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Learning from our mistakes

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Thursday, December 19, 2013

I posted a blog a few days ago that incorporated this graphic:


Another Sparker, Sheltie2013, made this comment on my blog: "The little humps in the road make for an interesting life and equip us to deal with trouble!!!"

That is SO TRUE!! I also believe the mistakes we make in life (those that we so often feel guilty about and kick ourselves about) are what build our character and make us more loving, understanding and non-judgmental people! And the lesson from THAT is QUIT kicking ourselves - learn the lesson of our mistakes and move forward!!

I believe this is especially true on our weight loss journey - WHY are we so much harder on ourselves than on our friends? I believe the more we love and accept ourselves (mistakes, imperfections and all) the easier weight loss is. When you love someone, you treat them with respect and kindness. You VALUE them!! And when they make a mistake you help them forgive themselves and get right back on track with life!!

This time of the year (the holiday season - in my world it starts with Halloween and ends after New Years Day) is fraught with opportunities - opportunities to eat mindfully and opportunities to eat special foods that we know may make the scales go up tomorrow morning. Choosing the second one doesn't make you bad or weak or anything else. The important thing is what you do AFTERWARDS!

If, like me, you have been eating mostly healthy whole foods and have done away with food cravings, be aware that those cravings MAY sneak back the next day. This will be even more likely to happen if you eat off plan foods multiple times/days. Don't let the holidays blow your weight loss/maintenance success! If you find you are kicking yourself about your choices, STOP! If you feel the food enjoyment wasn't worth the outcome, resolve to make a different choice the next time. But DO NOT get down on yourself!! If weight loss/maintenance was easy we wouldn't be here!! Its NOT, but it is SO worth the effort.

A recent Beck quote suggested a different way to approach all those holiday goodies that surround us at this time of the year. Instead of stuffing in four of those delicious homemade cookies how about SAVORING one? Eat it slowly, savoring each bite. Picture this - you are standing in your mother's (aunt's, daughter's, friend's) kitchen and you are talking to her as take a little bite, SAVOR it, and tell her how wonderful it is! Then go on to other topics - TALK to her, find out what she has been up to lately, COMMUNICATE!! Isn't that what the holidays are really about? Friends, family, fun?? Food will be there, but move it down the list of things you love about the holidays, ok?

If she urges another cookie on you (or suggests you take some home) just say "no thank you"! That is enough for the offer of another cookie, but to the offer of taking them home? You might say "That one was wonderful but.... How you continue will depend on you and your relationship to the hostess (and what you are comfortable with). With my daughter I'll just say 'but my skinny jeans are fitting just right and I want to keep it that way.' To someone I don't know as well I might say "Thank you, but we already have too many goodies at home."

How about practicing some answers now so you will be ready? Because if this hasn't already happened to you it probably WILL happen. And learning how to say no to food that is pushed on us is a necessary learning experience to those of us who LOVE food!!

And if you totally blow it? MOVE on! Remember you LOVE and VALUE yourself!! NOT just when you are perfect - NO ONE is perfect!! You don't expect your sister or your best friend to be perfect do you? If there is a lesson to be learned from the experience, learn it then move on!! And pat yourself on the back for not letting one day destroy your resolve to be healthy and fit!!



Oh yes - one more thing to think about as you go forward (this graphic deserves a blog of its own but that can wait until 2014 - for now just think about it):

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LORIVIOLA 5/14/2014 9:49PM

    this is wonderful.
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WHYTEBROWN 3/16/2014 3:48PM

    emoticon This is a really emoticon blog!!

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NASFKAB 3/12/2014 5:11AM

  awesome thought provoking blog loved it

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    AWESOME BLOG. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.

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ICANDOIT1220 2/8/2014 12:29PM

    Thanks for sharing your insights --- you said exactly what I needed to hear as I go into a new week. Last week was better than the week before, but I have still been feeling discouraged about some weight gain and wondering if I have what it takes to get back to where I was a year and 1/2 ago. THANK YOU!!

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LAINYC 2/1/2014 2:22PM

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KYOUNGS71 2/1/2014 9:24AM

    Wow, thank you for putting into words something I have been struggling with. Lately I've been noticing that when I have a "treat" (for me it's Reese's peanut butter cups) I don't even enjoy it because I eat it while I'm doing something else. It goes by so fast that I don't even notice the taste or anything else. Mindfulness in what we do is so important.

Practice is good advice, too. We are better equipped to handle what's thrown at us when we prepare for it.

Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom!

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PIGGYWAY 1/31/2014 10:58PM

  I`M LEARNING FROM MINE

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NEWTINK 1/31/2014 4:52PM

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PORTIAWILLIS 1/31/2014 12:53PM

    Wow what perfect timing for me. I recently lost a few pounds and have been eating some of the foods I know are triggers for me. The first time or two it was ok . Yesterday I was completely off plan. I ate almost nothing and what I did eat did not satisfy me. I started telling myself " ok here I go again. I'm wasting my time trying". Instead I should have planned out something that I really enjoy instead of eating to eat. I was way under my calories but did not get the nutrition I needed. Moral of this story? It would have been easy to just quit but after reading your post I really rethought what I was doing . Thanks for caring enough to share your thought and success

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SUPERSYLPH 1/31/2014 12:28PM

    Thank you for sharing this great blog!

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PLIDC1 1/31/2014 9:52AM

    Life is a mastery program--if I don't learn the lesson this time around, it will be repeated until I master it.
thanks for the encouraging blog!

Much success to you!

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RANNYJ 1/31/2014 9:28AM

    Such a great post. I have learned that Bagels in the morning will set my cravings off during the day!

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SPARKBJOK 1/31/2014 9:22AM

    Well said!

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LHRYCAK1 1/31/2014 8:47AM

  Perfect timing. Yesterday I felt out of control with bad food choices and I had hurt my neck so I didn't work out as hard as I usually do at the gym. so I was really feeling crummy about my self. But your right we can't beat our selves up every time we make a bad choice. It's like falling off your bike. You pick yourself back up and get back on. Today is a new day.
It is a struggle to keep the balancing act going, but as along as recognize when we've gotten off balance and we do what we need to do to readjust. then we don't need to beat ourselves up every time. We didn't get here over night, so we not going to reach our goal over night. It's one day at a time. We can do it!!

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DANIEL571 1/31/2014 8:26AM

    The blog was very good and I appreciate you writing on this subject. Like all of us, I have regretted mistakes, but I am learning from them. I find the most important thing for me to do is do something that has become less popular over the past few decades in America and the world, and that is to turn to Jesus, with my mistakes. He forgives, chastises, and leads us on. I am coming to realize my only worth and righteousness is in Him, but I need to use my talents for Him. The most important thing in my life is that I am a child of the King of kings, and not a chemical engineer or teacher or piano player or poem writer, all of what I have done. I use these talents for His glory. His Bible is full of people how have made mistakes, from David to Samson, to a prostitute, and He redeemed them, when they turned to Him. Yes, Jesus is rather unpopular in America, compared to the earlier years of America, but He still rules and reigns, and Jesus is the key to life , and learning from our mistakes and recovering from them. Read His Word and you will discover this.

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EBONYSOL 1/31/2014 8:09AM

    I tell myself I can start my day over at any time so for example if I eat too much at a luncheon I make sure I don't use it as an excuse to eat junk for the rest of the day. I start my day over and eat healthy for the rest of the day.

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STEPHLOKI 1/31/2014 3:22AM

    Thanks I needed this talking to especially about not beating yourself up.... My behind should be constantly sore from it....
Anyway thanks also for reminding me of the trick of savoring your treats in small doses and then firmly not bringing more into your house.

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BETRHO48 1/30/2014 11:51PM

    LOVE this blog! What an accurate picture of success.

And a picture is worth a thousand words (especially to me).

Thanks for putting this message together in this way.

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CLAYARTIST 1/30/2014 11:15PM

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NORASPAT 1/30/2014 10:56PM

    You go girl !!! emoticon emoticon

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MARAGRAM 1/30/2014 10:22PM

    wow! You said it!

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JSEATTLE 1/30/2014 8:05PM

  I love the Chinese proverb about failure. Thank you for your thoughtful post.

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ELIZACG9 1/30/2014 7:35PM

    emoticon your on fire......so true, I am still going in circles and circles trying to succeed....
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JIBBIE49 1/30/2014 6:53PM

    Week of 01/30/2014 - Featured Blog Post

Learning From Our Mistakes
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Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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SANDRAMERCHANT 1/30/2014 6:12PM

  After spending hundreds of dollars (or more) on books, videos, special supplements, and guided programs I learned that mpler is better. I now focus on quality rather than quantity in my foods, and I don't deprive myself. Instead, I savor small quantities of excellent "special" foods, and I always enjoy them in a nice setting and served on my nicest dishes. No wolfing things down standing or on the go. And with my health issues, better health and fitness is just a walk in the park away--or the mall, neighborhood, wherever I can squeeze one in. No need for a stairmaster. I just take the stairs whenever I get the chance, or climb up and down and step stool cleaning out and organizing cupboards and closets. In other words, I do what our mothers did.

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DELLMEL 1/30/2014 5:47PM

  Love the blog.

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JAKESBIGSIS 1/30/2014 4:15PM

    Absolutely loved this!!! Thank you for sharing!! =)

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CAROLJ35 1/30/2014 3:14PM

    Just what I needed to hear! Very well said!!!

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PATRICIAANN46 1/30/2014 3:08PM

  So very emoticon emoticon for the great advice.

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ADAMG23 1/30/2014 2:59PM

  Awesome entry

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DIEGOGAL1 1/30/2014 2:51PM

    Very well said.

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LEMONMOUSE 1/30/2014 2:48PM

    So true. Thanks for sharing

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RODYANNE 1/30/2014 2:43PM

  Great blog.


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JENLMCC 1/30/2014 2:27PM

    I love your inspiration to everyone! You said it right!

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SCOTTYPAL 1/30/2014 2:25PM

    A very positive blog. Thank you for sharing. I've been trying to think more positive. If I make a meal mistake I that next mouthful has to be on program and not wait for the next day.

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XPRETTYLIKEFIRE 1/30/2014 2:25PM

    This blog is one of the best I have ever read, thank you for the inspiration and reassurance we all need to hear sometimes!

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    emoticon emoticon Great Blog.

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MAREE1953 1/30/2014 1:54PM

    Yaaaay you! Great blog! One trick I use when asked to "have another" is to take it home, and freeze in small portions. Knowing that I can have a treat, just not right now is a help to me.

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AJNEWBEGINNINGS 1/30/2014 1:42PM

  Thank you. These are things that I really need. Not only for myself but also for my family and friends.
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TUBLADY 1/30/2014 1:22PM

    I might be reading this a month later, but noticed you posted on Dec.. 19, 2013. happens to be my birthday. Turned 72. And If I hadn't got control of my eating habits and knew I loved myself enough to take control I wouldn't be here today.
Somedays I long to let go and eat some junk food. But I talk myself out of it. When I do indulge in one of my occasional foods, I savor each bite , really taste it. I enjoy my food. Don't gobble it down like I;ll never eat again.
Sometimes what you can't have , makes it more special when you do have a little.
I have found out it's balance in all aspects of life that make life good.
Take care.
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FRABBIT 1/30/2014 1:14PM

  Very inspiring!

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GARIANNA1 1/30/2014 1:04PM

  Isn't this a great topic for all of us.

We are human and we do make mistakes but the thing we all are learning is...we are human beings and sometimes it will and definitely does happen to all of us.

As they say pick yourself up an dust yourself off and start Day #1 again!

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VMMUNICORN 1/30/2014 10:36AM

  Thank you so much. This is awesome. I so needed to read this, this morning. emoticon
Progress not perfection. What can I learn? How can I make different choices? I can start over. Today - If I had that something to eat. I am done with that Item today. I can have it again tomorrow. emoticon emoticon

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PROPMAN1 1/30/2014 9:32AM

  This arrived at the right time! Thank you very much. emoticon emoticon

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 1/30/2014 9:18AM

    So true, thank you for sharing!

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MACANBEFIT 1/30/2014 9:13AM

    This amazing blog arrived in my inbox at just the right moment. I have been on a feeding frenzy for the past several days. I know I'm not eating right and strive to eat healthy meals, but still find myself rummaging through the pantry looking for food. I can't even say that the food tastes good, because at some point I burned my tongue and the taste buds are out of wack. I have set myself to be more mindful of what I eat, how I feel, and what I am doing with the hopes this binge is over.
Thank you again for your post.

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CRAFTY1960 1/30/2014 9:11AM

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HOTDEENOW 1/30/2014 9:01AM

    Awesome blog! Thanks for sharing :)

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REDHATSHAPELY1 1/30/2014 9:01AM

    Marilyn, Thanks for the fantastic blog. I am reading it at the perfect time, as I am having lunch
today at a Waffle House with an overweight friend. I will be sure to check out the menu in advance so I can make smart choices.

You are so right that veering off course can happen at anytime. This long winter has been a real
challenge to me. So many food commercials on TV! And it seems like bathing suit season is
such a long way off!

Hope you are learning how not to beat yourself up. Sometimes when I am tempted to do that I try to think back to when I was learning major life skills like reading, driving, or using a computer. I had to make a lot of mistakes in the process because I was learning something totally new. And learning a healthy lifestyle definitely requires a full toolbox of skills.
I have to remember that I desire a life that is contrary to the norm of our society that promotes being sedentary,
pigging out all the time, and making fun of people who do practice healthy ways.
So I must focus on it everyday. It really helps me a lot to have some Spark time
in the morning to get me headed in the right direction.

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