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Channeling Anger

Sunday, December 22, 2013

“In your anger do not sin.” (Eph. 4:26)
I cannot abide bullying. It's worse when it occurs under my roof. I realize there are different means of child-rearing, and no "one-size fits all." I don't want to interfere with my Son-in-Law-ISH when he DOES interact with his kids. So when he started yelling at my sensitive (and emotionally immature) seven-year-old grandson for crying because he was upset over what happened at breakfast (ANOTHER story altogether), I had to leave the living room, storm up to my room, and slam the door. In my sanctuary I hollered, "You're a BULLY!" and pounded my fist against my palm, much like a gorilla would pound its chest. Then I flung all the coats that had been piled on my exercise bike (awaiting their sorting which supposedly was going to be yesterday, according to same son-in-law-ish) and pedaled. I haven't pedaled that fast for a long time. Amazing what the adrenalin (fight or flight? I would like to fight!) rush can do! I put in a full 30 minutes, praying meantime. Praying that this man, whose own father was also a bully, would know JESUS better. Because Jesus came to reveal the Father. And that is NOT what our Heavenly Father is like! YES He disciplines us. But He doesn't put us down! He shows us our wrong, He leads us to repentance. We may have to endure chastisement, but His judgment is tempered with mercy.
And in the process of prayer I also saw opportunities to learn from first-hand observation, for subjects for sermons on next mission trip - because I know son-in-law-ish is not alone in how HE was brought up. There are a lot of wounded people in the world. And Jesus came, revealing the love of the Heavenly Father. So, if I would be like Jesus, I must prepare to do likewise.
Anyway, I got a good workout out of it. GRRR!
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  • JANETELIZABETH1
    It's a tough subject and of course we can't interfere with how our grandchildren are being raised. I pray a lot for my grandsons also...
    1302 days ago
  • DIANEMAR
    I listened to a great program on our christian radio station about how many women are taught to put up with abusive behavior because they are told it is the christian thing to do. The councelor talking put out there, that love is also 'truth', so not to hold someone accountable for their behavior and suffer concequences was not living in truth. Case in point, a man was verbally abusing his wife and she told him if he did it again she would go to a hotel for the night. no argueing, just leaving. After he paid for a few hotel bills he got the point. I had to leave ron when the kids were little because he got out of hand with discipline and i wish I had done it earlier. It changed the situation totally, he became a much better man, and I also had to take responsibility for standing by and allowing it, I had to apologize to the kids and so did he, and we let it be known it was OUR problem, not theirs.

    Maybe you could share this with your daughter, and pray and come up with a solution. The one being hurt cannot defend himself from this.
    1305 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/24/2013 8:53:22 AM
  • MOMMA_BEAR_69
    WAY TO GO on venting your anger in a great way and getting a good workout in!!! I will pray for him also and for your seven-year-old grandson. Glad that you will be able to seize the opportunity for message to help the wounded people of the world...where every you are.
    GOD is GREAT and MERCIFUL!!!
    Prayers, blessings and hugs,
    Helen
    1307 days ago
  • SAGE150
    I think that was a very good use of your pent-up anger to pedal it away to some extent, especially when the rest of the house is occupied and you have little sanctuary to yourself.
    1307 days ago
  • BLONDEE53
    Many have been "wounded" and I am one...but without Jesus, one makes excuses for bad behavior rather than seeking a changed heart and life...in my opinion. Until one accepts responsibility for his/her actions, and is allowed to continue acting like a heathen, with no repercussions, nothing changes. Forgiveness is needed...and change is necessary. (In all of us!)
    1307 days ago
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