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No Longer Afraid

Saturday, January 11, 2014

I'm reviewing my blogs from 2009 to look for lessons I need to relearn and to celebrate those areas in which I've improved. I may end up identifying some ongoing issues, areas in which I still need to improve. As I approach the 5 year milestone of maintaining nearly an 80 pound weight loss, I'm not near as afraid of gaining it all back as I was 4 years ago. I didn't lose it overnight and I won't wake up fat tomorrow; I know I won't gain it back overnight either. I have had many, many slips and times when I ate more than I need. At times I could have made better choices, although portions are a bigger issue for me now than trigger foods and cravings.

Here's a rerun of my November 11, 2009 blog:
"My husband does the grocery shopping and I do the cooking. He started shopping probably six months after I began losing weight and eating healthier because I wasn't getting him the things he wanted. Right now his chips and potato salad are not tempting me. Even the leftover Halloween candy is not bothering me right now. A year ago it would have kept calling my name, but I'm comfortable co-existing right now.

"Whenever Gary buys things that are not that healthy, I use a little and add things I need. When he wanted to split a can of Chunky Campbell's soup this week, I gave him 3/4's of it. To my 1/4 I added fresh green beans and organic low sodium black beans. If I had split the can with him I would have been way over on sodium that day. For now, we are both happy with this arrangement."

Current day, it basically still works, although I don't hesitate to have a boca burger and canned low sodium tomatoes with some oregano/basil/thyme on my whole wheat pasta when he's having frozen meatballs and Ragu sauce on his along with Cheesy Texas toast. He might take a couple bites of the salad, while I'll have a big bowl. It works for us!
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WATERMELLEN 1/12/2014 10:21PM

    DH and I seldom choose the same foods -- when I ate what he can eat I weighted 230 pounds -- but we've learned a way to co-exist peaceably.

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MSLZZY 1/12/2014 4:46PM

    Whatever works but you seem to have reached a friendly compromise.

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GABY1948 1/12/2014 9:17AM

    Excellent ideas...and John and I co-exist the same ways with things that are "different" for us! He has always been what I call a "normal" eater and me, not so much...if ever!

As ALWAYS, Marsha, emoticon and emoticon blog!

Thanks and have a wonderful Sunday!

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MAUREENIE1 1/12/2014 5:13AM

    Thank you for the good ideas!

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TIME4CARRI 1/12/2014 2:06AM

    Sounds like a beautiful marriage! emoticon

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_LINDA 1/11/2014 11:23PM

    A common theme here -spouse eats anything they want while their loved one is trying to lose weight -you have got it figured out so you can live in harmony and still maintain!
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GRANDMABABA 1/11/2014 10:00PM

    Awesome!

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MEXGAL1 1/11/2014 9:52PM

    right on!

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DJ4HEALTH 1/11/2014 9:31PM

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NATPLUMMER 1/11/2014 7:52PM

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TRAVELGRRL 1/11/2014 7:36PM

    Too bad for him.

My husband's come along on the culinary journey with me, and eats the dinner I prepare. However he does have a stash of extras -- ice cream, donuts, Pringles -- that thankfully don't tempt me in the least.

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HDHAWK 1/11/2014 6:30PM

    Good ideas for the food. My husband does a lot of the cooking and brings lots of junk into the house. He never seems to need to lose weight even while eating junk. You've got a good system going!

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TAICHIDANCER 1/11/2014 3:19PM

    I'm a so glad you are revisiting your blogs and sharing the lessons learned. You have done what so few people have done: to lose a big chunk of weight and keep it off. The rest of us need to listen to what worked and what didn't for you. So, thanks.

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JOYINKY 1/11/2014 2:56PM

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BOILHAM 1/11/2014 2:17PM

    Good resistance to temptation. Good for you. I totally understand. My loving DW had a very hard time stopping spoiling me when i got real serious about diet. She'd continue to buy me the sweets and goodies I love. We talked about it, and i still ate some in moderation. She has gotten so much better now. She occasionally will ask me if I want any beer. LOL. Because I sometimes use beer as a reward to myself.
Keep up the good work!

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ROCKLAND2010 1/11/2014 1:49PM

    Thanks for sharing! What a great idea to look back and reconfirm lessons learned.
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BOOKAPHILE 1/11/2014 1:46PM

    Yep. My DH doesn't really eat the way I do, either. But we get along well. He usually likes high sodium things that I don't like. If he has a candy I DO like, he graciously keeps it hidden. If I don't see it, I'm not tortured by it...even if I know it's around somewhere!

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MNNICE 1/11/2014 1:32PM

    It works for us, too. Hubby is very good about getting at the store what I put on the list, as far as healthy versions. There are many things he's switched to that are "my" foods, but some he still prefers the less healthy versions. He prefers lasagna with ground turkey and whole wheat noodles, but doesn't like the whole wheat spaghetti. Small changes for him and learning moderation for me.

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AQUAGIRL08 1/11/2014 1:22PM

    I can't tell you how helpful it is to me to read your blogs and see that you had slip ups and still managed to achieve your goals. That really inspires me and keeps me from quitting when I feel low about my lack of progress! Together we achieve more!

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NEW-CAZ 1/11/2014 12:51PM

    DH and I have different meals most days, although both healthy I ADORE raw veg/salads even in winter while h favours veg laden casseroles ( too heavy for me).
But Sunday we both tuck into a traditional roast.
He still chomps on treats in "his cupboard" which I avoid like the plague LOL

Remember you're keeping yourself healthy Marsha, as WALLINMW says stay motivated! emoticon

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BLUENOSE63 1/11/2014 12:29PM

  I think one of the biggest struggle that people have in your situation is how to co-exist with a mate who eats whatever they want....all the tempting foods ie. potato chips, sauces on foods etc. Good for you for figuring it out.

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WALLINMW 1/11/2014 12:24PM

  Stay motivated!

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