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Emotional Manipulation

Monday, January 20, 2014

Day 15 of the fatloser.com video series was about monitoring and manipulating YOUR OWN emotional responses.

The problem is that we tend to overreact to the pressure and stress of any habit change.

I need to control my emotional responses to help me stay on track and get closer to or maintain my goal. It involves monitoring myself to see what I'm feeling in a given situation. Negative emotions tend to weaken my resolve to follow my logical plan. Positive emotions tend to strengthen that resolve.

The key to manipulating my own emotions is to take a negative feeling (like "I'm hungry. Poor me. I can't eat everything I want." which opens negotiations for cheating,) and reframe it into a positive feeling (such as "I'm hungry. That 's proof my diet is working! I'm getting closer and closer to my goal.")

Emotions are powerful, sometimes overwhelmingly so. They are great cheerleaders and motivators, but poor decision makers. The logical mind is not terribly exciting, it is usually calculated and accurate and makes sound behavioral decisions.

Sieblod says "Make your decisions with logic, motivate yourself with emotion and NEVER mix the two."

It's an acquired skill to know which (logical or emotional mind) is dominant at any given time and to respond accordingly. With practice I can acquire this skill and become good at it. Most people never do. I'm going to try it.



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KANOE10 1/21/2014 8:29AM

    I think that is excellent advice. Make your decisions with logic but use emotions as cheerleaders for those good decisions. I have to watch myself when I need to make an eating change that has become a habit. Emotionally i fear changing the habit, but logically I know it is the right thing to do. I need to cheer that choice.

Thanks for an excellent tool.

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SUSANNAH31 1/20/2014 4:29PM

    All the info and tips that Siebold gives us is also available here on SP from our friends.
Watermellen is a real champion at this - and has been for a while.
A while ago she blogged about turning hunger pangs into a positivie -- a sign that her eating program was working.



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TRAVELGRRL 1/20/2014 4:03PM

    I think reframing negative thoughts to positive ones is a powerful tool. And there's very little that can't be "turned around" into a positive if you only look for it! When my husband is eating ice cream or Pringles for his snack and I'm eating a piece of fruit, I have to say I'm really digging the sweetness and crunch of the fruit. I consider good fruit a treat, not a punishment! (How's that for monitoring and manipulating my emotional response?)

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PHOENIX1949 1/20/2014 2:07PM

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My track record:

High-stress corporate job: logical
Caregiving parents (1986-2002): logical
Financial affairs: logical
Personal relationships: emotional (previously calmed with overeating)
Own health issues: emotional & logical depending upon condition and medical personnel (previously calmed with overeating)

Guess it's obvious what I need to concentrate on. Glad to have skills explained in these tapes.



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JANTHEBLONDE 1/20/2014 12:31PM

    Congratulations on day 15! Way to go girl!
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