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My life isn't my own

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Hi there. I'm a busy person. Going to work full time, going to college part time, taking care of my elderly mom, who lives with me, and a mom too. I have adult children. The older two I don't worry about as much because they are in their 30's with families of their own. so I'm a grandma too. My youngest pair are a bit trying getting their feet wet in the adult grown up world. One is going to college and plans to leave out on her own this summer as she tackles an university nearby. My other is a boy, interested in video games and having fun. He hasn't become serious with his life and is in search mode of what he wants do with it, but he's getting there...slowly. So my younger two come to me when they have a crisis. My mom depends on me to help her with medications and getting whatever she needs. My hubby depends on my to keep the household in good shape , paying bills, getting groceries.. whatever. He's mostly a "yard/car" person, not good at cooking, but can grill a mean steak. So indoors, he's not much help to me taking care of things. And that is why I'm so stressed most days. I'm so busy caring for other people that I have let myself lapse big time. I need to get my health in order. I have diabetes and now my recent labs show I have a "fatty liver" , although my enzyme tests are still normal. So exercise is what I got to do and eat well needs to be a priority. It's been a slow start. I'm hovering around 204 and need to lose 50 lbs. Well that's the goal. I was at 216 once, with high glucose readings, but I got those down, thank goodness. I exercised a lot once... I walked a lot once.. but the last six months of 2012 was overwhelming. I had gallbladder problems and just had it taken out about three weeks ago. So yeah, my life isn't my own.. but I want it back. So I'm here to get some motivation and track what I eat and how much I exercise. Hopefully, I can make steady progress this year. Hope to make some new friends for encouragement.
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COWGRRRL 1/22/2014 1:46AM

    You may have responsibilities but don't forget that you have a responsibility to yourself as well. And if you want to get really tough on yourself, or have a time where you feel guilty for taking time out for yourself you've got to remember one thing.
If you passed away tomorrow because of your health issues that could have been either mitigated or removed entirely by leading a healthier lifestyle, who would look after those that depend on you?

You're making an investment in your own future as well as in the future of those that rely on you. So be proud of yourself and TAKE that time. You deserve it, and so do they :D emoticon

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KMORRIS176 1/17/2014 11:14AM

    I know you can do this! Our stories are so similar. I also work full time, have three small children, take care of my 16 year old brother and my mom with cancer, and a manchild husband who does nothing around the house(except make me smile and laugh, he IS a great husband/father, just not a good maid). It can be done, but it's not easy. Finding time for yourself can make you feel guilty and sometimes you may even be guilted by those you try so hard to take care of, but being there for yourself needs to be number 1. Take those 30-45 mins a day and check out. Do something to raise your heart rate and sweat a little. I can't wait to see you dropping pounds and inches!!

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NHES220 1/17/2014 10:50AM

    You are where a lot of us started and you can do this. I started a little over a year ago with fatty liver, high blood pressure, weight about 205, working full-time, traveling for work, trying to keep the house in order, dealing with aging parents. I finally decided I had to take charge of my health. I started with SP, tracking my food, walking/elliptical, and started losing about a lb a week - sometimes less. Since I started with SP I have lost 45 lbs and I still have about 30 to go - I am short (5'2"). Now I am back to running, I got a Fitbit Flex and I do at least 10,000 steps most days and started back to strength training. I still have all of my other responsibilities - I just had to make myself the priority. I'll even walk in place while watching TV if I need to get my steps in.

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SILVER1369 1/17/2014 9:31AM

    You are not alone in how you feel. But you do need to take care of yourself before you are able to take care of the needs of others. If you do not you will not be able to take care of them. Sometimes it is very difficult to do but it is necessary. emoticon emoticon

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KTLASERS 1/17/2014 2:38AM

    Are you familiar with flylady? I think she could help you reclaim your life without losing control of your responsibilities. My life isn't my own, either, but we can't make that an excuse. If we don't take care of ourselves, we can't take care of others.


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DWROBERGE 1/17/2014 12:31AM

    Keep focused for success. You can do it too. Go for it.

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