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Heart Attack!

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Sunday, December 22, 2013

Not me - but my darling Himself had one. Friday night. Or Saturday morning rather, about 4 a.m. he woke me. He was in pain and it wouldn't go away. This, alas, is heart attack #2. I didn't hesitate - but was up and dressing within seconds.

I must say - if you have to have a heart attack, 4 a.m. is probably a good time - there's no traffic on the roads so you can drive fast, there's nobody in the ER waiting room so you won't pick up germs or have to wait ... not that people having heart attacks are made to wait in ERs anyway - but it's nice to be breezed on through. We are lucky in that our local hospital has a crackerjack cardiac ER team - though this is a tiny rural hospital and they don't actually do heart surgeries. They have a helipad and there is a medical transport system too. But they got him on prep meds before he left our local hospital and his cardiologist was waiting for him at the ER in the bigger city hospital 37 minutes away.

Even more wonderful - I had forgotten that a cousin of ours is on staff in the ER at the city hospital - and she was there waiting for me when I got there - quite a bit more than 37 minutes later. I was slower not just because I didn't have a siren, flashing red lights nor the skill to drive faster than the speed limit. I also had to get a cell phone. I'm not much of a phone caller. I am easy to find in one of two places - at home or at work. My life isn't a cliff-hanger life that needs instant access. My only child is grown. Good news can wait. Bad news will keep hammering at my door till I finally answer. And I have never liked using a telephone ... period. Even when I was a teen I didn't like to talk on the phone.

but I needed one yesterday. So before I left to follow the ambulance I went to our local Walmart. I said to the girl at the electronics department "My husband is on his way to Richmond for heart surgery - I need a phone - I don't want to spend a lot - can you help me?"

Oh boy. Could she ever. With the most tender manner, with gentle but sincere expressions of sympathy, she took me over to the rack, picked out the $15 flip phone, suggested I get the unlimited minutes card, opened the box, set up the phone and handed me my security code and new phone number while I stood at the check out counter. I was set to go.

Yes. I am sending a letter to the store manager AND to Walmart headquarters. This is outstanding service. She deserves to have her great big heart recognized.

And DID you know McDonalds has an egg WHITE mcMuffin? only 240 calories! Yeah. Me neither. I'd already scooped up a bag of apples and a cluster of (thank God) ripe bananas in Walmart. All I needed was some protein.

At the Bigger City Hospital, while the ER registration people were trying to find out where my husband was, the door flew open and out strode my cousin Mary Stewart - who works in that hospital's ER! I'd forgotten. She'd already been in to hug Himself and now she was on the look-out for me. Talk about comfort. whew! It was as if ... now I knew MS was on hand everything was going to be alright.

And in fact, everything was alright - considering it was a heart attack. The staff was tender - I know - they're trained to be - but I still appreciate it SO MUCH. And the wait was not too long. And Himself was awake enough for me to hug and kiss both before he went in and as they wheeled him out of surgery. He was pretty dopey. He'd had a LOT of morphine. But he knew me and was not frightened. And the hour passed with me in the waiting room trying to figure out how to use the phone. And then using it. And calling loved ones, including some other medical cousins who were ready to rally troops if anything was needed.

And beloved son and brand spanking new daughter-in-law scrubbed their honeymoon plans and got on the highway north. They're sleeping upstairs as I type.

And the prognosis is good for my own darling Himself. He will be moved into a regular room today. He'll be walking. He'll likely come home on Christmas eve - and yes. we will have a tree.
Life is good - especially when it is your loved one and it's spared.

So now it's time to talk about me. emoticon and my eating emoticon
Interestingly, I was never really very hungry. I also didn't drink any water. When I go back today I will take water with me because I can NOT drink city water with it's essence of Chlorine, making my mouth turn down in distaste whenever I walk past a water fountain. I had no coffee. I didn't eat anything at all till well into the afternoon, after I'd tucked Himself in bed after lunch. By then, though, adrenaline was mostly what was keeping me going - and that meant I craved sugar. S U G A R. - well - and starch. So I stopped at the good grocery store that's on the way home - the one with the sushi chef - and picked up some California rolls. But what I wanted was gooey sugar. I wanted something rich; something that spoke Mama Loves You. I didn't want a package of 12 something gooey sugary mama-loves-you. I just wanted one. Neither did I want something ordinary - no Oreos for me. I poked about the store looking for a single item - but in all the time I hung in front of the bakery counter, not a single employee offered to help me.

Now - ordinarily I would call this bad customer service. but the truth is - gooeysugarmama-loves-you food was probably the WORST thing I could put into my system right then. The crash that would follow would be exhausting. so the Healthy Eating Fairy must have been fluttering around keeping all the bakery staff away. emoticon

I contented myself with the promise of getting ice cream at Food Lion when I got back to my own little rural town. Which I did. And I ate. But only 1 cup of reduced fat stuff. Not enough to wrench my blood system out of whack. I did flutter about the rest of the day - called Himself a couple of times. Called family members. Cleaned the house. Petted the dogs. took a hot bath. I was in bed by 10 o'clock after a most exhausting day. I was asleep by 10:01. I never even heard the kids when they got in.

And so. And so our holiday plans have shifted a good bit - but in the long run - they are improved. If this heart attack was on its way (and it was) I'm glad it happened the way it did - with lots of fast care ready to step up and fix things. Nothing could more swiftly take me out of the food indulgence mood than watching a loved one have a heart attack - hearing about his clogged artery, knowing that egg nog, standing rib roast and chocolate mouse are probably not going to help any of us. 100% of the men in my husband's family have some form of heart disease - and since I have a son - I really don't need to help his heart clog up either, with heavy foods - even Just For The Day.

The Haile family has been truly blessed - even the poor patient - because we dodged this particular bullet and I think we'll better armed against any others lurking up ahead.

Hug your loved ones close today. Put aside petty issues. Settle the big ones. Know that - beyond anything else in your life - loved ones are the most precious of all.

And here is a hug from me too. emoticon

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GRAMPIAN 3/7/2014 6:15AM

  Good luck to you both.

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7WORSHIPS 1/26/2014 7:53AM

  emoticon I hope Himself has had a speedy recovery!

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VALVETA 1/8/2014 11:39AM

    Thanks for sharing. Reading your blog was comforting; it helped lift my spirits and hold me together.

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EFFRAYECHILDE 12/31/2013 12:18PM


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FRABBIT 12/30/2013 8:28PM

  So glad to hear your husband is on the mend. Great blog! And amazing service at Walmart!

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LINDAM.1 12/30/2013 12:34AM

  We have hospitals we will not go back to. Those we will drive further for. It makes a difference, feeling taken care of.

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HEALTHY4ME 12/27/2013 7:58AM

    HUGs and glad all went well. Thanks for the incentive too!

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CORNERKICK 12/27/2013 1:03AM

  Sending thoughts & prayers your way

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1DRWOMAN 12/26/2013 5:35PM

    wow! GREAT job!!! Glad the hubby is okay and you are on the rad to a healthier you! You did fantastic with thinking on your feet about your goals and your hubby's needs! You are Wonder woman! :)

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BAMAJAM 12/26/2013 3:53PM

  My best wishes for you and your husband. Thank you for this blog!
You are indeed a special person --- in the midst of such emergency, your thoughtfulness in wanting to recognize the helpful service of the Wal-Mart employee, truly touched me! Amazing gratitude you have shown; you are a rare Gem!

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CHRISTIECAT 12/26/2013 11:37AM

    just had a chance to read this and am glad that he is home too now! Prayers for his recovery and future good health for the entire family!

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BAPSANN 12/26/2013 11:37AM

  Blessings from above!

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ILOVEROSES 12/26/2013 8:09AM

    Lovely blog. emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEMT 12/25/2013 8:11PM

    Hope Himself has a speedy recovery! Enjoy the rest of the holidays!

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ANGELN325 12/25/2013 9:24AM

    So true and Amen. Life is the most precious gift we are given. The older I get. The more I realize it and it can't be wasted.

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NORASPAT 12/24/2013 11:46PM

    What a great blog, you are such a writer for certain. My DH was doing a stress test when they stopped it and sent him to a city 60 miles away and I had to follow the ambulance. I got lost but I was able to stay calm. Not nearly as organized as you were but the outcome happily was the same for my DH. Thanks for posting. You did everything right. Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUNSOY 12/24/2013 9:50PM

    Gods' Blessings to you, I've been there myself at the age of 36. I am now 48 and smile to know that my better half was there for me as I know your spouse was glad you were there for him. Merry Christmas and many, many more. I hope that his health will improve quickly

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SUPERDAD55 12/24/2013 7:53PM

What an inspiring blog,
Hope your DH is continuing to improve.
God bless you both, His gardian angel worked overtime to protect you both.
What a wonderful family you have raised, and sounds like your son has a great wife at his side. May they comfort and bless you with their love to you.
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NESHAMA123 12/24/2013 1:51PM

    Wow. Sending healing thoughts and wishes.

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BABYSTEPS123 12/24/2013 12:56PM

    Thanks for sharing. Sure puts everything in perspective! Prayers for your family, and best wishes celebrating LIFE!

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MRSRIGS1 12/24/2013 12:47PM

    I am praying, your hubby has a speedy and full recovery. You handled a difficult situation with the most courage I've ever heard of. emoticon

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RENATA144 12/24/2013 10:48AM

  May God continue to Bless you & your's this holiday season & all year long !!! emoticon
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CAROLDIKES 12/24/2013 8:00AM

  What a lovely blog. Loved reading this, and love the way you write.

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NEWTINK 12/24/2013 6:57AM

    I am so happy that your DH is doing better emoticon Wishing you and yours a magical and blessed Christmas emoticon

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CFMOSS 12/24/2013 6:43AM

    Thank you. Appreciate you sharing the positives and blessings in the midst of crisis. I needed that this morning. Helps me pick up and go on. Merry Christmas to you.

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BANNERMAN 12/24/2013 1:57AM

  Blessings to you and Himself.

Thanks for sharing.

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MSLZZY 12/23/2013 11:56PM

    Featured member blog! WOOHOO!

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LOOKY-LOU 12/23/2013 11:42PM

    Wow, I know nothing about you, but I cried reading your post, and was AMAZED with the size of your heart!

You are an amazing person! Your optimism and kind words make this a better world.

I wish your husband a speedy recovery.

Merry Christmas, and may 2014 be filled with good health and happiness for you and yours!

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BONIFIANT 12/23/2013 10:34PM

    Sounds as though you handled the crisis like a pro. Good for you. I am praying that your husband will be home for Christmas and will experience a speedy recovery.

Have a Blessed Holiday!

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LIVELYGIRL2 12/23/2013 10:24PM

  Thank God he is going to br alright. I hope he gets tronger and doesn't have any more trouble. Maybe you'd you'd be intersted in Doctor Dean Ornish's diet ( since this is a repeat situation).

Ow , really makes you apreciate what you do have. Keep us posted. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JUSGETTENBY42 12/23/2013 9:37PM


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ROCKYCPA 12/23/2013 9:36PM

    Sending prayers your way and hoping your holiday has all the family together!

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JNEWBS 12/23/2013 9:23PM

    Loved this and prayers for you and yours today. Merry Christmas.

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CAPETERSON 12/23/2013 9:18PM

    Thank you for your so very real post; may all continue to go well for you and your husband, son and daughter-in-law. I am glad that everything worked out for your husband and the whole family!

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Sending Prayers/Good Thoughts your way.
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LOVE the Health Eating Fairy idea ! emoticon


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JAMER123 12/23/2013 8:01PM

    emoticon for sharing such a personal day with us. You may have saved a life with your blog. I am an ER RN and know that time is of essence with anyone having chest pain. Do not ignore the symptoms!! You life can depend on your judgement!
God bless you and your family as you celebrate life through Christmas time.
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CICELY360 12/23/2013 7:59PM

  good blog

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GRLTAZ 12/23/2013 7:43PM

    Thanking God for miracles. Bless you.

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REMAREIS 12/23/2013 7:35PM

  Glad everything is going well emoticon

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MJ7DM33 12/23/2013 7:30PM

  I'm glad everything worked out for the good! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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RURAL3 12/23/2013 7:02PM

    Glad to hear that it is going better. Merry Christmas to you all! emoticon

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HDHAWK 12/23/2013 6:20PM

    We have heart disease in our family and I'm on many meds for this. As I get older I realize more and more that losing weight isn't mostly about looking good, but about being healthy and being able to spend time with our loved ones. I'm so glad everything turned out the way it did. What a lovely employee that helped you with the phone. She deserves to be recognized. Have a Merry Christmas!

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GRAYGRANNY 12/23/2013 4:54PM

    Sweetheart.................all I can say is............. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon and prayers for all

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PATRICIAANN46 12/23/2013 4:20PM

  What a heartfelt blog (pun intended)!!! I am so glad that all went well for your husband and for you. And you are right, you have so much to be Thankful for. You have also given us such good advice. We never know what is going to happen next, so tell your loved ones how much you love them and appreciate what you have NOW!!!
I wish you a Merry Christmas and a very Healthy New Year to you and your husband.

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THOMS1 12/23/2013 3:36PM

    Glad your husband dodged the bullet and is on the mend. I wish you a wonderful Christmas and a better New Years. emoticon

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