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Wednesday, January 15, 2014

I'm under incredible stress at this time. I've been battling not going to comfort food. Yesterday was the first day I gave in, but at least I did it the right way. I split it in half (past bread bowl 700 calories) . I have half for lunch and half for dinner. I stayed within calories and know this is what it takes.

Update on my dad :

My dad did suffer a few minor strokes two weeks ago. It brought him back into our reality (where he again loves all the family, etc.) but it did damage to him that we don't know if he will ever get back to what he was.

He has lost a lot of short term memory. Anywhere from hour or two and you have to keep repeating what you've already told him. Not sure if that will ever change. The worst part is he also has delirium now. It's very scarey and he can get dangerous now. He thinks others are trying to kill him and it's like he can't tell the difference between his dream state and reality. He does realize that he has had confusion issues, but when someone is only broke 50% what do you do ?

IF he gets good nights sleep (with help of major meds) he is ok the next morning by by noon the confusion starts and if he doesn't take his meds by 8pm he refuses them and all hell breaks loose. He is in special care place but they are ready to send him home. It's scarey because he was having problems last night when we could visit and they say will be fine by Friday to release him. I'm scared for my mom to take him home because it could be really bad if he still has the wild delirium going and she is by herself with him. I'm scared of him going into long term facility and being ok half the day and him seriously not understanding why this is happening to him.

This will probably be the hardest thing I ever go through. It is the sadest thing I could have ever imagined to happen. We are dealing with losing the family farm so he can be taken care of, the 1/4 acre that belonged to my great, great grandfather at the lake will also have to go to the govt. to pay for his care. Then add the $10,000 legal fees to take care and figure out how this all plays out. It's AWFUL.

Please be aware. If you ever gift money or property, etc. to anyone, they must hold onto it and not use it for 5 years (in MO). The gov't (medicare/medicade) will penalize the person who gifted it if it isn't returned and medicade won't cover long term care.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
WHOVIAN3 1/22/2014 12:55PM

    sorry you are going through all this! It must be hard. My parents are getting up there now,and I wonder if either of them will go through this. Sorry you have to give up the farm! must be hard since it has been in the family for a long time. I will keep praying for you all

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CHICA_BORICUA 1/16/2014 8:04AM

  quick healing prayers for your father.

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CBRINKLEY401 1/15/2014 11:29PM

    I'm so sorry you are facing these difficulties.

Medicare/madicaid laws have changed so that the well spouse is not impoverished in order to pay for the needs of the one who may need to go into a long term care facility. I was advised of this when assisting a couple I worked for when one went into a nursing home. If you want more details, just send me a sparkmail and I'd be happy to pass along what I know.

Comment edited on: 1/15/2014 11:33:52 PM

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FISHINGLADY66 1/15/2014 9:53PM

    What an emotional issue to go thru. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's ailment. You and your mom and day will be in my prayers. God Bless you. emoticon

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DELIA38961 1/15/2014 4:48PM

    I hate that you have to go through this heart breaking ordeal ...take care

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PANFRIEDTROUT 1/15/2014 4:36PM

    my heart goes out to you and your Dad and Mom. I took the time to pray for all of you and if I could, I'd give you the longest hug ever (if you're a hugging person ... otherwise, I'd just sit by your side).

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COOP9002 1/15/2014 3:20PM

    Hope your dad continues to heal. Blessings upon you and your family during this challenging time.

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