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Day 11 Mental Toughness Training

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Steve Siebold shared in today's video that most people don't get this far, so if you have, you're doing well. Still excited? Or entering the season of pain? If so, he says "in the nicest possible way" (his words), "suck it up". He asks about "how are you feeling" just about every day. This was the first morning I personally felt I was toughing it out. Why? Who knows? But it really doesn't matter. If I want to get the results, I need to hang in there.

Today we continued on the self-talk topic, and on the brain operating based on our personal belief systems, automatically. Which led to a discussion of attitudes: skepticism based on fear, or risk-management based on abundance - what's yours?

On to the homework questions:

1. Are you more fear and scarcity-based or love and abundance-based in your thinking?

Today: For the most part, love and abundance based.

2012: In some areas of my life one, some the other. I am a skeptic. But it doesn't stop me from being proactive and taking action. When I succeed despite my skepticism, it fuels the love and abundance thinking.

========== commentary on difference:

The older I get the more I realize what a fortunate life I have had. I truly believe that changing minds is the key to upward mobility. Poverty is NOT just about money and lack of material things... it's about the inability to even CONCEIVE that abundance or could ever become available to you. This inability is based on life experience. Similar to the small cord that trains an elephant to be bound when he or she is young and weaker... poverty among children, obesity among children trains them to believe they can never have fitness, freedom and abundance!

Interestingly, I observed what has happened to my son, a returning veteran. For a year, he was in a part of the world where food was NOT guaranteed. He developed patterns of gorge-eating when edible calories were available. When he came home to a place where calories are abundant all the time AND the job was more sedentary AND some of his "fun" activities are too? Yep. Weight gain, because the mind-set and behavior around food had been trained. Now he's having to address how to not let it slide into obesity!

It is important to adjust as life changes around us, making sure that our conditioned patterns of thought and behavior ALSO get upgraded.

OK, I'll get off the soapbox and move on to

2. What are three beliefs you could program into your mind that would help you become fit and healthy?

Today: "I have the ability to handle anything that life throws at me." "The universe is conspiring to help me get everything I want." "I can achieve anything that I focus on with persistence."

I copied the three that Steve gave us in the video today. Why? Because they are applicable to fit and healthy living, as well as to everything else in life.

The first addresses the stress that we all encounter. The second combats any sense of persecution. The third reminds one of the importance of never giving up. GREAT beliefs to have at the core of automated thought and behavior.

2012: "I am an athlete in training." "I put my health first." "I am eating less but enjoying it more."

======== commentary on difference: In my fourth year of maintenance, the ones I put down two years ago are kind of already in place. The external factors, the broader statements from today support all of life.

3. In most areas of your life, are you following the masses or the super successful?

Today: I am somewhere in between. In some areas I feel like I'm BELOW the masses. In many, I am in a fortunate minority. I *do* believe in myself and my abilities. I don't always buy in to every goal that I was raised to think I "should" or even that society as a whole might have me aspire to.

2012: Somewhere in between. Lifestyles of the moderately successful?

======== commentary on difference/similarity: I don't think I'm much different from other people.

Overall comments: I've been very wordy today! I've been sort of arguing with not his premise but the broader implications of belief systems (and we're not talking religion here) on society. Considering the power of the media, the power of advertising, and the scarcity of THIS level of training for the masses!

Still, ignoring or not acting on what we *do* have access to will not help those masses. Only by becoming examples and SHARING the secret will we all be lifted up.

So, Spark on, my friends. LIFE is good, as we consistently, consciously, creatively become GRATEFUL for every single day! emoticon

Member Comments About This Blog Post:

    I liked your reference to your son. Hitting me in the socio-economic brain makes more sense to me. We live in a land of abundance. Many of us got here by a heritage that built these bounties, some by passport to the land of opportunity. That "freedom" includes choices in what, when and where we eat.
There is no need for me to gobble food because it is readily available and because it IS readily available I shouldn't think I have to get as much as I can.
Just like I turn off the water when brushing my teeth to conserve clean water I need to think about my food choices and think wiser. emoticon

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MSLZZY 1/14/2014 11:13PM

    I am adjusting to the mental toughness but find I am soft in too many areas. Time to toughen up! Thanks for sharing!

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DOGLADY13 1/14/2014 10:58PM

    You are doing really well getting back on track. I've watched other spark friends struggle to recover from weight gains and I realize just how easy it can be to give up. I find that I am getting so much encouragement from my friends who are in maintenance. Your reflections on how you catch yourself sliding and fixing it help me when I find myself sliding. It's all good. It's all good.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/14/2014 9:52PM

    Hope the "toughing it out" phase has passed. Thanks for all the thought-provoking questions and answers.

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MJREIMERS 1/14/2014 9:11PM

    You've come a long way, spark friend!

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WATERMELLEN 1/14/2014 8:10PM

    I can hear the "argument" going on here . . . this guy really does engage us and make us think.

Love the idea that the universe is "conspiring" to give me what I need: instead of me having to "conspire" out of fear of loss and scarcity to protect myself.

Your elephant with the simple cord image really works for me . . . and the effect of your son having experienced scarcity while serving his country.

Not battles we ever win once and for all. Self talk, self talk, self talk: the need for it doesn't end!

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STRIVERONE 1/14/2014 8:10PM

    I didn't register with because the site required my phone number, had no privacy policy, and gave an unsatisfactory answer when emailed to ask what they intended to do with my info.
But I am reaping the benefits of registration anyway just by following your detailed and thoughtful account.

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BOOKAPHILE 1/14/2014 2:22PM

    "It is important to adjust as life changes around us, making sure that our conditioned patterns of thought and behavior ALSO get upgraded. "

So true! Thanks, Barb.

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DLDMIL 1/14/2014 11:44AM

    Thank you for another great thought provoking blog. I love them and look forward to them every day. emoticon

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JACKIE15108 1/14/2014 11:27AM

    Interesting blog....the three beliefs are great!

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1CRAZYDOG 1/14/2014 11:07AM

    . . . three beliefs you could program into your mind that would help you become fit and healthy?

"I have the ability to handle anything that life throws at me."

"The universe is conspiring to help me get everything I want."

"I can achieve anything that I focus on with persistence."

Mind if I steal these too???? They are honestly awesome. NO matter what the goal, these 3 things help you achieve it. Thank you for sharing them!!


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HOT4FITNESS 1/14/2014 8:59AM

    This does sound very interesting and I plan on reading the book after the marathon is finished. One small step at a time for me. Keep up with that mental toughness

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KALIGIRL 1/14/2014 8:34AM

    "Lifestyles of the moderately successful?" emoticon How else could you answer such a question? Black and white, this or that, "suck it up" misses the point. (Sorry I'm soap-boxing now...)
While emoticon it's critical to know our triggers and motivations, I find it interesting that you feel you "need to hang in there". Your blog is filled with so much richer information, thought and feeling than addressing the questions.
Continued success my friend.

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BLUENOSE63 1/14/2014 8:13AM


Your progression over the past 4 years is a perfect example of how to maintain weight loss. Congrats.

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JUST_TRI_IT 1/14/2014 7:57AM

    This struck a chord: "It is important to adjust as life changes around us, making sure that our conditioned patterns of thought and behavior ALSO get upgraded. " I think we sink into old habits from a time way back in our lives. When we become awar, we can indeed to adjust.

Have a super day!

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GABY1948 1/14/2014 7:51AM

    ANOTHER GREAT and honest blog from you, Barb. I think that's why we are addicted to your blogs...we get the real deal and that is not common nowadays!

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