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Sunday, January 26, 2014

Something came over me today. We moved into our place March 2013 and none of our pictures are up on the walls. That was until today. A big part of it was my husband making excuses of why he couldn't mount some shelves on the wall. 'they're made a big hole....blah blah blah'. I've been bugging him forever to help me hang up our pictures. He says to me 'I like it better just plain'. I couldn't begin to tell you how much it pissed me off. I felt so upset, partly because of his laziness and partly because I felt like I was hopeless without him. I'm not sure what changed today, but I woke up and started hanging. Not everything is up, but at least the place looks more lived-in now!

I had an incident on Thursday with a couple guys. They started bullying me and the one guy was encouraging the other on to do so. I haven't felt like that since high school. I was SOOOO pissed off. I didn't react though. I kept it all in. One guy did apologize after, but it didn't really feel sincere. I spoke to a few people afterwards about it and they agreed that these 2 were out of line. I waited until I cooled off to really analyze the situation and it appears to be rooted in the 1 guy's insecurity. He sees me as a threat and doesn't want to be outdone by a female. I can't believe how immature some people are.

So I'm trying to be more independent and do more things for me. Enough living for someone else, I need to focus on what I want out of life. I'm not going to wait around for someone else to make things happen for me - if I did that nothing would ever get done. Although my husband's laziness frustrates me to no end, if there is something I really want, what's stopping me from doing it myself.

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CAPT_BUTTERFLY 1/30/2014 6:11PM

    Well said, and well done. Good job not letting the bullying get to you. And two thumbs up for the picture hanging on your own. Awesome!


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KABMPH 1/27/2014 8:27AM


My mom instilled in me from a young age that I should never rely on a man for anything. (LOL) In many respects, she wasn't wrong. But it's still a funny thing to teach a kid. ;-)

My personal philosophy on relationships is that the people in them should be free to do what they want as long as it's not harming anyone. Knowing I have autonomy is important to me!

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FLAGLINDA 1/26/2014 11:35PM

    Good for you!! My mother always told me she just learned to do everything herself. My dad was in the Army and was gone a lot.It was easier than waiting for my dad to do it. If there was something she couldn't do she would just mention that she was going to call a pro in to do it and my dad would jump right to it! emoticon
You handled the situation with the bullies well. Although if it was at work I would report them.

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AWESOMECHELZ 1/26/2014 10:23PM

    You go girl!! emoticon emoticon

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KELLIEBEAN 1/26/2014 9:21PM

    Good for you!

Don't let those guys at work get a rise out of you. They are immature, insecure individuals. Stay strong and confident. They will move on to someone else.


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A-DAY-AT-A-TIME 1/26/2014 7:48PM

  You go girl!!!

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FENWAYGIRL18 1/26/2014 7:29PM

    good for you I definitely like a place with pictures up I'd be depressed with just plain walls

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MRSKATEDUVALL 1/26/2014 6:47PM

    I can totally relate. there are some things that I ( not being handy) can't do around the house. My to-do list and my husbands to-do list are often very different. I just want to get house stuff done, and he wants to work on his work projects. Since he started his own business, it's been even more so. I am learning that I can do those things.

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JANETTEB553 1/26/2014 6:17PM

    Yeah go girl... Girls can do Anything!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FLUTTERBY1979 1/26/2014 5:49PM

    What an inspiration! Congratulations to you for taking a negative experience and turning it into a positive outcome. Proud of you! emoticon

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