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If you’re not offending someone, you’re doing something wrong

Sunday, January 12, 2014

The secret to success is to offend the greatest number of people.
--George Bernard Shaw

Let's face it: It's difficult enough to be funny without worrying about what is going to offend whom.
--Alan King

“It's now very common to hear people say, 'I'm rather offended by that.' As if that gives them certain rights. It's actually nothing more... than a whine. 'I find that offensive.' It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. 'I am offended by that.' Well, so fu***** what."
--Stephen Fry

"It's not about going around trying to stir up trouble. As long as you're honest and you articulate what you believe to be true, somebody somewhere will become your enemy whether you like it or not.”
― Criss Jami

“Anything designed to be inoffensive isn't worth your time -- life itself is pretty offensive, ending as it does with death.”
― Holly Lisle

Offence is important; that's how you know you care about things. Imagine a life where you're not offended. So dull.
--Marcus Brigstocke

--In America today, if your sensibilities are offended by something that has happened, you get an enormous amount of credibility and are taken very seriously.
--Brit Hume


I offended somebody. I don't know how. I don't know why. I never even said anything personal to her. She went running to complain to the principal and I was put on the carpet. I went through a dreadful 24 hours of self-flagellation and intense feelings of inadequacy. And then I realized that I have saved myself the woe of knowing a very unpleasant person! Tant pis!
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  • LE7_1234
    Sometimes I wish SP had "Like" buttons. Not just for the blog, but the comments.


    1388 days ago
  • TREV1964
    Trying to please all of the people all of the time is something I consider a weakness. Is it me or are a lot of politicians therefore weak?

    Great set of quotes by the way.

    When you get up there and do something by the very nature of you - you are going to offend those out there that lead a mediocre existence because by you achieving you are reminding them of their failure to achieve themselves.

    Cheers

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    1403 days ago
  • AMY4593
    This is why I like you!!! I offend people daily!!
    1405 days ago
  • GOING4GOAL2014
    yes! When I am offended that's how I know I care.
    1406 days ago
  • KATD13
    Generally speaking, all this "You hurt my feelings" is BS. It is just a passive aggressive way to manipulate others.
    I have found it interesting that most people who claim to be offended, are really the most offensive.

    Now, there are things that are offensive and shouldn't be tolerated. (Exploitation of children, racism, animal abuse, along with some religious & political fanatics... ) And I have no problem calling someone out on that kind of crap.

    1406 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/13/2014 12:06:19 PM
  • SPARKCHANTAL
    thanks for the encouragement.
    1406 days ago
  • ILOVEMALI
    I figure that if I haven't annoyed someone, I'm not doing my job... but then, I'm a lawyer!
    1406 days ago
  • IMPROVINGME
    I'm sorry you had to go through 24 hours of unpleasant feelings, but what a great revelation you had later!

    These quotes that you found are just the ones I need right now, and I can especially relate to Criss Jami's statement "As long as you're honest and you articulate what you believe to be true..." and Brigstocke's statement "...that's how you know you care about things."

    Thanks so much for sharing all the quotes. I hope you're feeling much better about things now.
    1406 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/12/2014 10:43:03 PM
  • MONETRUBY
    Great response!
    1406 days ago
  • SERENE-BEAN
    Good attitude adjustment there! Way to rise above.
    1407 days ago
  • ADARKARA
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    1407 days ago
  • _BABE_
    Some people are looking for a reason to whine.

    I am with Sylphinprogress.....actually tried to compliment a sparker and in the progress she informed me she was offended....looked at the rest of her blogs and knew I was dealing with not a very content person.
    1407 days ago
  • POPSY190
    Retired teacher. Been there, experienced that. Now at a distance from it all I can see that the problem wasn't with me at all. I was caught up with others' insecurities and powerplays. I think your attitude is absolutely the only way to deal with these kind of situations. Kia Kaha, Natalie emoticon
    1407 days ago
  • FITNHEALTHYKAL
    If you offend someone you have touched them on some level! GREAT blog!
    1407 days ago
  • DOOBRIE
    She was just weird - sorry you went through a rotten 24 hours but glad you realised she wasn't worth worrying about in the end.

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    1407 days ago
  • SYLPHINPROGRESS
    Timing is everything and yours is brilliant. If you saw my feed about having been told to stand in the corner, it was by SP'ers who didn't appreciate my humor. Some people have little to do.
    1407 days ago
  • MINEA999
    Both of these sayings apply to me on a daily basis. You're obviously doing everything right!!
    1407 days ago
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