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Notes to our younger selves.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Thank you for all the meaningful responses to the question I posted yesterday. If you haven't already, and you would like to add your answer or your thoughts, here's the link:

When I found this picture on the internet, I was really curious about what most people would answer. And presented here on Sparkpeople, the question gets even more interesting. Because this is a weight loss and fitness site, and it makes you wonder "Would most people give an answer connected to healthy eating and fitness in some way?" It seems that's not the case. Only three answers were directly related. There were many which were vaguely relevant but were more general and a few that had nothing to do with weight loss or fitness.

I believe that this question is mostly about regrets. What would we like to have done when we were younger but we didn't? How would we like ourselves to have been like in a younger age? Also about lack of experience and wisdom. What do we know now that we didn't know then? What valuable hint about life could we give our younger self if we could?

I'd like to share with you a short video related to the subject. It's in Greek but it's got English subtitles.

It makes you wonder… How many young people who would have such a revealing dream, would actually think about it and make a few changes to their lives?

Here's another true story. A nurse, who had cared for people in the last days of their lives for many years, revealed their top five regrets and actually wrote a book about it. These were the top 5:

1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

You can read the whole article here:

I'll finish this blog with my own answer to yesterday's question. So, if I could write a note to my younger self, what would I say in two words?

Use chances.

And I don't mean the chances that we can create ourselves. We get this opportunity every second. I mean those tiny and shiny shooting stars that fall on our path in life and we have to be really careful to see them and grab them before we step on them and lose them. And we have to use them wisely. For two reasons…

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    Wise thoughts.
    I like your blogs more and more!
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    1309 days ago
    Use chances...I like that. Step out of our comfort zone and watch us grow!
    1494 days ago
    What an interesting and thoughtful blog.

    And love the idea of taking chances.

    I HAVE taken lots -- and will continue to do that!

    "The awful daring of a moment's surrender
    Which an age of prudence never can retract
    But this and this only
    We have lived."

    (A line from T S Eliot quoted from memory so maybe not entirely accurate!!)

    1510 days ago
    Very true! I love being at this stage of my life where I feel like I still have lots of my youthful vitality, but a much more balanced perspective. Things aren't always easy for me now in any department, but I feel better equipped to meet the challenges that present themselves and more confident about taking chances and seizing new opportunities. Not a bad place to be. I'm looking forward to seeing what new adventures lie ahead.
    1510 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    What sayings!
    1514 days ago
    Very true!
    1515 days ago
    So true! Thanks for a thought-provoking blog. Every once in a while we need to see the BIG picture and not just micro-manage our eating or weight.
    1516 days ago
  • BAKER1009
    Love it! Thanks Elle!!
    1516 days ago
    Great blog!! I so agree on this. We can do it. Keep on keeping on and never miss our chance or use it wisely!! emoticon emoticon
    1516 days ago
  • THOMS1
    My answer yesterday was to never give up. I had been thinking of my weight and how I was always on a never ending diet and at some point in my life I just gave up and became morbidly obese. I didn't know how to live a healthy lifestyle and didn't learn how to go about it until I joined spark. Today I do live a healthy lifestyle.

    I think at the end of my life it is not going to be about my years of obesity that I will regret because many good things happened during that time but I think it will be all about family and friends and all of the things we could have said and done for them but didn't. emoticon
    1516 days ago
  • MUDGE4
    emoticon Thanks for posting!
    1516 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I agree with you about the chances! I wrote act now. I was thinking of that younger self who avoided getting healthy until I was older. My wishes that I had been healthier throughout my life!

    Thanks for a very interesting blog.
    1516 days ago
    Mostly I wish I had appreciated how fast time would fly by. Old age isn't something that just happened to other people. Here I am. Shocking!
    1516 days ago
  • REDQUEEN2262
    You are very though provoking - I enjoy reading your blogs. I agree totally, you have to take that chance! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1516 days ago
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