Saturday, December 14, 2013
I succumbed to the urge to buy perfunctory gifts. I feel bad about that. Are the daughters' boyfriends who I barely know going to enjoy the $25 gift cards to GNC? Blech. I'm glad the hard part is over. Gifts are shippped, cards are sent. My daughter and I did enjoy trimming the tree. We're also planning to go ice skating. I found a Living Social deal for a local rink. I bought two to bring my other daughter and her boyfriend. It sounds like there's another reason he won't be able to celebrate with us this year. They've been together for about 3 years and I've met him probably 3 times, usually in a parking lot when I'm dropping or picking her up. Oh well, I'll continue to extend invitations.
I got a little overwhelmed this year over the gift giving. It's the worst part of the holiday for me and therefore, I think we should stop it. I like the idea of re-writing the rules of engagement for the holidays. Perfunctory gift giving sucks!
I would rather do something WITH them, like ice skating, sledding, go see the Nutcracker, have a meal together, watch some holiday flicks, play some holiday games, volunteer at a soup kitchen, run a 5k together. I'm not very creative and I came up with a decent list of experiences. It was far easier than coming up with material things to BUY for them. Does anyone else already share experiences instead of gift giving? If so, please share your suggestions of experiences. I think they are a fine substitution to gifts. They are infinitely more thoughtful and memorable.
Stay positive. If you're stressed out over the holiday to-do's, slow down and think about why you are doing it all. Does it make you or someone else happy? Are you able to gauge that happiness? Maybe you don't need to do it all. What would happen if you didn't? What would happen if you asked for help? It is possible to have a stress free holiday. We just need to step back and think about what we are doing and find easier, simpler ways to be and make others happy.