Here I am for the Moment.
Monday, January 06, 2014
First of all, thanks for posting your opinions about my Dad.
Things have changed drastically since I have last blogged.
My Dad had really bad pains in his belly on Jan 1st. Basically less than 24 hours after I posted the last blog. My Mom must have heard my voice in her head, because she took action and it's about time. She called the ambulance. Needless to say, they took her to the hospital in the city instead of my smaller town. Why? They think he had internal bleeding and that could be treated in a bigger hospital.
So, we drove into the city and as soon as my Dad saw me coming down the hallway, he said to me (in his highly morphine drugged state) that I was right. He should have gone to the hospital yesterday. He said he probably wouldn't have made it through the trip. Yet I was going to call the ambulance to pick him up since I already figured that out.
Needless to say, he was in the emergency department and getting cranky and really irratiable because he knew he was going to get a upper GI scope, yet they didn't come for him right away. He ended up waiting almost 2 days for that.
He is very weak. He's getting a CT scan today to find out what is going on in his belly. The doctor that has him under his care there, wants to get him better so he can go home again. "WHAT!!!!??????"
He is a DNR.
So, I have been at the hospital everyday except for today. I have been with my Mom. I have been making sure she is eating breakfast, lunch and something for supper. I have been making sure she is getting her sleep. We have been staying in a hotel every night. Yesterday, my Mom was in such a good mood and being funny. It's been a long time since I have seen her use her sense of humour! It was wonderful! She said she's been the most rested since...EVER!
I'm happy for Mom, yet I am sad for her. She is going through so much right now. She's happy one minute, then upset. I cannot imagine what she's going through.
As for me. I've been her rock. My brother seems alright with Dad being in the hospital (like there was a choice). He has been there every day as well. My sister on the other hand...She shows up and starts bossing my Mom and me around about what we should be doing. (She's really cheap and thinks that my Mom should go home every night. Save money.) Mom lives an hour away from the city. Her car doesn't work very well and the roads are awful. Yeah, like that's going to happen.
Dad is demanding. Although, he is really drugged. He can't get up. He has a nasal tube that goes into his stomach. Why? They're pretty sure there is blockage since all that is coming out is bile. He doesn't get food and he has major cramps/pains in his belly.
So, here I am. Home finally and feeling somewhat guilty I'm here. Not much though. Mom and my siblings know that I have kids, a husband and a household to run. Laundry needs catching up on. (The kids have been trying, but some things are just out of their league, like delicates). :)
I have to get the truck fixed because my heater fan isn't working that well. I have so much to do. It's amazing what falls behind here if you're not around for a week.
I missed my kids and I'm glad to be back home. Yet...Mom needs me and my family understands that.
Sorry if I have given too much information. I just type what is running in my head.
Hope you guys are doing well with losing the weight. I myself have lost 3 lbs.