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Real - False Friends (2014- Blog #14)

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

FOODS: My Real vs False Friends

I have decided that I need to lessen the impact and invasion of false friends into my life. I am talking about the foods that are my friends and the foods that are my false friends.

Food has pretty much always been my friend. I come from a background of almost no fast foods when growing up... I still remember my first visit to a Jack in the Box at about age 17. We were not well off, but somehow my mom always managed to bring the GOOD FRIENDS into the house: fresh vegetables, fruit, meats. She did not bring in the FALSE FRIENDS - those friends that seem to satisfy us easily - soda, sweets, fruit juices, processes foods...

My mom's cooking was delicious - ALL ingredients: GREAT FRIENDS! Preparation was simple, complex, varied, beautiful, enticing. She rarely used recipes except for pastries (and they were AMAZING!) so watching her cook was in essence learning to cook. We never ate a lot... just enough. I think I was very lucky that way. Our status quo was a home full of good friends.

Once I was out of my mom's house, FALSE FRIENDS started showing up. They showed up as fast food and sweets...And the truth is I welcomed them in... they sure seemed nice! I did not invite them in hoards but I did invite them in regularly. They nestled into my home as if they were going to stay forever. I acted as if they were going to stay forever.

For the past thirty years, it has been a home with mixed company; I have kept the good friends around all the time. I have relished in the simple, complex, varies, beautiful and enticing cooking. And... I have kept the false friends around as well. And without paying attention, I have let the false friends nudge themselves into my diet a bit too much.

Until now.. until I made a decision that I need to ask that essential question before I eat: Is what I am putting in my mouth and into my body going to help me or not. And as with an friendship, good friends are here to help and false friends has a way of hurting us even with the guise of "being friends."

My decision: Limit the impact of my false friends. Relegate my false friends to acquaintance status only. An occasional visitation is ok... but my true friends - healthy foods are going to get to stick around. I am not an all or nothing person in most things in my life... but I have control. I choose to have control over which friends to have around.

Make today a day full of good friends!


"It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not." James Gordon

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    McDonald's Sausage McMuffin keeps trying to tell me that we are BFFs. I keep kicking him to the curb, but he keeps inviting himself back in. For now, I've blocked all his calls and I go a different way to work so I don't pass his house. I have to do it to make sure this time the break up lasts.

    Loved your blog. It will stay with me as I make food choices.
    1528 days ago
    Excellent blog! I have to think about the friends in my kitchen right now...
    1528 days ago
    My Mom was and still is a really bad cook.....hence the false foods in the house when we were all in high school!
    1529 days ago
    Fantastic!!!! HOORAY for you!!! I can really relate ... my mom made everything from scratch - and was always mindful of eating healthfully. I can still hear her telling me "Put some color on your plate" Though I went the same route as you in college - I think my transition to being a veggie-eating machine was made so much easier by all those years of eating mom's cooking. I didn't even know food came in boxes till I was in college. lol Thanks for posting!
    1529 days ago
  • GOGIRL_93
    This is one of the best analogies I have read. Truly an excellent way to think of food and nutrition.
    1529 days ago
    I really like the analogy of relegating your false friends to an acquaintance status only. It shows moderation with some thought behind it. Great job! And great blog, too. P.S. You mountain is beautiful!
    1529 days ago
  • PEGGY11
    Such and accurate picture you have painted of how our foods react with us. emoticon False friends and true friends. emoticon I just love it. emoticon
    1529 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Love the way you think!
    1529 days ago
    Love the analogy!
    Here's to finding our emoticon foods!
    1529 days ago
    1529 days ago
    OH love this analogy. I am going to LIKE this so hopefully your reg. readers do and then more people will see it. I am going to think like this too!!! Thanks for the great idea and the awesome picture of your mountain. I think of my niece when I see your mountain.

    1529 days ago
    You are a terrific story-teller of a blogger... LOVED it! Spark on.
    1529 days ago
  • WILLIS9301
    A great way to reframe different foods! Thanks for the tip emoticon
    1529 days ago
    For now, I'm cutting off contact with "false friends". I also need to ask that essential question before I put a bite into mouth and focus on mindfulness. Great blog! emoticon
    1529 days ago
    I like your reflective blogs- and I am in awe of people who can cook wholesome all the time, as in daily. My Mom was not big on fast food, but we sure had a mix of quality food ( my Mom was huge on fruits and veggies) and quantity food ( my Mom was huge on cancy/chocolate sales) We had a full drawer of sweets to our disposal at all times.
    Keep us posted on how you are doing regarding this conscious way of eating and how it makes you feel.
    1529 days ago
    Excellent blog.
    1529 days ago
    This is a powerful way of viewing food.
    Thank you for sharing your insights.

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    1529 days ago
    What a beautiful way to put it and a beautiful way to look at it! I like it and I think I am going to use this kind of thinking as well! You wrote and especially wonderful blog today. emoticon
    1529 days ago
    emoticon We all need to keep our True Friends close!
    emoticon I have missed your Mountain!! It is good to see it again!!
    1529 days ago
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