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Today is our 31st wedding anniversary

Wednesday, January 08, 2014

Amazing. Where did the years go? I remember sitting on a plane with Ron the previous March, looking at a calendar and selecting a date.

Then the planning. Unlike weddings today, we were doing it on the cheap. It was a second marriage for us both, and back in 1983, most churches still wouldn't marry divorced people. Etiquette instructions for second marriages were no wedding dresses, no bridesmaids, no fancy anything. The theory was, I guess, that if you failed in a first marriage you would fail in a second. I wore a long white silk skirt, a silk blouse, and a sapphire blue silk velvet jacket, all hand made. A few years back I succumbed to the "if you haven't used it in a year, get rid of it", so I gave away the skirt and blouse. I wish I had kept them. I still have the jacket, though, and I am SO glad!

So here we are, 31 years later. His son and my three sons are all grown and gone, and parents of our grandchildren. We have lived in the same house for 28 1/2 years, and are surrounded by things that we acquired together, with just a couple of pieces from our first marriages.

My husband looks a lot older than he did then: what hair he has left is white, he walks with a stoop. I still look pretty much the same, but with glasses and highlighted hair. I was thin when I married him and weigh a few pounds less now.

Where do the years go?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MARILYN1984 1/21/2014 1:46PM

  Congratulations!! My husband and I will be married 30 years in October. We are a blended family also, a girl from my previous marriage and a boy from his. Here's hoping you have many more

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VTRICIA 1/17/2014 3:02PM

    Happy Anniversary! Our wedding was on the cheap too, I borrowed my sister's dress (which had always been the plan) and we just made sashes for my bridesmaids.

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LARSIL 1/9/2014 11:06PM

    Happy anniversary! And may you be blessed for many more!

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SUSANNAH31 1/9/2014 9:44PM

    Congratulations on your special day.
Most definitely, the marriage is much more important than the wedding. And you have a successful one, for sure.


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KAYYVAUGHN 1/9/2014 9:05AM

    emoticon That is a very sweet story. Thanks for sharing it with us.
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EVER-HOPEFUL 1/9/2014 8:43AM

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LADYRH 1/9/2014 5:29AM

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/9/2014 12:43AM

    emoticon It is very nice to read about you and how well you managed!

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NOMIS1 1/8/2014 10:43PM

Wishing you many more happy years together.

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REBELBLITZ 1/8/2014 9:02PM

    Happy anniversary. Many more to come!

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LESLIESENIOR 1/8/2014 8:35PM

    Happy, Happy Anniversary Nell. I posted our one of our teams that it is our Anniversary too, today. What a coincidence! Must have been a great day for starting long lasting marriages. We have 42 years today.
Woo Hoo to you and your hubby!!!!

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    emoticon Nell!

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TOKIEMOON 1/8/2014 7:20PM

    Congratulations Nell! You have quite a history with longevity (maintaining your goal weight, and many years with Ron).

I send my best wishes for many more happy years together and spending time with your kids and grandchildren! emoticon Denise

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AJDOVER1 1/8/2014 6:16PM

    Happy Anniversary! I wish you two many more years together. emoticon

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FISHINGLADY66 1/8/2014 5:43PM

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary.

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ZEEDRA 1/8/2014 5:02PM

    Congratulations! Time goes by...whether you're having fun or not. :)

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    Happy anniversary!!!

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DARLENEK04 1/8/2014 3:44PM

    Hi Nell,

Happy Anniversary to you and Ron....I think your outfit
sounds fabulous....

I never did understand the rules for weddings, so I did
it my way....the first one was divorced already, so we
found a minister and had his sister and BIL for witnesses.

David and I should have met earlier in life...we are so
happy together...when we married, we went to the courthouse
and they provided witnesses...the county judge married us.
Then I went to my home to pack my stuff and he came the
2nd week, we loaded the truck, went in and all got ready
and went to my church where my pastor gave us a church
wedding, and we had my friends from work and my 2 kids there,
who stood with us....

Blessings and Happy Anniversary,

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NASFKAB 1/8/2014 3:41PM

  emoticon lovely to be the same after so many years

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FLAGLINDA 1/8/2014 1:23PM

    emoticon Congratulations!! I wish you many more anniversaries!! Your wedding outfit sounds beautiful!

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CARRAND 1/8/2014 1:20PM

    I don't understand all the fuss about weddings these days, whether first or second.
I got married for the first (and hopefully last) time 42 years ago. I got married in a church, with about 30 people there. I made my own wedding gown, (which I still have) and I made my sister's bridesmaid gown. We had cake and punch in the basement of the church. The whole wedding cost about $300, and we're still married.
Now it seems like brides need to spend thousands on a dress, flowers, catered dinner, etc. and everything has to match her "colors" or she's not happy.
Congratulations to you for doing it the right way. The marriage is more important than the wedding.

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ALIHIKES 1/8/2014 12:39PM

Congratulations on your long and successful marriage!

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CELIAMINER 1/8/2014 12:18PM

    emoticon Nell! You and Ron did it right!

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TRAVELGRRL 1/8/2014 12:06PM

    Congratulations! I will be married to #2 for 25 years this year. We too had a wedding on the cheap -- outside in the park, with a prison chaplain and about 5 witnesses. Then lunch at a local restaurant for our parents + witnesses, and that was it!

I can't tell you where the years go, but if you find out, let me know because a bunch of mine are missing too!

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_LINDA 1/8/2014 11:35AM

emoticon on finding your soul mate the second time around!
That outfit sounds gorgeous! I didn't realize there were rules for 2nd marriages.
Looking the same as you did 30 years ago and even weighing less -very well done!
Keep up the great work!

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DAISYBELL6 1/8/2014 11:29AM

    Sounds like the years were well used!


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GABY1948 1/8/2014 11:27AM

    emoticon and thanks for sharing you beautiful story! Time does fly...I think that every day!

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DBALZER 1/8/2014 11:14AM

    Happy Anniversary! Congrats on 31 years together!

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DR1939 1/8/2014 11:07AM

    emoticon The wedding outfit sounds fabulous.

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DRLMAZ 1/8/2014 10:34AM

  Happy anniversary. Thanks for sharing your story

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