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Sunday, January 19, 2014

(I deleted the content of this blog because I found it was offensive to many Sparkers.) My apologies. Glenn
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GENRE009 1/24/2014 9:48AM

    wELL, BOB
THOUGHT I WOULD STOP IN AND SEE WHAT YOU ARE UP TO. I DON'T THINK YOU ARE RELATING HERE. I HAVE MADE FRIENDS, AND CALLED BY PHONE, AND FLEW TO GREET SOME ALREADY IN SIX MONTHS. SOME PEOPLE WANT TO REALLY GIVE COMFORT, AND FRIENDSHIP. I HAVE EVEN SENT FLOWERS TO SOMEONE, AND TALK, AND THEY HAVE VISITED ME TOO.SO, HERE IS MY QUESTION FOR YOU:
WHY DO YOU SPARK OR BLOG?
WHAT ARE YOU AFRAID OF?
AND WHY DO YOU APPEAR ANGRY MOST OF TIMES YOU TALK. I KNOW UNDERNEATH IT, THAT YOU ARE A VERY NICE PERSON.
WHY ARE YOU AFRAID TO LET PEOPLE GET CLOSE TO YOU?
ESPECIALLY IF THIS IS ALL NOT REAL?
WHAT MAKES YOU STAY ON SPARKPEOPLE?




Comment edited on: 1/24/2014 9:49:39 AM

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KAREN608 1/19/2014 5:19PM

    There are different levels of friendship.
And me, I do not drive, live in the country and so for 5-6 days in a row no one to talk to in real time. The ladies I know are so busy with family and appointments I only get a visit once in a while. So cyber friends are real people and after a year of talking, we encourage each other and it does great good.

If I lived in a town I might not be on line as much but still like this site. I do not do FB.

My bestest girlfriend had to move away so I am at loose ends for a best bud.

My husband works away now but his parents met through penpalling and got married. Did not see each other for years until they met, then married in a few weeks, and it was a lifelong marriage. So people can get to know each other IF they are honest even long distance.

Comment edited on: 1/19/2014 5:20:35 PM

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RHOOK20047 1/19/2014 3:39PM

    While, I can somewhat see where you are coming from, I beg to differ. While physical hugs have their value, and give the warm and fuzzies, I find much value here on Sparkpeople. Since, coming back after a couple of years, of thinking I can do it all by myself, I have found solace discussing my problems and challenges with people who are going through the same thing I am. Like most things you get from it what you put into it. Sorry you feel this way as I have gotten value from your blogs and messages and I hope you keep them up! emoticon

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RHOOK20047 1/19/2014 3:38PM

    While, I can somewhat see where you are coming from, I beg to differ. While physical hugs have their value, and give the warm and fuzzies, I find much value here on Sparkpeople. Since, coming back after a couple of years, of thinking I can do it all by myself, I have found solace discussing my problems and challenges with people who are going through the same thing I am. Like most things you get from it what you put into it. Sorry you feel this way as I have gotten value from your blogs and messages and I hope you keep them up! emoticon

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SERENE-BEAN 1/19/2014 2:26PM

    Speak for yourself, pal. If it's not meeting your needs, cool -- go find something that does. You don't need to speak for everyone else. Me, I get a lot of what I need from my online friendships, which are real friendships with real people, and you are not going to dissuade me of that.

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NHES220 1/19/2014 1:41PM

    That is true that we need friendships in person and not just in the cyberworld. But here in Sparkland we have people who are going through a lot of the same struggles and can provide support or give advice that people in the real world may not be able to as they are not going through it. I think it is nice to have the balance. I have been in contact with some SparkFriends who live not too far from me and hope to meet them in person some day.

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JBARSTOW 1/19/2014 11:51AM

    One of the downsides of the internet is that we've be come too casual with some of our definitions. People who are only words on a screen to us suddenly are called "friends", and on Facebook, even "family". I use the lingo because people understand it, but in reality I have very few people I call "friend". Most are acquaintances - a friend is someone I share a deeper bond with.

Now, all that said, the people here have been a great source of encouragement for me, and I hope I've encouraged someone else along the way, whatever we call each other.


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GREENGENES 1/19/2014 11:43AM

    Very interesting point of discussion. There are friends and then there are "friends". Most of us have friends in many different contexts. Why do we call all of them friends? We have social friends, professional friends, sporting friends, etc but we don't make those distinctions when we call them friends. If all someone's "friends" are online friends or if interacting with online friends takes away from interacting with others then that is a bit of a concern. However, developing friendships with people we meet online with whom we share common goals and interests can be very helpful.

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COLLEENROSTE 1/19/2014 9:21AM

    time for you to get out from behind your computer and interact with some real people.
for me, spark friends understand, encourage and support in a way that even family members can't sometimes, because spark friends share a common journey. They don't replace the need for real life human interaction, and if one is so blessed to live close to a spark friend and be able to count them amongst their circle all the better emoticon emoticon emoticon

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YELLOWDAHLIA 1/19/2014 8:19AM

    Blah blah blah blah.
Blah blah.
(((hugs)))

Linda

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ROX525 1/19/2014 6:48AM

    Actually I have met some very nice friends on this site, one of whom just lost his dear wife. You can have all types of friends, whether they are lost time, internet, work, dog walking friends, etc. Perhaps you will make it to the popular blog site with your blah..blah..blah. Have a great Sunday. LOL.

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NOWYOUDIDIT 1/19/2014 6:16AM

    Wow! I guess you need to define friend. My definition of friend is probably different than yours? And there are different kinds of friends, close friends, casual friends, internet friends, friends near by, friends from the past.

If you can get out and make friends where you are that's great! I can't. I have MS and I'm quite house bound. When I do get out those who "see" me aren't excited to be my friend. I don't move fast enough, I fall, I think slowly, I say things wrong, I wear glasses that are shaded on one side for my vision loss in my right eye. So I'm with my family a lot.

I don't think of myself as "disabled" because I still work. I've run a 4 bed group home in my home for over 27 years. My husband has worked for me the last 14 years. He does all of the physical I can't do any more. My clients have had disabilities since birth. I don't think of them as disabled either. I'm honored to care for them.

I still have 11 of my 21 children left to raise. I home school them. They have friends in the neighborhood and community, but they tell me they can't wait to join Spark People! LOL!! They like my friends and awards and challenges.

I didn't carefully craft this reply- it just poured out of me. Just the way all of my replies do!! People with MS have difficulties with cognition as time goes on. Once my own mom said to me I might not know what I'm saying and I told her that then I could swear at her because I don't know what I'm saying. I said that out of hurt. I did not mean it.

Anyhoo- that's my humble opinion. Not quite worth 2 cents. emoticon


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LYNMEINDERS 1/19/2014 4:15AM

    Hahaha....I am sure it will....

I totally have hugged a Spark friend....I have met 2 of them so far and hugged them both....woohoo

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BLEGNER11 1/19/2014 3:44AM

    Friends can be friends no matter where they are or if you have ever met them. I know that through spark I have a few "friends" whom I have never met but I hope some day to remedy that.

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