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The emotional economy- building the strength within

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Monday, January 27, 2014

This is the second in series....

The only frame of reference I have is my own experience. However, I do believe I am not the only one who has shared this all too common experience. When I first started my journey (again), I was greatly lacking in the one thing I needed the most to see this through, faith. Faith in the process, faith that my hard work would actually pay lasting dividends, and faith that my efforts wouldn't end up on the scrap heap again. A casual examination of the ledgers of my heart revealed that I was in the red.

My self confidence was bankrupt.

I have had so many emotional withdrawals from my heart by failed attempts to lose weight that anything I tried to do seemed to result in an NSF. It would usually be a year or so before I would scrape up enough gumption to try again.

It's tough when our minds write checks our hearts can't cash.

All of that changed for me when I started setting and reaching small goals. The whole process was one thing leading to another. I made a small commitment to go walking. Once I was able to execute that small promise to myself, I took another step and rode my bike a few times a week. Those were small steps indeed. It's far better to consistently complete small goals such as walking for 15 minutes than it is to over promise and under deliver.

Let me repeat myself...

You are better off to fulfill something small than to over promise and not come through no matter how lofty. Do that often enough and you won't take yourself seriously and faith goes out the window. The belief that change is possible does not come by staring at some model on a "fitspirational" poster. It comes from seeing small commitments through. Each time you do, you make a deposit into your emotional bank account. Do it often enough and you'll catch yourself pondering over bigger goals.

Don't think so?

Go walking enough, then a run/ walk isn't out of the question. Challenge yourself to do a 5k or two, if you're not careful, you might catch yourself believing a 10k is possible. Keep making deposits and suddenly a half marathon isn't so crazy. Each step, each fulfilled promise to train and commit always produces the strength to keep coming back for more.

A full bank account gives you the courage to begin and the will to finish. Big, meaningful goals don't accept rubber checks, the funds have to be there.

Setting and keeping small goals produces the faith necessary to be able to take yourself seriously.

They also give you what's needed to keep going when set backs make big withdrawals. When self doubt comes knocking and accuses you at a moment of weakness. Your consistency gives you the ability to fight back. "Yes I may have dropped the ball but my track record speaks for itself, I WILL get back up and go on".

This is where an all or nothing mentality is your greatest adversary. It tells you since you can't get an hour in at the gym therefore it's not worth my time to show up. Life just has a way of happening and messing up the best intentions. I learned that consistency is more important in the long run than getting in a huge calorie burn because consistency builds habit, strengthens faith, and forges the will to see it through and that makes you strong.

Try it.

See for yourself what making and keeping small goals will do for you....

See if you don't walk a little taller because every day you're proving to your worst critic that you're serious....

The worst critic we have is ourselves. Prove him/her wrong.

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