Sunday, January 19, 2014
day 14 video concerns being addicted to the approval of others.
Siebold reiterated that most people are emotion driven. Those who have an emotional investment in some subject or belief usually see opposing views as personal attacks. They will often attack in retaliation, usually verbally, to defend their views.
The emotionally mature person should be able to listen to a different view and give it some consideration before deciding whether to adopt it or reject it for themselves. If they don't adopt the view, they still don't attack. They don't have to agree. It's not possible to agree with everyone.
Getting people's approval is nice, but not if the price is sacrificing your principles. It seriously limits you if you HAVE to have the approval of others.
Siebold's puts forth the thought that emotionally invested subjects are avoided because they matter so much. We're so afraid to offend or be offended by disagreement that we don't discuss much of anything that really matters.
I want to live the same way (with motivation, discipline and focus) whether others approve of me or not. I want to be willing to hear and evaluate other opinions without feeling I must react a certain way to win the approval of the speaker. I want to be able to talk about things that really matter, but not require a certain response to continue to like the person to whom I speak. I don't want to be a people-pleaser or the person people must please.