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Dating Myself


Saturday, January 18, 2014

I've been dating the past couple of months and I feel like it's been healthy even though it's another diversion.

Someone told me, when I first started, that the best thing about dating is that you really learn about yourself. I found it to be prophetic. I still describe myself the way I was when most successful on Spark, even though I haven't kept up those habits in 2013.

My Spark still burns inside, waiting for me to provide more oxygen and grow brighter. Dating has helped me realize/face how much I miss many aspects of my life that bring me a feeling of accomplishment. I haven't dated that many men, but I've virtually met a lot of people, and dated enough to have the confidence that comes from acknowledgement of my attractiveness (okay, that sounds kind of clinical, but it's the most accurate).

I wanted this NOw- not another 100 pounds smaller, when the entire world is unfamiliar. Even though I'm already 100 pounds smaller from my largest, this is my body's comfort zone. After I re-lose the 30 pounds to my smallest adult weight (245), I'll be in uncharted territory. Now I'll have some dating experience to compare, and the knowledge that it isn't just my smaller body that is appealing.

I think I'm ready.
-I'm ready to value myself more completely.
-I'm ready to dive into complete devotion... to my healthy habits, to taking care of my body and my life.

Am I ready to fall in love again? -Definitely with myself. But I feel like there's some work left to make sure that I have an overabundance, to be overfilled enough to not rob from me when I love him.

In the meantime, I still want to meet people.
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BETHSWORLD 2/21/2014 4:05PM

    You are such a beautiful person inside and out. I love reading your blogs Sweetie!

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MISSB8604 2/6/2014 3:53PM

    I have no doubt you'll be successful.

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SAMSPARK1 2/3/2014 10:25AM

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JPVALPO24 1/30/2014 12:59PM

    great blog, falling in love with yourself first is the most important thing in your life, then falling in love with a guy emoticon emoticon

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ALOFA0509 1/23/2014 2:12AM

    A-MEN!!!! Awsum blog sista-

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SWEETZMIX 1/21/2014 8:06AM

    Ahhhh yes, falling in love with yourself. That's really the first step with falling in love with someone else. It means you'll have plenty to share. Miss you xoxo

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HAPPYJUNEBUG 1/21/2014 12:35AM

    Meet people! Yes!

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THEVOW2013 1/20/2014 9:18PM

    Glad your back and thanks emoticon for leaving a positive message on my page.
Body image, mental image or who you are NOW, and other people's perception is hard to handle sometimes. You are beautiful but I know how you feel I am dating for the first time and it is interesting to say the least. I have learned a lot over the past year.

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PUMPKINFACE73 1/20/2014 1:52PM

    Happy New Year, proud of you

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HIPPICHICK1 1/19/2014 11:11AM

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JESPAH 1/19/2014 10:02AM

    You are valuable. And you know it!!

Whoever you love will be a very, very lucky man.

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JUDYAMK 1/19/2014 9:42AM

    I had to learn to love myself & I knew I could never marry until I loved me. Knowing if I did there would be a divorce because of my emotion & past history. I would only bring that into the marriage. So when I took care of all my emotions with help I began to love me. When I was 33 I met my future husband & we married at 34. the past of not loving me is so long buried & laid to rest & not digging it back up. I am whole & I love me.
Judy

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CARRIE1948 1/19/2014 8:58AM

    Learning to love yourself is so much harder than it sounds

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TIHAITIEN 1/18/2014 11:24PM

    emoticon You can't fully be comfortable with a partner when your not with yourself.

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PANFRIEDTROUT 1/18/2014 10:08PM

    what a worthwhile endeavor! hats off to you.



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CASTIRONLADY 1/18/2014 9:25PM

    The best book I ever read on dating (out of print) is "Dating with Integrity". I wish i had one to send you. I didn't read it until I was in my 30s and it made a big difference -about seeing other people (men) as just people and not wanted something from them -and about not placing more importance on your men friends than your women friends. Lots more but you've pretty much got it down. Treating your self with integrity precedes knowing how to treat someone else. God bless.

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MCJULIEO 1/18/2014 7:58PM

    Nailed it....

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DDOORN 1/18/2014 7:18PM

    Oh am I EVER with you on both counts: valuing myself more AND devoting myself more than EVER to taking care of my body the way that it deserves!

Cheers to blazing new trails and living your life to the FULLEST!

Don

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WINDMILLS18 1/18/2014 5:51PM

    I feel the same way. Loving myself enough before someone else does. Kudos to you for recognizing what you want and need for you and a potential relationship to be healthy!
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FINDINGJENJEN 1/18/2014 5:49PM

    I love the idea of falling in love with yourself first, so you can love others - a great reminder!

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JILLYBEAN25 1/18/2014 5:01PM

    Beautiful and beautifully stated!
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