taking wonderful care of him, though, and looking after his changing needs so lovingly. I know he must appreciate that!

Big emoticon to you all from me up here in the Siberian part of the U.S. emoticon

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MEADSBAY 1/28/2014 6:01PM

    That is very sad
(and frustrating for you who have done so much for your dear FIL)
but it is absolutely his decision to make
(unless he is demented- and then you still cannot force someone to do anything).
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1CRAZYDOG 1/28/2014 5:14PM

    **SIGH** Sad. Rather like dealing with kids . . . you can see the train wreck about to happen and try to guide them, but if they are not willing to do what it takes . . . well, guess they're going to suffer the consequences.

HUGS and glad you're feeling well.

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KENDRACARROLL 1/28/2014 4:17PM

    Glad you're feeling better.
Sorry about your FIL. It is frustrating that often, even with the best of intentions, we cannot change certain things. Wishing you peace and sending some motivation for your FIL.
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ROCKYCPA 1/28/2014 2:30PM

    So sorry that there are still issues with FIL - hopefully things will get better soon and you will have him in a good situation.

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GAYEMC 1/28/2014 2:29PM

    I don't envy the talk you will need to have with FIL about his home. How sad that he doesn't want to fight for it. Glad you are feeling better!

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JODROX 1/28/2014 12:44PM

    It is frustrating but true that you can't get other people to want to be healthy.

I'm glad you're feeling better!

And thanks for the Mexican weather wishes... I'd trade places with you if I could! emoticon

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JANTHEBLONDE 1/28/2014 12:03PM

    Sorry to hear about your FIL fracture.... I'm so glad you're enjoying the sunshine in Mexico! I wish I was there! I hope you have an awesome day!
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FIT4MEIN2013 1/28/2014 11:42AM

    How sad abut FIL. emoticon You are right in that you can't make him take better control of his health if he is giving up. It gives you and dh time to prepare yourselves for the future.

Our weather is back up in semi-normal temperature ranges, too. I walked around the property yesterday and the fruit trees and roses are leafing out and the violets are blooming. Spring is in the air! It is raining today,, but not hard and though I hate the rainy season, we desperately need it.

Have a great day, Sallie!

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LIS193 1/28/2014 11:31AM

    So glad you are feeling well! Enjoy your nice day - we are having sunshine again too after a cloudy day yesterday. Sunshine and 80F - what's not to love?

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_LINDA 1/28/2014 11:00AM

    That is wonderful you had a good day and night and were properly rewarded with a weight loss!
So sorry your FIL has given up :( I would guess the main thing is he be kept comfortable and is happy with where he is at..

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