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New Year - 2014

Thursday, January 02, 2014

Happy New Year! Can I tell you how glad I am that it is a new year? Not only that, I feel like I have a connection to the year 2014 since my birthday is 2-14 and all.'s kind of like the same numbers. I feel that means 2014 will be a good year for me. And I am certainly needing a good year after the way 2013 slowly went downhill all the way until the end.

How did I spent my New Years Eve? Watching my DVR, cuddled up on my couch with my dog, until I went to sleep at around 9:30pm. Very exciting. I did make a red curry chicken in my slow cooker and it was delicious! I also switched my cell phone service provider and got a new phone - great way to start the year off fresh. And I wasnt as upset as I thought it would be, so that is good.

New Years Day I spent about 2 hours cleaning up my craft room (it was a disaster before I left for Christmas) and my bedroom, finally unpacking, etc. I made a chili in my slow cooker during the day, and I spent considerable time working on a cross-stitch project and reading a book.

I'm determined to remain positive, and I've set some goals for this year to help me do just that.

So I'd like to talk a little bit about each one.

1. Read 45 books.
In 2013, I set a goal to read 40 books, and I finished out the year having read I believe 36. So close! I decided to set my goal higher in order to encourage me to read even more. I know that it might be a bit of a reach goal, but I know I'll be happy to read more this year.

2. Lose 10lbs.
In 2013, I set a goal to lose 15 lbs. I ended up losing a total of 8lbs by the end of the year - all of which occurred after I figured out that I am sensitive to gluten. Go figure. I still eat roughly the same amount of calories and I am rarely hungry and rarely have stomach pains anymore! So I know this works for me. Right now I am at about 140, and I will be happy to be at 130 by the end of next year and I think this is completely doable.

3. Run 4 half marathons and set a new PR.
I definitely want to run more races this year. I am already set to run the Disney Princess Half Marathon at the end of February. I am thinking about running the NJ Half Marathon in April, and then I will just need to find 2 more. There are tons of half marathons all throughout the year in Colorado, so I dont think finding a race will be difficult. Running 4 races will keep running a priority for me this year, and hopefully with consistent training I will be able to set a new PR. My current PR is 2:11. It would be great to break 2:10 this year!

4. Make some new friends.
The worst part about this recent break up is that I dont have any real friends around here. I am really shy and it is hard for me to meet people outside of work. But I am going to take the energy that I had been using trying to fix my relationship, and use it to put myself out there and make some new friends. I have joined a few new meetup groups, and I recently RSVPed to 2 events. The hard part for me is actually going to them. It was hard for me to even go to my dance classes initially back in September, but I am so glad that I did. I have to keep that same attitude and really try to reach out and meet new people so that I have some people I can socialize with.

5. Take and pass another state bar exam.
If you have been my spark friend for a while, you probably know that in 2011, prior to J and I starting to date, I wanted to separate from the Air Force. I even set out to take the NY Bar exam, but since J and I started dating around that time, I didnt study much and ended up failing by about 10 points. In 2012, I still wanted to separate from the Air Force, but I felt stuck. I was scheduled to deploy at a time I would have been doing my job hunting and when my deployment was cancelled, I felt torn between separating and likely moving back to the East coast where I am licensed (NJ), or staying in so that J and I could be together (because I thought we had a future). When I was offered my current assignment, I couldnt turn it down because I knew it would be huge for me, regardless of whether I remained in the Air Force afterwards or not. I signed a new contract that lasts until March 2015. 15 months from now. Over the past 6 months, I have begun again wondering what I will do when my contract ends and have contemplated on a weekly basis taking another bar exam. I frequently have conversations with my Air Force friends about what will happen after this assignment - I worry that I will no longer do "lawyer" jobs, which will make it harder when I do decide to leave the Air Force. I havent made a decision yet, but given the past 2 years it's constantly been in my mind to leave the Air Force, I am doing what I can to set myself up for being able to make that decision. I've decided to take another state bar exam this summer.

I am currently licensed in the state of NJ. I dont revel in the thought of moving back to NJ, though I want so badly to be closer to my family. Moving back to NJ wouldnt be the worst thing that could happen to me, though. But I have decided that I will take the Pennsylvania state bar exam. I loved living in Pennsylvania when I was in college, pretty much all of my college friends still live in Pennsylvania. It's much closer to my family. Even if I dont leave the Air Force next year, it wont hurt to be licensed in another state for when I do make the decision to leave in the future. This has been a huge decision for me. One I've been mulling over for at least 6 months now, and I feel like the breakup has given me the freedom to be able to make the decision to take another bar exam, and the freedom to eventually make the right decision for myself with regard to my future on active duty in the Air Force.

6. Complete at least 4 quilts.
I've come to love quilting! It's so relaxing, and I was so impressed with the final result of my mom's quilt. I am looking forward to making more!

7. Complete at least 2 scrapbooks.
I used to be a big scrapbooker when I was in college and law school. I did some scrapbooking periodically when I still lived in Phoenix, but really just fell of the wagon after moving to Colorado. I am starting to get excited about scrapbooking again, and I want to complete my law school scrapbooks finally, and work on some scrapbooks from my time after law school... I am about 5 years behind on my scrapbooking, so I know this will be a work in progress!

Overall, the really big theme this year for me is being happy. Doing what will make me happy on my own. Getting back to the things that I know make me happy, but I have maybe set aside for a while because my focus was elsewhere. And making the decisions that will ultimately make me happy in the future. I look forward to the freedom to be able to plan my own future the way I want it to be.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MIRAGE727 1/3/2014 12:20PM

    Love that you have a plan! Stay strong, focused, and own your life! You are moving on!

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MICHELELYNN777 1/3/2014 10:43AM

    You have set some really good goals and have set up a plan to achieve them. I am inspired by your determination!
Happy New Year!

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CINDYTW 1/3/2014 1:22AM

  Good for you, finding things to help you move on and move into better things. I would definitely not recommend moving to NY unless you like taxes!! We have a lot of great things here, but the taxes and cost of living will kill ya! And I don't mean NYC.

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CARADAWN 1/2/2014 10:27PM

    It is great to look forward at what you can achieve in the upcoming year emoticon I like your personal and fitness goals and hope they will bring you happiness.

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MAYBER 1/2/2014 10:11PM

    Best wishes with your bucket list
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SHOPGIRL519 1/2/2014 7:41PM

    Hey love!

Just spent a bit of time catching up on the last few blogs you've written. You seem so strong and I am so proud of you for handling what has been thrown at you the last few days. Things are very rough right now, but you will get through it a stronger, better woman. I have faith in you :)

Text me if you need to talk! I know we haven't done that in a while, but we definitely should!!

Thinking of you lots :)
xo, Erin

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SLIMLEAF 1/2/2014 6:48PM

    I like reading your blogs. I feel I'm beginning to get to know a new friend!

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    I'm catching up on blogs today and I am very sorry to hear about your break up. I know it must be so tough but it sounds like you have a great plan to be happy in the New Year! I hope you are successful at all of your goals!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 1/2/2014 1:52PM

    Great goals, and I have to say you are already sounding happier! emoticon

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HEALTHYLADY12 1/2/2014 11:32AM

    Wow, I think its great you have a craft room, for it being "messy" thats awesome. It means that you were busy. What an inspiration you are to have so many hobbies. One of my goals this year is to take on 4 to 5 hobbies and inspire others. Having hobbies are great. I am sorry about your break up. I have the same goals almost about the PRs . Lets connect this year. Being shy is great but coming out of your comfort is better too.

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