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From Driven to Driver!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

I've noticed another change in my thinking since beginning my re-set two weeks ago.

First, a confession about a bad-old-habit I picked up along the way. Despite knowing logically that it is the easiest thing in the world to out-eat any workout, witness many long bike trips and events where I torch hundreds, perhaps THOUSANDS of calories yet still gain weight, I still carried that fallacy with me and allowed it to PROPEL me toward a workout compulsion where nary a day would pass without some intense cardio. Even knowing that it wouldn't compensate for the calories I consumed I would take on crazy thoughts about how if I didn't get this workout in I would balloon even WORSE than I might otherwise and hey, I tried to sell myself: maybe, just MAYBE I might pull it off and cancel all those unhealthy calories I ate!

Now that isn't necessarily all a bad thing: I've acquired a pretty rock solid habit and approach to exercise and for that I'm grateful.

However here is my latest morph: I've noticed during my workouts over the past two weeks an increasing sense of ease and calm. An absence of the element of desperation which would creep into past workouts which would sometimes compel me toward extending my limits and capabilities.

Instead, now when the right song comes along and I'm just inspired by the mood, words and what my body can do, I THEN push myself toward more intense efforts.

I'm finding that taking the desperation, the compulsion off the table leaves room for other healthier experiences:

---such as gratitude for what I've accomplished and a recognition of the good that has come from my old, less-than-healthy thinking.

---such as greater self-acceptance and appreciation for where I am on my journey, for what I've learned and have yet to learn.

---such as confidence in myself that I am acquiring such terrific self-knowledge about what works for me...and what DOESN'T!

Instead of feeling so DRIVEN, I am finding myself increasingly in the DRIVER'S seat, setting the course for my life and following Mark Twain's advice in one of my favorite quotes of all time:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Viva la SPARK!

Don

ps...oh yeah...no drum roll needed as my food choices are locked in and continue to pay off: 3 more pounds down for a total of 13 pounds since beginning my re-set, averaging nearly a pound a day.

pps...additional thoughts summing up important changes in my core beliefs in response to WATERMELLEN's excellent latest FatLoser blog:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
ge_public_journal_individu
al.asp?blog_id=5602034


Here are a few of my changes in core beliefs:

Numbers are bad...numbers are GOOD

Tracking is bad...tracking is GOOD

Workout to burn those calories...workout to enjoy my body

Self-bashing...self-acceptin
g, self-valuing

I can’t control my food choices…I am in charge of my food choices

Plus I have locked in a morning meditative pattern which includes other vital new "lessons" which I am planting for myself.
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RAINBOWFALLS 1/27/2014 8:56AM

    Great lessons learned. You are making some awesome progress. emoticon

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HAKAPES 1/27/2014 3:40AM

    I also find tracking is so important.
Have you heard about the Quantified Self movement?
I consider myself to be part of it.
There are so many of us who track, and like it!

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LUVLYLORELEI 1/25/2014 11:47PM

    That's an important change in perspective. Sounds like you've found a peaceful approach that will serve you well. emoticon

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JUST_TRI_IT 1/25/2014 10:30AM

    That is a truly powerful shift.. in thinking and acting. That sense of calm is in itself a huge wind in the sails! I agree with you that being driven versus being in the driver's seat is a strong place to be now.

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ZELLAZM 1/25/2014 7:23AM

    Some big mindset changes - as important as the numbers on the scale!

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KANOE10 1/23/2014 8:03AM

    That was an excellent shift into the driver's seat from being driven to exercise. Now you can simply enjoy the exercise. That is great that your re-set is working and that you have lost 13 pounds. I think you have successful replaced your core beliefs with excellent positive thoughts.

Way to go, Spark Friend. Excellent blog.

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STRIVERONE 1/22/2014 11:53PM

    I know what you are talking about. There was a point when I committed to getting fit and staying that way. Reaching the point where I could be driven more by the moment and less by the goal was a struggle and I suppose I had to force myself to to do my workouts consistently. But it paid off. Now going for a run, hike, or bike ride is routine and something I look forward to every day.

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L*I*T*A* 1/22/2014 7:50PM

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GREENGENES 1/22/2014 7:50PM

    Wow. Very impressive numbers! Great to see the shift in attitude is working so well.

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/22/2014 7:41PM

    I am really tripping on the day 19 revelations that we've all been posting about growth in our individual core beliefs! emoticon Growth in personal development and health all 'round! emoticon

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HIPPICHICK1 1/22/2014 5:34PM

    Wow! Excellent blog.
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Now I have an ear worm. "Driver's Seat" by Sniff and the Tears

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WATERMELLEN 1/22/2014 4:34PM

    Love to see YOU in the driver's seat. I'm so convinced that for me 80% ++ of weight loss/maintenance is the food tracking thing, and I injured myself permanently when I ran 10 km a day trying to out-exercise a crappy diet . . . Exercise, yeah: but not in a self-punitive manner.

Thanks for the generous shout-out.

It's terrific the way in which you are reframing those core beliefs.

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RACEWELLWON 1/22/2014 11:13AM

    Great blog - same here !

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CHANGE4FIT 1/22/2014 10:38AM

    BRAVO! Well said my friend-I am glad to hear your postive tone and read your perspective on assuming the "driver" role. Something we all need to spend more time pondering. Spark on!
PJ

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CRAVINGLIFE 1/22/2014 9:36AM

    I appreciate your words today! Keep up the progress, you are doing great!

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VALERIEMAHA 1/22/2014 9:16AM

    Such important insights and accompanying WELCOME rewards!!!
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Maha

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DAISYBELL6 1/22/2014 8:57AM

    Fantastic blog. I hear exactly what you're saying about the rationalization of over exercising. Moderation is usually the key.

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SLIMMERJESSE 1/22/2014 8:51AM

    Yes, that's how I backslid last year. I was exercising like a Banshee and felt entitled to eat accordingly. Yikes!

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