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Monday, January 06, 2014

First of all, thanks for posting your opinions about my Dad.

Things have changed drastically since I have last blogged.

My Dad had really bad pains in his belly on Jan 1st. Basically less than 24 hours after I posted the last blog. My Mom must have heard my voice in her head, because she took action and it's about time. She called the ambulance. Needless to say, they took her to the hospital in the city instead of my smaller town. Why? They think he had internal bleeding and that could be treated in a bigger hospital.

So, we drove into the city and as soon as my Dad saw me coming down the hallway, he said to me (in his highly morphine drugged state) that I was right. He should have gone to the hospital yesterday. He said he probably wouldn't have made it through the trip. Yet I was going to call the ambulance to pick him up since I already figured that out.

Needless to say, he was in the emergency department and getting cranky and really irratiable because he knew he was going to get a upper GI scope, yet they didn't come for him right away. He ended up waiting almost 2 days for that.

He is very weak. He's getting a CT scan today to find out what is going on in his belly. The doctor that has him under his care there, wants to get him better so he can go home again. "WHAT!!!!??????"

He is a DNR.

So, I have been at the hospital everyday except for today. I have been with my Mom. I have been making sure she is eating breakfast, lunch and something for supper. I have been making sure she is getting her sleep. We have been staying in a hotel every night. Yesterday, my Mom was in such a good mood and being funny. It's been a long time since I have seen her use her sense of humour! It was wonderful! She said she's been the most rested since...EVER!

I'm happy for Mom, yet I am sad for her. She is going through so much right now. She's happy one minute, then upset. I cannot imagine what she's going through.

As for me. I've been her rock. My brother seems alright with Dad being in the hospital (like there was a choice). He has been there every day as well. My sister on the other hand...She shows up and starts bossing my Mom and me around about what we should be doing. (She's really cheap and thinks that my Mom should go home every night. Save money.) Mom lives an hour away from the city. Her car doesn't work very well and the roads are awful. Yeah, like that's going to happen.

Dad is demanding. Although, he is really drugged. He can't get up. He has a nasal tube that goes into his stomach. Why? They're pretty sure there is blockage since all that is coming out is bile. He doesn't get food and he has major cramps/pains in his belly.

So, here I am. Home finally and feeling somewhat guilty I'm here. Not much though. Mom and my siblings know that I have kids, a husband and a household to run. Laundry needs catching up on. (The kids have been trying, but some things are just out of their league, like delicates). :)

I have to get the truck fixed because my heater fan isn't working that well. I have so much to do. It's amazing what falls behind here if you're not around for a week.

I missed my kids and I'm glad to be back home. Yet...Mom needs me and my family understands that.

Sorry if I have given too much information. I just type what is running in my head.


Hope you guys are doing well with losing the weight. I myself have lost 3 lbs.

Take care!
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    So sorry to hear your news about your dad. A very stressful time for all of you. Think of you emoticon emoticon and your family often.
    1503 days ago
    I will send prayers your way my friend! Bravo for losing weight during this trying time. You have been a rock and have really stepped up for your family! Let your children and husband take care of you during this time. I know it sounds foreign since this is our jobs being mothers and wives. What you have shown them all their lives is how to take care of the ones you love. Give them the opportunity to step up for you and I know they will. Hugs...
    1504 days ago
  • GAL7288
    I should have read this one first! I am glad he is in the hospital, he will be better taken care of there but I can't believe the doctor wants him out. I guess you can expect that from big hospitals. Don't feel bad about not being in the hospital with him or your mom, you need rest too! Your family needs you too. You are going through a very difficult time and whatever break you can get, even if minimal is good for all of you guys. I can't imagine what you and your mom, well really your family is going through but hang in there. BTW three lbs is three lbs lost! So congratulations, eat well though and rest as much as you can. Hugs
    1504 days ago
  • SHEILA1505
    Big hugs, P
    I'm glad that your Dad is in hospital, and you and Mom can have a break as well as time together.
    1504 days ago
    Prayers for you and your family. Take some time to relax.
    1505 days ago
    Oh, so sorry you are going through all this! What a lot of stress for you. Don't feel guilty being home. It sounds like you have been really there for your mom, and I'm sure she appreciates it. Hang in there and make sure to take care of yourself.
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    1505 days ago
    I'm glad your dad went to the hospital. You have siblings who can stay with your mom for a while when you have to go home. You need to once in a while to keep your sanity!
    1505 days ago
  • MJRVIC2000
    Have a GREAT NEW YEAR and God Bless YOU! Vic.
    1505 days ago
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