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Thinking of Them Tonight and Missing Them Terribly

Monday, December 23, 2013

No parent should ever have to bury their child, its not the way life is suppose to go.

You're suppose to grow old with your spouse and enjoy grandchildren.

6 Christmases without you. 6 Christmases that I've had to endure. Christmas isn't the same anymore. It doesn't have that magical feeling to it anymore. Many of the last few years its felt like just another ordinary day on the calendar. Some years we've not even decorated. I just didn't care.

We decorated this year. The tree is up and the house is decorated. But something is missing...

I've moved forward with life, just like I know you'd want me to do. I'm happy and have been for quite awhile. It doesn't stop me from thinking back to our last Christmas together though. The excitement of a new duty station, being closer to family, Maddie getting to know her stepsister, getting to enjoy shore duty finally. It was all taken away in the blink of an eye. Everything we had dreamed about and talked about just gone.

I hope your enjoying time with each other, Aunt Heather, and all of the great grandparents. Oddly enough I'm comforted knowing she has grandmas in Heaven.

Give Maddie a hug for me and know I'll always love you.
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RUTHE_51 12/23/2013 9:50PM

    I feel some of your pain this year as you know. I hurt for you and am so grateful for the comfort and wisdom you have given me. I will carry you in my heart throughout the rest of the season as I have been.

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MALAMI518 12/23/2013 8:44PM

    There are no words that can help, but I am thinking of you as you struggle through these difficult days. What a sweet, adorable daughter and handsome husband!

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CM_GARDNER78 12/23/2013 10:34AM

    Thinking of you! ((HUGS))

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IMAGINE_IT 12/23/2013 9:45AM


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TORTISE110 12/23/2013 6:59AM

    Thinking of you during the tough holiday times when you miss your daughter and husband. Take care.

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SAASHA17 12/23/2013 6:58AM


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AMARILYNH 12/23/2013 6:51AM

    There are no words to express my sorrow that you had to/have to go through this. You are so RIGHT - no parent should have to go through this. Sending hugs and prayers for you to find peace.

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FITNHEALTHYKAL 12/23/2013 6:38AM

    emoticon for Maddie in Heaven...
I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below
With tiny lights like Heaven's stars reflecting the snow.
The sight is so spectacular- please wipe away the tear
For I'm spending Christmas with Jesus this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear
But the sound of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here
I have no words to tell you the joys their voices bring
For it's beyond description to hear the angels sing

I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart
But I am not so far away, we really aren't apart.
So be happy for me dear ones you know I hold you dear
And be glad I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

I sent you each a special gift for my heavenly home above,
I sent you each a memory of my undying love.
After all love is a gift more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.

Please love and keep each other as my Father said to do.
For I can't count the blessing of love he has for each of you.
So have a merry Christmas and wipe away that tear.
Remember I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.

This poem was written by a 13 year old boy named Ben.
He died of a brain tumour that he had battled with for over four years.
He lost the fight on December 14 1997 and gave this poem to his mum before he died.


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SHELTIE2013 12/23/2013 5:37AM

    So sorry for your loss. So glad and I am sure you are right that the ones we lose don't want us to be left suffering. emoticon

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RASPBERRY56 12/23/2013 5:24AM


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MARYBETH4884 12/23/2013 4:54AM

    emoticon you will be in my prayers this week. I'm glad you can find comfort in the fact that she and Josh are surrounded by family and together.

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SUSANELAINE1956 12/23/2013 3:29AM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. emoticon

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JUDYAMK 12/23/2013 2:57AM

    I am so sorry. My head pharmacist 21 year old son died unexpectedly they never found out why. One of the girls at work said to him ( and this was years after his sons passing,,) Leo was talking about his son and Linda said yes I know. He turned around and said to her " no you don't know how I feel,because you never had a child pass away "
I have no children and not by choice. We have a nephew that was with us every day even staying with us most of the time. We loved him then and still love him. I could never in the depth of my soul imagine something ever happening to him.
I pray for out Lord to give you strength
take care

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FALLENLEAVES28 12/23/2013 2:37AM

    I'm so sorry.

I pray she's in Heaven and enjoying Christmas with your other family members. I pray she is at peace and away from all sources of pain. I pray that she is happy and I pray for her family members on Earth. I pray that they stay strong and pray to her. That they think well of themselves and that they heal from her absence. In Jesus's name I pray...AMen.


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ROXIGIRL 12/23/2013 1:54AM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I sincerely hope that will find happiness in your life. emoticon

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ALICIA214 12/23/2013 1:42AM


It is very hard to out live your child ,it is something you learn to live with but never get over.

God Bless....

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