Saturday, January 18, 2014
I just need to scream somewhere where someone might listen.
Massive row in the house tonight, in brief
Youngest throws strop because sausages cooked for her dinner are too well done (okay hubby burnt one).
She storms of with a she can't eat comment.
I try to follow her to offer to put some more sausages on, as hubby starts to rant.
I follow her finally and get told she is going to starve and that people say she is fat anyway (she is a British size 6, so that is like an American size 2) with which she slams door on me and tells me to go away
I try to get in as I am not happy with the fat comment - she stops the door - after a couple of minutes I give up at which point she starts slamming her door repeatedly.
I loose it and try to get in (her door is coming off the hinges tomorrow)
Hubby comes up to see what is happening, I give up and go downstairs.
Hubby asks eldest questions related to the dishing of dinner, but she has headphones in and doesn't answer.
Hubby gets through to her and tells her to take headphones out, he is beginning to loose it.
He leaves me to finish dishing dinner, I am crying, eldest tells me to stop being so pathetic and grow-up.
Eldest gets told she has to eat with rest of us and without headphones in. She is crying and wailing.
Hubby yells at her to stop creating, she yells back she needs a minute - she gives up and goes to put her dinner in the fridge for later.
Hubby picks up his dinner plate and throws it at the floor, smashing the plate and making a mess.
In the aftermath he tells me he didn't delibrately throw his dinner at the floor, I think he lost it so badly that he can't remember it, which is scary. He threatens to leave, then demands to leave, then changes his mind and demands I find somewhere for me and youngest to live. This is followed closely by he wants her out of the house tonight and that it was all her fault, and he only gets that angry because of her. I am saying they both could do with anger management, but for him it is no he is the parent - what is with that.
I am not kicking my 14year old daughter out, I suggest family therapy - I get a he isn't going to get involve with that.
My 14 year old daughter is a handful, she is disrespectful and likely to do the opposite of what I say just for the hell of it. At times I could cheerfully throttle her. But I love her and I feel I just need to find the key to communicating with her. That key is not abandoning her, or kicking her out, and probably isn't loosing it with her either, but she sure knows how to push my buttons.
Told hubby I am not kicking her out. And as for moving out - I pay all the bills, it is my name on the mortgage, I will give him a lift to his sister's - Grrrrrrrr
Thank you for listening to my rant - I just needed to get in out - I think I do need to look for some kind of family therapy whether or not he joins in.
Oh well nuff said - moving on