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Moving Forward

Friday, December 27, 2013

One of my biggest challenges is letting go of the past. I tend to mull over each mistake or difficult situation over and over to figure out what went wrong or what I could have done differently. Not that those things are bad per se, but what I am talking about is DAYS of re-running the past in my head, to the point that I am missing out and ruining my present. I am not sure of the clinical term for this unhelpful thought pattern, but that is what I do. All. The. Time.

This causes much anxiety and leads me to unhealthy overeating. Big Problem.

One of my goals this New Year is for me is to work on this, and stop doing this so much. I will stay more in the present moment and look and MOVE FORWARD. I can't change the past so there really is no point in dwelling there.


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TREV1964 12/29/2013 2:26PM

    Great stuff - we are all hopefully walking forward together.



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MARIAJESTRADA 12/29/2013 8:33AM

    Awesome goal!

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REFFIE1 12/28/2013 7:40PM


Sometimes a little inspirational quote can help! This one by Maya Angelou helps me not dwell on past mistakes.

I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better. emoticon

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ANNMACP0212 12/28/2013 3:00PM

    Good luck trying to overcome it!!! I'm hopeful for you!

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KNYAGENYA 12/28/2013 1:45PM

    I do the exact same thing. What a wonderful way to start the New Year by not looking back. Good luck to you.

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SANDYSHORES24 12/28/2013 1:24PM

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CHERIJ16 12/28/2013 12:38PM

    If you believe it you can achieve it.

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WORKNPROGRESS49 12/28/2013 12:08PM


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GAILANN48 12/28/2013 8:35AM

    Oh, my goodness, how very true. Good for you to set your resolve to remain in the present! I love the posters you chose, especially the marquee...need to post that on my wall! So as you master this walk, will you promise to share the HOW? I don't think you'll find yourself alone in your intention to let go of what's past.

May 2014 be the grandest year of all (so far!).

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FERRETLOVER1 12/28/2013 8:18AM


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BABYSOX 12/28/2013 7:19AM

    That sounds like a great self improvement tip. Good luck!

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FELINEBETTER 12/28/2013 7:02AM

    Sometimes I just think of the brilliant words of John Lennon & Paul McCartney:

"Let it be." That's a mantra I use often to stop myself in my own tracks!

Together we can do this.....

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JIBBIE49 12/28/2013 12:46AM


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DELIA38961 12/28/2013 12:14AM

    emoticon have you tried yoga or qi kong ? it has been a big help for me dealing with depression, anxiety and stress

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MICKEYH 12/27/2013 11:30PM

    emoticon emoticon You are not alone, I too looking back past and get depressed. And you and I already figured out what is the best thing for us. emoticon emoticon

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HELEN_BRU 12/27/2013 11:24PM

    You'll enjoy this. I have a 92 year old friend who phones me long distance quite often and it's the same conversation over and over again. What she has learned by going into the past mainly now but instead of trying to guess her future she is now trying to decide who she will be reincarnated as when she comes back!

I hope it never gets to that point with you. . . LOL

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LINDA! 12/27/2013 11:03PM

    I am also one that has spent too much time looking back at so many choices/decisions in my life. You are so right. It definitely does cause anxiety. I have tried to make changes, including meditation to relieve stress.

Good luck. It is not easy to change our mindset.

Happy 2014! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/27/2013 10:57PM

    I hope that you really nail this goal. People spend way too much time in the past and the future. We need to make the most of today.

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