Monday, December 30, 2013
So my buddy and I decided to start over last week. We had both gained weight over the holidays and found ourselves binge eating. We agreed that if the binge impulse hit, we would make one small change--we would binge on healthy foods rather than unhealthy foods.
When we checked in today we discovered that both of us had heard and taken action on one word of the agreement--to binge. Both of us had binged on unhealthy foods. We both gained weight. The agreement we made, had sparked a ton of resistance and had helped us, in the short term, to become unhealthier rather than healthier.
Or did it? Today we spoke about what had happened. We learned that choosing where to start, starting and noticing the results of our actions were all possible and instantly do-able, and agreed that we had done these things. We each thought about what we did. Realizing our actions didn't work, we made a new agreement and another appointment to check in and to evaluate our actions.
What we didn't learn was how to eliminate failure. We learned, instead, something about how to use it.