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Saturday, December 14, 2013

1) It's OK to be behind the scenes
Lately I have felt quieter and more withdrawn, more private and less sociable (if that is possible). I feel more comfortable out of the spotlight and when doing things behind the scenes (except for line dancing and then it seems I always end up front and center and seem to like it that way!). But, when a person is in a supportive capacity, they often get no recognition and appreciation. They have much delegated to them and no one to delegate to. They're never the star, never in charge, usually deferring to others who may or may not be competent. This can be frustrating, especially for someone that craves appreciation. But, I am getting over it. Not every one can be in charge, can play first fiddle, can be on the stage, can be the scoring player...............It does take a lot of other people that work very hard with no glory. I'm starting to realize that this is the norm for many people. They are dedicated and must get a sense of "value" from their recognition and awareness that they are doing something worthwhile. I will let others have the worldly fame, glory, and power.

2) It's OK to have wrinkles
Granted, I am trying to fight them with good skin care and healthy foods. HOWEVER,
I think the horse is out of the barn on this one! I don't have sagging and bagging, but
I do have wrinkles...... Sometimes I just feel like walking around with a bag over my head....
(with holes poked in for eyes and nose). I have heard younger people say that they don't care if they get wrinkled and they will just see them as badges of honor. Well, to them I say.....that's easy for you to sweet, young thing! There are some prominent personalities that do have wrinkles and look rather pretty......Jane Seymour, Helen Mirren,
and Meryl Streep. I guess they're kind of in the "grand dame" range. But, I can't really pull that off usually because I always look like the girl next door, or more accurately, the
mother or grandmother next door. Homespun & natural when you're younger kind of works into frumpy and dumpy when you're older. And being not frumpy and dumpy seems to take money that I refuse to spend........I think......maybe.....stay tuned !!

3) Gratitude is the best attitude
Even though I have some "issues", I recognize how very blessed I am.
I have my health. I have my husband and we get along well. I have my family.
I have enough money to meet my basic needs and more. I have enough money to be able to be generous to others.

4) Self-acceptance is essential and comparing ourselves to others is damaging
I am who I am. I don't need fixing or improvement. My real self, my real identity is what it needs to be. I can follow my intuition, step by step, to lead my life as the me that I'm meant to be. No one else can be me. We are all unique.
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

KALIGIRL 12/16/2013 9:44AM

    Gratitude is the best attitude! emoticon

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VONBLACKBIRD 12/15/2013 5:20PM

    This is terrific and loved it all. thanks for sharing.

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BIGPAWSUP 12/15/2013 3:58PM

    Enjoy what you can.

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WATERMELLEN 12/15/2013 10:27AM

Good Spark Friend DDORN put me on to this youtube about the value of being alone -- must say, I do enjoy and crave alone time, can get totally "peopled out" if I don't have it. However, that's not quite the same thing as feeling unappreciated or borderline frumpy/dumpy, I sure do get that, part of my ammunition is that silly vanity and playing with clothes (nope, not expensive . . . kind of a hobby with items acquired at thrift stores, hand-me-downs and so forth).

I think that Cajun and "Canadian" and "Acadian" are all coming from the same linguistic place!

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CHRISTASP 12/15/2013 8:27AM

    I think it's better to be wrinkled and natural than to have a smooth face but thanks to surgery or botox.
In the US it is much more accepted for women to have surgery and use other methods to appear younger. Here, that would be considered weird and vain by most women - or, that's my idea. I think that it's a sign of honesty to be who, and as, you are: wrinkles, grey hairs, and all.

I may sound naive but I do feel that true beauty comes from within. And older women are supposed to look like they are older. I'd hate to live in a world where it becomes the norm to force the body to appear younger.

I'd rather spend the money for surgery and botox on qi gong and yoga classes and excellent healthy foods so I will look young because I am FIT and RELAXED!

I haven't seen your pic but I KNOW you have inner beauty! Let it shine my friend!

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GENRE009 12/15/2013 1:32AM

    Nice blog. But I hate my wrinkles! There is no cream out there, I have tried them all. now I won't try one unless they are guaranteed. I hate when they say it takes away wrinkles, and you paid $149.00,good thing it was guaranteed. I'm almost glad it failed, cause I couldn't afford it. I just wanted to see how dishonest they were.eva

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LIVINGFREE19 12/14/2013 11:59PM

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EDENFELL 12/14/2013 11:31PM

    #4 is my favorite. It is so easy to forget that. Thanks for the reminder. emoticon

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STONE815 12/14/2013 9:56PM

    Sometimes it's nice to let others run the show, but we all have our glory days. I am very grateful for my health, family, friends and having enough money to enjoy my life.

I hope my winkles come from smiling and being happy. I wouldn't mind a few less but life is still good.

You seem to have a good attitude and a grateful heart for all the good things that matter. I wish you the best.


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DOVESEYES 12/14/2013 8:57PM

    Loved this blog, I feel like you are talking about me :) thanks

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TRESSWANN 12/14/2013 4:58PM

    I hate wrinkles. Appreciated your blog

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RHYMESWITHBABY 12/14/2013 4:31PM

    Well, I don't think I've seen a photo of you so I can't give you any honest assessment of how your perception of yourself fares against what others see. But I find myself really connecting in a personal way with your blog and status. For me, my mom does everything -- and I mean every cosmetic procedure short of a facelift -- to fight aging and wrinkles. So my dilemma is, I hate wrinkles as much as the next person (well, maybe not as much as you, but close emoticon ) but there is no way I am going to let myself become like my mom. So that means I have to find a way to live with my wrinkles as they get worse and worse. I can't say I'm looking forward to that.

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