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Thinking of my wife on our anniversary

Saturday, January 25, 2014

My wife is a real night owl and I ... well, I am descended from a long line of farmers.

So it is 7 AM and she is sleeping in on a Saturday while I have 2,000 steps in and am hoping for a big day.

Today is our third wedding anniversary.

Let me brag about my wife for a moment in a way that she would never let me do if she were awake and reading this.

She is both smart and funny. She has four master's degrees (history, English, teaching, and honestly I can't remember what else) and she's working on her PhD in public health. She speaks 8 languages fluently and knows "a little" of half a dozen more.

She loves to laugh, has a quick wit and is the best physical comic I have seen after Charlie Chaplin and Jim Carey. She swears like a sailor when she's losing to me at cribbage, but it's all for show. She never met a book she didn't want to read or a stuffed animal she didn't want to bring home.

She has faced adversity that would have crushed me and come out whole, healthy and the stronger for it.

And for some reason that never fails to amaze me, she loves me. She loves ever inch of this body of mine which I have spent so much time loathing. She loves me with an intensity that has helped me learn to love myself. She encourages me to be the best I can be while at the same time not just accepting me, but cherishing me for who I am now.

And that is why I got up in the early hours of this morning to start exercising: because she has helped me love myself, but also so I can spend as many healthy years with her as I can. Tonight we will have dinner at the restaurant where we went after we eloped three years ago. I remember we were married by an 86-year-old justice of the peace in the lobby of the city hall. My father drove up from New York for the occasion. He died last October but, oh how he loved my wife.

After dinner we're going dancing to a live band. We love to dance together and do it every week: swirling around the floor in each other's arms.

This past year I have lost people - my father and others - whom I loved. I cherish their memories and I cherish the loved ones I have left all the more. My friends, I wish you all happiness, health, and many years with the ones you love.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
HILLSLUG98239 1/31/2014 2:40PM

    That is a beautiful tribute. My first husband filled that role for me: He helped me learn to myself as I am. He was my first post-therapy relationship, and he really helped me practice with the tools I picked up in therapy. He passed away suddenly almost twenty years ago. The irony is, I was able to survive the grief and heal because of the man he was.

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SUSIEGKORN 1/30/2014 10:36AM

    Thank you for letting us get to know your wife through your blog. She sounds incredible, and what a blessing you found each other. Happy 3rd anniversary, and here's to many more years of dancing together!

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MYAKAYAH 1/28/2014 4:13AM

    I'm a night owl as your wife is! Amazing and fabulous that she can speak and comprehend so many languages! Your wife reminds me of my SO, he is one in a million when it comes to loving this cranky girl. It doesn't hurt that he is quite handsome and intelligent as well~

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DYNAMICDEB53 1/26/2014 2:03PM

    What a special gift you have been given in your lovely wife. Happy Anniversary to you both. Hope last night was fun.


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RANDI_JEAN 1/26/2014 10:14AM

    Happy Anniversary!! Such a beautiful thing to have a love like that!

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FRANCESCANAZ 1/26/2014 8:32AM

    How beautiful. You are both very blessed. Happy Anniversary and many , many more.

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PINKNFITCARLA 1/25/2014 10:58PM

    emoticon What a great tribute to your wife!

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BRENJET 1/25/2014 5:42PM

    Happy, happy anniversary to you any your Beautiful wife!!! You simply MUST print out this blog, frame it, and give it to her as a gift!!! Such a heartfelt and moving tribute to LOVE!!! You are so fortunate to have each other to dance your way into many more happy years.
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!!!!

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 1/25/2014 4:55PM

    What a lovely way to honor your wife. emoticon Happy Anniversary!

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AMAS92568 1/25/2014 3:41PM

    Happy Anniversary! Sweet blog.

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RD03875 1/25/2014 2:58PM

    Happy Anniversary, what a lovely blog

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JSTETSER 1/25/2014 2:36PM

    Happy anniversary!

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BATCHICK 1/25/2014 2:19PM

    awwwww, this is so sweet! I wish you guys many more happy years to come!

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NOMIS1 1/25/2014 1:01PM


What a lovely tribute to your wife. How fortunate you both are.

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KELLYFIT123 1/25/2014 12:15PM

    Congratulations, you two love birds!

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GREENGENES 1/25/2014 11:44AM

    Beautifully said! Happy anniversary and many more!

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GOOFIERNU 1/25/2014 11:16AM

    Happy anniversary!!!

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HKARLSSON 1/25/2014 10:41AM

    Awwwwwww! She sounds like quite a gal! Happy anniversary, and may you have many, many more!

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SUGARSMOM2 1/25/2014 10:14AM

  emoticon May you have many more . she sounds like a lovely lady . a real keeper .

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BEATLETOT 1/25/2014 10:13AM

    What a gorgeous tribute to this gorgeous lady!!! Happy anniversary to both of you! I hope you have a wonderful day and many happy years to come!!

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HGSGUY 1/25/2014 10:02AM

    Happy anniversary! It is so wonderful what the people that come into our lives can teach us about ourselves.

One question, do you ever dance to the song "I would walk 500 miles"? Don't know why, just seems really appropriate with all your steps!

Have a great time!

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MYSTERYROSE74 1/25/2014 10:01AM

    Happy Anniversary!!!!

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SLIMMERJESSE 1/25/2014 9:39AM

    Happy Anniversary and many many more.

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TERI-RIFIC 1/25/2014 9:37AM

    emoticon How sweet! Have a great time celebrating and dancing!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KLMEIRING 1/25/2014 9:25AM

    emoticon Your love and admiration is evident in this blog. She is a very lucky woman to have you in her life. Have a wonderful anniversary!

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HEALTHYLU1 1/25/2014 9:20AM

    I love this tribute! Congratulations and happy anniversary! emoticon

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MADEIT3 1/25/2014 9:19AM

    Such a lovely tribute to your wife! Happy anniversary. Today I'm going to a party for my SIL and her husband - they've been married 50 years today. I hope the same for you and more!

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GRAMMYEAC 1/25/2014 9:01AM

    Have a wonderful anniversary celebration!

You have found a gem!

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NWFL59 1/25/2014 8:59AM

    Lovely praise of your wife. Have a most happy and joyous anniversary. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THE_SHAKESHAFT 1/25/2014 8:42AM

    Happy anniversary :)

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