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Officially single again...

Monday, January 27, 2014

I slipped up the past year and a half dealing with a lot of issues in my personal life and right when I needed SP the most, I disappeared from SP. I needed a community of HEALTHY support and rather than logging in here where I know that I could receive that; I turned to physical support of friends and family (which is usually a good idea for most, but not me.)

I just spent the last 4 hours reading through my old blogs and comments and one of my long time SP friends made a comment about how she knows that I struggle with my friends currently because they all live such incredibly unhealthy lives and anytime we hang out, it always has something to do with not just food- but JUNK food. Then add in the complete badgering of peer pressure... I give in all too often. Not because I'm weak, but because of my love affair of all things unhealthy. They all also know my love of drinking and my inability to stop once I get going. I'm that friend that you hear about doing utterly crazy things while tanked. It gets to the point with them that until I reach my goal and can sustain all things in moderation; I end up not hanging out with them. (This is why physical "support" is not the best for me and I should've turned to SP instead).

Being single now (the divorce is finalized) there is new trouble that I've run into. Dinner seems to always be what my dates want to do... I'd rather go on an adventure that has nothing to do with food or eating a meal. Turns out- that's an odd request.

At what point did a meal become a requirement of dating? Why is it "taboo" to not go out to eat? Why is there no creativity in dates?

Perhaps... I am just dating the wrong guys...

I have no idea where I am going with this blog.. I am just rambling at this point, but if it keeps me on here then ramble I shall!!
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  • RD03875
    Well done! You have worked hard and it's paid off! Keep on losing! YOU CAN DO IT!
    1389 days ago
    Hey!! So glad we are both back... it is completely comical that we re-surface at the same times lol

    I didn't know that about dating and food... I have never really "dated" since I met my Husband so young.... but c'mon guys, get more original! I think an original date scores WAY more points than taking a women to dinner or a movie. I think the right guy would be excited that you are interested in more adventurous stuff than a food date.

    1482 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/31/2014 10:59:54 PM
  • 68ANNE
    I think you are going the right way in not wanting to go out to eat on dates but some guys have a hard time with being more
    Realizing that 'friends' aren't helping is a huge step!
    1484 days ago
  • KNH771
    Adventure is kinda scary... It's a lot harder to put your best foot forward when you are doing something new. It's insecurity that pushes the dinner date. Regardless, having so many dates that it's messing up your diet is a good problem to have!

    Welcome back!
    1484 days ago
  • LINDAT1970
    I totally know how you feel as I am in truck industry myself ... it is hard to find someone within that shares the same goals.. Make time for yourself and it will come eventually.
    Good luck!!
    1485 days ago
    Maybe you should blog on "101 things to do on a date besides eat out."

    1) Dancing....
    1486 days ago
    Reading this I related mainly to the shift in some of my friendships & the distancing or even loss because of my attempt at a healthy lifestyle. It is hard when all you know with certain people/groups is bad habits. I don't have any positive reinforcement or words but just wanted you to know you're not alone in that struggle.
    1486 days ago
  • RD03875
    Maybe suggest you would like to show off your cooking skills and you have a favorite recipe you would like to fix? Just be honest and tell them you would prefer to eat something healthier.

    Hope all goes well for you, stay SAFE on those roads out there!!
    1486 days ago
    So true that everyone has to eat... but going out to eat all the time is racking up my calorie counts!! What sucks is that most the guys I meet are in the trucking industry and we all know that trucking isn't known for our "health nuts" so eating is the number one date idea...*sigh*

    I suppose this is how I will know I've met the right guy though... he'll be up for an adventure instead!!
    1486 days ago
    I think part of the reason that going out to dinner is so common in dating is because it is something that everyone has in common. Everyone has to eat. Also, having dinner just seems like a good way to "feel someone" out. At the end of the meal, if you don't like the guy or he doesn't like you, it is easy to part ways.

    Good luck!
    1486 days ago
  • AJB121299
    Good luck
    1486 days ago
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