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Grow Up" Emotionally!

Friday, January 17, 2014

I watched the day 12 video today and got a shock.

He talked today about being an adult vs. being a child emotionally. An adult makes a commitment and follows through without whining, making excuses or breaking promises. Adults accept delayed gratification. Children expect immediate gratification. They whine, make excuses, blame others and want to be cuddled and made to feel better by others.

Because I've reached maintenance for the second time with Sparkpeople, I already knew that I had to think differently than I did the first time if I wanted to continue maintaining. Today I expected to find that I hold adult beliefs about diet and exercise. It turns out I was half wrong.

The homework question was "how many child-like beliefs do you have about exercise?" My shocking answer was this statement: "I need an expert to run my strength training program. Huh. I didn't know I had that one. It's not true. I need to begin with what I know and at the same time do some research to find out the next thing to do." (Note: I do cardio almost every day, so it's not lack of exercise I'm talking about, but strength training.)

Wow. I still can't believe I wrote that first sentence. I've done strength training both by myself and under the guidance of a personal trainer years ago. I know proper form and even many of the's which exercises to do together and the number of sets and reps that confuses me at the beginning stage. So! Beyond the homework is taking action on my strength training. No more excuses. No more delays to beginning or half-hearted, quickly abandoned attempts. I'm strength training today and planning for the future.
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  • KANOE10
    I don't know about the exact science of weight training either. I just keep increasing my weights when they get too easy.

    That is a great step getting out and doing Strength Training !

    It is all too easy to fall into the childish excuse of I am upset and I need instant gratification. That was a good blog.
    1494 days ago
    Lots of resources available out there but there's also nothing wrong with getting some expert help if needed.
    1495 days ago
    When I read a Spark blog full of (more) excuses I'd like to point them to the Fat Loser video series! It's not that I don't want to be supportive, it's just that at some point it starts to feel more like "enabling!"

    Thanks for sharing your journey as you continue to learn and grow!
    1495 days ago
    I love the connection between strength training and "mental toughness" . . . yeah!

    Took a course in ST more than 30 years ago when there were literally no other women in the weights room: and I got a lot of glowering glances from "the guys". It's so wonderful that now the gym generally has about an equal mix of men and women: and sometimes the man will have to lower the weight on the machine I've been using !!!!
    1495 days ago
    Yah, I need to put on my big girl panties and do strength training too! Funny, I wrote a blog about emotions today too. Tell me again, is this a book you are reading? It sounds really valuable.
    1495 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/17/2014 6:58:08 PM
    Thanks once again for sharing your insight! I need to grow up about the strength training....I've been dragging my feet for years, and pretending like yoga gives me strength training by using my own body. May be some truth to that, but I would have to look in the mirror and say REALLY?! Because I wasn't even doing that regularly. Love your attitude!
    1495 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949

    Took me longer to answer these questions than any of the previous ones. Balked before digging deeper.


    1495 days ago
    Congratulations on day 12! Thanks for sharing your journey with us!
    1495 days ago
    Looking at your post, I realized I need to grow up....
    1495 days ago
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